1080ti to a 3080 will be a massive uplift in performance. 4090 is double the 3080 at 4k. Witcher 3 RT version is poor on release but at least free. SOme games still cripple the best cards, particularly with RT on. RT is a nice to have but I think most people still weigh up their buying decisions around pure raster performance. Then there are some technologies you havent experiecned like DLSS. It was good on the 3000 series cards witth DLSS 2 and now 3 on the current gen. FSR works well on the AMD cards. I think you are right not going for either the 4080 or XTX. A 6900XT for £750 (were £650 before xmas) or a 2nd hand 3080 12GB, 3080ti, 3090 or 3090ti will all do 4k comfortably - no card can do RT well in W3, CP 2077 etc, maybe RT set too high or poorly implemented. I wouldn't base 1 games RT perf over a buying decision - understandably this maybe your fave game but the RT implementation is poor currently and Project Red that make both W3 & CP2077 released both games in a buggy state. W3 saving grace is that it's free.
My horror with a 4090 and Elden ring where the game is LOCKED to 60fps! In this day and age! LAst gen top cards will give you a massive boost well in your budget and on most games. RT is a nice to have but it still, in some games, brings any card to it's knees. DLSS does work well with a fettle of IQ.