Soldato
I love where this thread has gone
Which is true?
As for your original question, I think you weren't that nasty. You said you were amazed, not that you were malicious. Your wife, however, was malicious. So she was nastier than you were. Whether or not that bothers you is your business (and it seems that it doesn't).
I wouldn't have been amazed. Many people don't want to learn new things, especially when they have someone else to do it for them. Or maybe it pleases your wife to do this sort of thing for her brother. Maybe he knows that and asks her even though he knows how to do it himself.
6 in Chinese!
It's kind of like the condition "learned helplessness" (not strictly but kinda...).
This is why instead of fixing pc problems for family I direct them to teach themselves.
It's mental laziness most of the time, they don't want to expend mental energy to learn how to google bus fares etc and just play dumb so someone else will do it for them. Obviously this is not always the case but I find it is a lot of the time....
Yup, looking up a train time doesn't require intelligence, who can't turn on a computer, open the browser and type in exactly what they want. Want a train ticket you search for train tickets in google. It's not that they can't do it, it's that because they've never done it, because someone always does it for them they've either never felt the need to do it for themselves or have asked someone else for so long they are scared to do it themselves.
The saying should be give a man a fish, he'll never realise he can learn to fish for himself and he'll ask you for a fish every day unless you say no, teach a man to fish, that man won't bug the **** out of you for the rest of your life.
Wife is either an enabler type who just won't say no and lets herself be used or is the superior type, as in, the more people ask her for help even over simple things the more of the 'smart one' status she gains in her family and the more superior she can feel.
I don't see anything wrong with this. It's your wife's brother.
Usually siblings should be able to work out who is better at doing certain tasks best and usually they have no problems taking them on because they are family.
I mean if I told my brother to make me a sandwich he'd know I'm not serious, if I told my sister I'm hungry she would make me something to eat without question.
Who on earth is a brother-in-law to get in the way of my sister doing something for me lol.
If my wife ever got in the way of me doing a favour for my brother/sister I'd tell her to mind her own business.
Yup, looking up a train time doesn't require intelligence, who can't turn on a computer, open the browser and type in exactly what they want. Want a train ticket you search for train tickets in google. It's not that they can't do it, it's that because they've never done it, because someone always does it for them they've either never felt the need to do it for themselves or have asked someone else for so long they are scared to do it themselves.
The saying should be give a man a fish, he'll never realise he can learn to fish for himself and he'll ask you for a fish every day unless you say no, teach a man to fish, that man won't bug the **** out of you for the rest of your life.
Wife is either an enabler type who just won't say no and lets herself be used or is the superior type, as in, the more people ask her for help even over simple things the more of the 'smart one' status she gains in her family and the more superior she can feel.
For someone who is married you sound like a newbie to dating!
Every man should know not to get involved in a womans business unless she asks or suspect shes cheating.
I would dream of calling my wife a C or other such names and I also wouldn't stand for her calling me them. It's just plain rude.
What happened to this thread, lol.
If some of you ever encountered a Northern Irish person you'd end up apoplectic over the use of the "C" word in every minor application.
Why are there so many trashy people in the UK, especially the teens, it beggars belief, why is that. It's suprising that we still operate at all.
Your wife knows you better than anyone here, and I'm sure she wasn't basing her personal assessment of you on this isolated exchange. If she says you're a nasty **** then you probably are.
Gee thanks String, it doesn't get any better than receiving a psycholigical assessment of one's personality, from someone who doesn't know you from Adam.
Not sure just how much of a nasty **** I am, but after 36 years together, twice having woken up in hospital, (once in an I.C.U.) to find her crying by my bedside, it's taking a long time to sink in with my wife.
Can you be sure she was crying before you woke up?