Can't believe I'm doing this...

Andelusion said:
The same happened with me, exact same feelings from her about the situation.

After a while, with lots of time spent discussing it, I think she started to understand that there's absolutely no emotional connection to most guys watching porn, it's just there as a tool.

She knows I watch it now and she isn't exactly fond of the idea but knows it's just something guys do.

If the tables were turned, I think I would initially feel jealous too, but we all know that porn's just something to wack away to.
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Just never mention it again. Even if she asks. I went through this with my missus, and although we agreed it was okay as long as I didn't have it in her face, she still gets upset by it. So if she asks if you watched porn today, the answer is no. Even though you obviously did. Use incognito tabs in chrome or firefox and don't download stuff. I occasionally notice things like "porn" autocomplete when I search for a file on my pc so I know she occasionally wonders if I still do. Women, they are crazy and will always "stumble" on things while "trying to do something nice for you". Men watch porn, women compare themselves to everything men watch. Obvious heartache ensues.
 
Andelusion said:
If the tables were turned, I think I would initially feel jealous too, but we all know that porn's just something to wack away to.
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half of them probably watched twilight just because that guy takes his top off...

its not really that different to someone watching porn
 
I have to say it doesn't bother me having my pc, mobile and so on, used or looked into by an other half. I'd hope that they'd realise that if anything slightly unsavoury was found that the date stamp would be checked and that they realise it's not there to cause harm or offence. I have nothing to hide anyway (well other than surprises or treats etc....) but for that I'm just a little more ingenious ;)

I know plenty of couples that use one another's pcs and phones without any trepidation or nerves as there's nothing on either that should cause a problem. I guess it does depend how comfortable you are with one another.
 
fadetoblack said:
Dump her it's only porn
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i dont get this bs from people? do you think it is as easy as "dump her" after 2 year relationship? seriously? cmon you will be single all your life with that in mind.. yes it is easy to say "uhhh look this girl isn't perfect or she might have some issues at the moment dump her this will teach her" wut? no sense made tbh..

talk with her and it will be ok.. trust me.. every relationship will have its ups and downs people just need to find a compromise and get over some stuff.. sounds simple? it isn't but you gotta work on it otherwise it won't last no matter who you date
 
Tell her you'll stop watching visual porn if she stops watching emotional porn in the form of all those chick flicks full of guys that meet all romantic ideals and know just the perfect thing to say at any moment. Traditional porn is more raw and upfront but lets face it, Twilight offers the girls what porn offers men: an unattainable ideal.
 
Sean, any updates? I've been following this thread with interest.

I'll probably come across as weird on here as I'll be the first guy to say that I don't like pr0n, but I do like girls in some clothes. I think it's the "less is more" attitude, leaving some of it to imagination.

I totally agree with you though Sean. She has over reacted. She can either accept that most men watch pr0n like over 9000 people have already written here as responses, or she can pack her bags. Hell, even get her to ask her female friends about attitude to pr0n. She'll be the laughing stock.
 
Can only echo what everybody else has said. She just needs to understand and accept that men are, shall we say, visually motivated. As long as it isn't replacing the sexual contact between the two of you then it's normal, healthy, bloke behavior.

My wife doesn't mind me looking at pr0n at all......unless I should have been doing chores instead :D

EDIT: Pro-Tip - tell her you were imagining her with those Asian chicks....she'll appreciate the fact she was involved :)
 
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We've been talking all morning but it only seems to be getting worse. Her biggest problem is that she hates the thought of me fantasizing about the women in the video I'd be watching while doing the deed... I've tried to explain that it means nothing, there is no attachment, nothing emotional, just stimulation. It's not worked.

She's told me that she feels "back at square one" and heartbroken. :s

Would also like to mention that I'm horrible with words/explaining my feelings. Like I know what I want to say in my head, but can't get it out, which is why I was asking for help in the first place. :( It's very possible that I've handled this wrong but most of what I've said to her has been similar to what's on here.
 
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