Do you charge your children "keep" or rent? Do/did you pay it yourself?

These are your words, unedited apart from removing the oh-so predictable Joker gif. I've bolded the points that stand out for me. You reduced your own argument.
Zefan said:
I never stayed with my parents outside of education apart from when I was waiting to join the military, which was a matter of a few weeks. I think, as a parent, I would ask sons to pay their way but not daughters.


For me it would be absolutely nothing to do with the financial/economical side and everything to do with the principle/opportunity to develop their - what should be - budding sense of personal responsibility.
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Zefan said:
Yes. Men and women are different, and I would parent as such.

:edit: I should clarify, I'm not sure about either. I don't think I would want to with a daughter, but for I son I'm less sure.
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Zefan said:
I think it's perfectly natural and likely very common to feel more protective of women than men.

I would not like to feel that a young woman I've brought in to the world and been responsible for suddenly has to make a decision between financial sacrifice and ensuring that she has a safe roof over her head. I wouldn't feel quite the same about a man. In addition, I think women tend to feel less negative emotion about being supported, so are able to accept that support more positively, whereas men tend not to, on average. I think as a result, women are less likely to be detrimentally impacted from being given that support than men. I also don't believe women need to be taught quite the same lessons as men at every stage in their lives.
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Zefan said:
It comes down to the fact that I simply reject that worldview.
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If your daughter ended up wanting a career, job, in front of a family. Would you be very disappointed?

I guess that's the more important thing. We both know we (yourself and me) have basically opposite views on this stuff. And that's fine, we are all different.

But that would be my question.
 
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My kids are still too young. But they tidy up, put the dishes away and keep the house neat.

When I still lived at home and earned a salary I used to give my parents money to cover my overheads and a bit more. It's the right thing to do IMO. They looked after me for 18+ years so I felt it was time for me to support them.
 
413x said:
If your daughter ended up wanting a career, job, in front of a family. Would you be very disappointed?

I guess that's the more important thing. We both know we (yourself and me) have basically opposite views on this stuff. And that's fine, we are all different.

But that would be my question.
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I think this is the crux of it..

Are you wanting your daughter to follow and stick to your world view, regardless of what she wants to do for herself?


I always say to my missus, it is not your job to look after your kids and protect them and make all the hard calls for them forever, you are not there to be their friend, you are there to give them the tools to prepare them for life when you arent around so they can cope on their own...
 
Roar87 said:
I was speaking in a more general sense at the derisory tone taken towards traditional gender roles, the general direction of "progressive" culture; which seems to be headed in the amalgamation of women and mens roles by attacking anything and anyone masculine and pushing every woman to be a "girl boss". There wasn't an attack on anyone in here.
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You need to stop watching the Whatever podcasts and the Fresh&Fit (or whatever its called) podcasts... They are rotting your brain.
 
GIBURROWS said:
You know what they are and realise the buzz words when spoken about them.
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I have come across them, yes. That's different from actively watching them... You do realise that, dont you? :confused:

Do you need to stop watching them then as you seem to "realise the buzz words" given I haven't mentioned what your so-called "buzz words" are.... Pray tell, what are these "buzz words" you mention?
 
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Richie said:
I have come across them, yes. That's different from actively watching them... You do realise that, dont you? :confused:

Do you need to stop watching them then as you seem to "realise the buzz words" given I haven't mentioned what your so-called "buzz words" are.... Pray tell, what are these "buzz words" you mention?
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Why did you edit your message?
 
GIBURROWS said:
Why did you edit your message?
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I hit reply again to yours (#254) by mistake instead of editing mine (#255) to add the 2nd sentence. When I realised, and to keep things succinct and in one post, I went back and "merged" them by editing the original and then "deleting" my 2nd post by writing "dp" in it (code for double post)

Now that this is cleared up - I await your answer to the question(s) I asked.
 
Richie said:
I have come across them, yes. That's different from actively watching them... You do realise that, dont you? :confused:

Do you need to stop watching them then as you seem to "realise the buzz words" given I haven't mentioned what your so-called "buzz words" are.... Pray tell, what are these "buzz words" you mention?
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Traditional gender roles "progressive" and "girl boss" would be the words most commenly used on those, I did stop watching all shows like that because they are basically scripted with the way they have their guests lined up.
 
i had to pay keep. i cannot remember exactly how much and when but it must have been while i was earning
i think i haggled over how much i would be paying :p but ultimately when i thought about it it was the done thing
i'll be making my son pay when/if they are earning and at home. even if i dont need the money i'd probably save it and use it to help them with the many bills life will throw at them later on.
it's all preparation for the real world
 
My parents back in the day of living at home charged me £200 per month once i got out of education and into a full time job, this was for bed, breakfast/evening meal/heating/lighting. I then moved out and rented for a few years before looking to buy. Low and behold the money I had paid them, they had stuck into a high intrest account and gave it back as a deposit.

Alex
 
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