Can't believe I'm doing this...
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Not arsed really.. I was lucky with my ex though, she was a sex ed worker so wasn't bothered I'd look at porn!
In response to the OP.. She shouldn't have been digging around on your PC anyway, just tell her to get over it!
Soldato
had that happen to me in front of my mum lol.. my gf was sitting in front of my pc using mozilla i think and i don't ever use it.. or haven't for ages and it was just a backup browser for when something wont work on opera..
so she went on typing "you...." to the address bar and the first suggestion she clicked it.. guess what it was.. pron site.. lol. i couldn't even remember when i had it open or why x[ i dont actually like that site lol or liked more like..
anyway she just laughed and was ok with it.. my mum did the same thank god.
then again i have shared some pics on facebook of hot girls and she said she felt like i was cheating on her by sharing them pics - even tho it was my sites fan page with cars and girls.. x[ and it nearly got so far that she wanted to break up with me
now about you.. i think you should give her time.. i bet 99% she will chat with her gf's and see what they say.. they will probably say you're sick and stuff but every guy does that we are born this way so she just has to release.. no be clever prove her in one long text that you actually love her and she is really attractive to you, you can even lie i mean it isn't a bad lie you are trying to save the relationship so do it but do it properly don't go ever the top..
now women are very strange creatures trust me.. my gf for e.g. wanted to dump me because i played with my phone(haha) for 2hrs when she was at my place and she felt ignored.. talk about over reacting? yours seems to be overreacting too so give her time, think about it and put something very clever and very sweet into a text message and remove all of it and say sorry once again
it might work or it might not.. she seems chatty after all and likes to express her feelings towards things so its a plus.. mine for e.g just stops talking for a day or two..
best of luck mate i know how hard it can be :]
so she went on typing "you...." to the address bar and the first suggestion she clicked it.. guess what it was.. pron site.. lol. i couldn't even remember when i had it open or why x[ i dont actually like that site lol or liked more like..
anyway she just laughed and was ok with it.. my mum did the same thank god.
then again i have shared some pics on facebook of hot girls and she said she felt like i was cheating on her by sharing them pics - even tho it was my sites fan page with cars and girls.. x[ and it nearly got so far that she wanted to break up with me
now about you.. i think you should give her time.. i bet 99% she will chat with her gf's and see what they say.. they will probably say you're sick and stuff but every guy does that we are born this way so she just has to release.. no be clever prove her in one long text that you actually love her and she is really attractive to you, you can even lie i mean it isn't a bad lie you are trying to save the relationship so do it but do it properly don't go ever the top..
now women are very strange creatures trust me.. my gf for e.g. wanted to dump me because i played with my phone(haha) for 2hrs when she was at my place and she felt ignored.. talk about over reacting? yours seems to be overreacting too so give her time, think about it and put something very clever and very sweet into a text message and remove all of it and say sorry once again
it might work or it might not.. she seems chatty after all and likes to express her feelings towards things so its a plus.. mine for e.g just stops talking for a day or two..
best of luck mate i know how hard it can be :]
Soldato
I don't know of many men my age (early-mid 20s) who say they don't watch porn.
My guess is for 18-25 year olds:
90% admit to streaming filth on the internet
9.9% say they do not watch porn and really they stream the most vile/twisted porn and are ashamed to tell anyone that they jack off to a midget getting done up the bum by 7 ripped black men
0.1% are just plain wierd and genuinely don't watch porn.
My girlfriend knows I watch it. She tells me I am a dirty **** but I made it clear from day 1 that I watch it.
On a side note, it is very important to fart in front of your new girlfriend asap as the longer you leave it the more difficult it is to drop your guts under the covers without an arguement.
My guess is for 18-25 year olds:
90% admit to streaming filth on the internet
9.9% say they do not watch porn and really they stream the most vile/twisted porn and are ashamed to tell anyone that they jack off to a midget getting done up the bum by 7 ripped black men
0.1% are just plain wierd and genuinely don't watch porn.
My girlfriend knows I watch it. She tells me I am a dirty **** but I made it clear from day 1 that I watch it.
On a side note, it is very important to fart in front of your new girlfriend asap as the longer you leave it the more difficult it is to drop your guts under the covers without an arguement.
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Soldato
Absolutely this. She can get all kinds of great help there, and might actually thank you OP, for being an honest guy.
Do it.
Women like this are more trouble than they are worth.
The endless effort of trying to convince them otherwise becomes such a chore it ends up driving you insane.
Soldato
I'll give you two comments:
a) Chances are you'll get through the trust issues in time. I admit you may not, but I would imagine for more inexperienced women, trust may be more of an issue.
b) Some women react harshly to Porn. I'm not quite sure why. Actually, no, I do know why. To be fair though, I doubt it's a relationship breaker, and is more likely to be something that in time she'll acknowledge all men do.
kd
a) Chances are you'll get through the trust issues in time. I admit you may not, but I would imagine for more inexperienced women, trust may be more of an issue.
b) Some women react harshly to Porn. I'm not quite sure why. Actually, no, I do know why. To be fair though, I doubt it's a relationship breaker, and is more likely to be something that in time she'll acknowledge all men do.
kd
Soldato
Seriously? Your girlfriend of two year went through your computer and found a "forgotten" porn folder entitled Asian Girls?
Honestly -Tell her to get a grip! You've been with her for two years ffs!
Honestly -Tell her to get a grip! You've been with her for two years ffs!
Soldato
You need to tell her that she isn't perfect, non of us are, when we think that someone sees us as 'perfect' in their eyes, particularly in loving relationships what is actually happening is we are wholly accepting their imperfections, she needs to understand this.
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Soldato
Now that wont kill the relationship now will it?
Im sure they do but then there are also many feminists who hate porn and want it banned
And on the other hand there's also the lucky individuals who choose female partners that also enjoy watching porn with them - OP can only hope he is also amongst the chosen few.
OR... he could just tell her that she is perfect in his eyes and that these skanky Asian girls are just a temporary thing that he faps to, but none of them come close to her.
This wench is gonna have to be seriously gullible to buy that one dude.
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Soldato
OR... he could just tell her that she is perfect in his eyes and that these skanky Asian girls are just a temporary thing that he faps to, but none of them come close to her.
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Thankfully my wife knows all about my stash of asian woman porn
I can see why an immature insecure girl might find it distressing to find this when she is hunting through all folders on your pc seeking something you have been doing wrong.
She clearly has trust issues, and better than that went looking for another woman, and inly found porn, but still got just as distressed.
Better you dont hide it, if you look at porn, she needs to know, especially if she thinks that you should never do such a thing, now she knows. She will either accept you for the fapper you are, or move along and find a normal person who understands the concept of masturbation within a relationship.
As with everything in life, it is best not to hide such things, so it doesn't crop up years into marriage.
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why?
Man of Honour
That must've been some conversation.
"Hmm well I'm more of a red wine guy myself! By the way I do watch porn
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OP I know exactly how you feel... my ex-wide was a similar sort of woman (though she never gave **** all in the latter stages of our relationship). She felt she wasn't good enough and a ton of other stuff when the truth was if she actually gave me any sort of attention it would have helped to say the least.
Luckily though my current OH just accepts it for what it is... a fantasy nothing more nothing less. She knows I love her to bits and would never do anything to hurt her so life is good.
From the sounds of things I doubt your missus will ever "see the light" so to speak for which I am truly sorry for (since I was in a similar position) try to explain things in a way she can understand and if she doesn't want to understand then you can't make her
Stoner81.
Luckily though my current OH just accepts it for what it is... a fantasy nothing more nothing less. She knows I love her to bits and would never do anything to hurt her so life is good.
From the sounds of things I doubt your missus will ever "see the light" so to speak for which I am truly sorry for (since I was in a similar position) try to explain things in a way she can understand and if she doesn't want to understand then you can't make her
Stoner81.
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If she can't handle a porn folder you are probably better off without her. Your relationship probably has bigger problems already.
Soldato
They see it as exploitation, humiliation, degrading and an abuse of women perhaps, even though in most cases the models choose to do it.
They perhaps see it as cheapening the act of sex, since many women are more into romance and sex with a partner they love rather than sex for sex sake.
They take it as a sign that they must be inadequate, not stimulating/sexy enough to provide the partner with all the stimulus he needs if he has to watch porn.
More importantly, they might see porn as encouragement of rape. You know, like how video games are responsible for violence.
this.
Get the real reasons out of her, sounds as though she may be using it as an excuse to break up.
My girlfriend would probably laugh or get frisky if there was men in the pron.
Man of Honour
The most vocal anti-porn people are also feminists. It's feminism or religion, so in this country it's a good bet that anti-porn = feminism.
As for "most female porn stars are feminists", how would anyone know?
Are you defining "a feminist" as "any woman who I don't seriously disagree with"? Some feminists do, in order to inflate their numbers.