I tried a Homehub 5 for a while, and found I had to reset it about every 2 weeks, where before my OR modem (with a Billion 7800N router) I honestly don't remember resetting. From my experience out of the box, VDSL stability (best to worst) is OR-Homehub5-Asus.
The whole DLM thing is confusing though, because like you as soon as I put my OR modem back I was instantly back to just about full speeds. My best possible speeds are 38/8 or thereabouts (according to BT diagnostics), and a few weeks with the Asus saw me down to about 30/5. If it was just DLM I wouldnt of thought I'd get back to normal so quick?
Also, with default settings, the DSL-AC68U started out at over 40 d/l, even though BT tests state that is beyond the max for my line.
This suggests to me that the DSL-AC68U is not detecting line conditions correctly in the way that my (3 years old) OR modem can, or even the more recent Homehub 5.
I'd recommend opening a support ticket with Asus, the more the merrier. It should just work - and it doesn't.