All FE cards I have ever had to deal with whine and I'm talking about over 35 of them here, 28 3090 fe's (for work workstations they were in pairs NVLINKed) they all whined to a point and some worse than others and some we sent back to be replaced they were that bad but new ones were either a bit better or worse, 3080 FE my workmate has whines too but he can't hear it where minute it went into a game with high fps it whined loud to me and also the 3080 ti Fe at my friends again whines and he can hear it but doesn't annoy him as he uses speakers when gaming and pretty loud he plays it.
I don't think it comes down to a lottery, I think comes down to how bad it really is and how good the eharing is of the owner. Whine annoys the hell out of me and electrical noise and high pitched sounds from electrical devices. I can even hear the whine of phone chargers sometimes from a long distance away from the wall socket. So depends on you too.
Just be happy you din't get one with grinding fans as they are the best ones in the FE range. A good few of the 3090s we sent back for replacements also had fans that rattled or made grinding noises, in the end we replaced all the 3090s in the workstations with blower aib cards and regular 3 fan aibs for the workstations as we got fed up of the 3090fes and their headaches from temp problems to whine to fans.