No one is "defending" it, people are only pointing out that it isn't an issue in the so called "provided" examples such as RE village, godfall etc. especially when you have a select couple making it out like it's an issue in "loads" of games when as evidenced by the so called "defenders", it's not.
And no one is ignoring/dismissing about heavily modded games either, heck I even posted a video showing where you have a 100% genuine vram limitation via mods i.e. cp 2077 with "several" 4-8k texture packs, I don't mod games as much nowadays or rather newer games out there aren't as good/fun to mod but never encountered any issues with skyrim or fallout modded fairly heavily but YMMV if you're using other/more mods.
As already noted by several people, in 3-5 years, everyone on the current gen gpus are going to be dropping settings anyway or/and using higher presets of dlss/fsr (especially at 4k) due to lack of grunt, which in return is also going to drop vram usage.
