Does anyone else have no friends?

Tefal said:
I like people (some peopel) but i prefer quieter pubs/nice bars where you can talk or dinners/evenings in.

Hearings a bit **** and i really cant dance (literally no sense of rythym with music) so going out to loud bars/clubs just equals me standing there feeling isolated in a crowd.

Cant talk, cant interact just stand there and drink.
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Same here, I have little interest in clubs nowadays. I much prefer pubs and bars where you can chat. Much easier to pull that way too.

Tefal said:
I was thinking about this recently.

Say i got ran over on the way home from work today and in a coma in hospital.

Pretty much none of my friends would know or be contacted/be able to contact my family.

Thye dont know my home number, my address my parents etc
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Always give your parents the names and numbers of your two closest friends, and give your closest friends your parents home number. That way if the worst happens both get to know about it.
 
FoxEye said:
What a load of clap. Seriously.
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People's attention span is ever shortening, people are on their phones even at home and socialising. Simply being able to ask Google a question or add up means I don't have to do it.
You can easily survive in a room now if you have the Internet.
Even in medicine the next big thing is going to be robotics within you.

I don't really know what people will be like in 100 years.
Hopefully more like exo Skeltons to allow paralysed people to walk etc. But it may well be easier to live in VR environments.

This is all not necessarily a bad thing. But I do see it. It may take a different track but it isn't too unbelievable surely?

I already see so many people who cannot hold an interesting conversation or have no hobbies. It's just too easy to go on fb etc at end of work. Instincts make us lazy as reduced effort is usually a benefit to organisms.
 
FurryLemon said:
Oh dear.

I have friends because I have social skills.
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That's not really how it works, plenty of sociable people who're incessantly annoying.

It's difficult now to have a conversation with someone that involves some critical thinking or to go against their opinion without them acting like a child.
 
Ayahuasca said:
That's not really how it works, plenty of sociable people who're incessantly annoying.

It's difficult now to have a conversation with someone that involves some critical thinking or to go against their opinion without them acting like a child.
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it's difficult to hold a conversation with anyone you dont get on with :eek: because you can tell within a few seconds if you like the person or not.

it's amazing how many people you meet that you've met before, they just have different faces that's all.........you start noticing this at 40, but nowadays unfortunately :(..........i never meet anybody that i haven't met before.

if you could live for 300 years you'd hate it, because you'd be bored out of your brains, because by the time you've reached 50 you've pretty much seen it all.............you become Apathetic and Cynical, the only excitement i get in life is going on holidays.
 
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Mal X said:
it's difficult to hold a conversation with anyone you dont get on with :eek: because you can tell within a few seconds if you like the person or not.

it's amazing how many people you meet that you've met before, they just have different faces that's all.........you start noticing this at 40, but nowadays unfortunately :(..........i never meet anybody that i haven't met before.
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You haven't met me :p
 
I can probably name my true friends on one hand.

I can name probably another two dozen that I could call up and go out with or organise something with if I made the effort.

Did that to myself partly though as I moved away from my Friends to be closer to work. But the area I'm in doesn't really have many people in my category.

Meh. As long as your happy it doesn't really matter. If not go join a club or something. :P
 
I only have few friends and most of the time I spend time alone, however I am a rather complicated person and enjoy doing a lot of things on my own.

I dumped all my girlfriends, I just need a lot of time for myself it seems.

It also is rather difficult making new friends. Well just life I guess.
 
I have no friends either, nobody I can ring up and go for a drink with.
However, I have over 650 'friends' on Facebook and every one have asked me to be their friend through my music.
Tomorrow night I'll be gigging and I won't have a second to myself because I'll be surrounded all night by people so you would think I'd be really popular.
if I was to die now a mate said it would probably be one of the biggest funerals Stoke has seen because of the amount of people I've entertained over the years but still I have nobody.
 
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regulus said:
That's one of my biggest bug bears as well. When out and a band is clearly just a bunch of apes screeching down a cheap microphone and everyone in the group sits there with dreamy eyes and bobbing heads pretending it's the best thing they've ever heard. I can almost bet you almost nobody likes the music but they enjoy the collective group delusion.

Bit like Glastonbury. You get 2-3 good bands that can clearly play (I may not even like the music but can appreciate their skill) whilst the rest is just a group of unwashed stoners hopping around a stage screeching nonsense - whilst the ecstatic crowds with waving mobile phones appears to be on the verge of an orgasm.

Don't mind groups or people but the constant lying to themselves to be liked by others or 'fit in' bores me to tears.
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AHarvey said:
Ok, this is going to be a little odd and sound a little Emo but..

Up until the age of 10 I had friends, but I was a book worm. I played out but was happier inside reading. Birthday parties were always mental as the whole school came round, used to go out on our BMX's etc.

In school I was part of the popular group, as well as the geeky people, had loads of friends, some good friends.

My wife and I got together at 15, and it is 20 years together next march, which means it's 17 years since we left college.

I've had many jobs since then, some short term to start but only 3 in the last 10 years. Longest was 7 years and I don't think I walked away with one real friend.

I've a mate Chris who I met as we had kids at the same time, we text a few times a month, but he's a mate really. As a couple we're out at Christmas with other couples, we have couple friends we do stuff with, Christmas parties, BBQ's, nights out 4 or 5 times a year. People seem to like us, we're always having a laugh when we do meet others, people come to me for advice or help, people seem to like me.

I work, I'm a dad, a husband, I sleep. That is how it goes. I can be someone's rock in times of need, but I also get times where I just can't be bothered with the BS that comes out of people.

No one just turns up at our house other than family, we don't turn up at others homes. if I needed somewhere to crash i have no idea where I'd go. Hell, I didn't even have a stag do 7 years ago because I didn't have anyone to invite, just made excuses to not have one.

Is it just me that's like this? Is it a result of today's society that people don't have those close friendships anymore? is it a geeky thing where I've spent too long in front of a keyboard I've forgotten 'how to friend' :) Am I just odd?

(I've just watched "I love you man" and it really struck a cord)
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I work, Train, Lead a fitness orientated lifestyle and game, Outside of my PT work I haven't interacted with anyone face to face or physically for maybe 4 years now so don't worry there are a huge amount of people that just keep to themselves, I'd say your lifestyle is a lot more social than mine :p
 
I have friends but at this stage in my life with work, family, young kids I don't get as much time as I would like to see them but that's life.

I think if you look through the lense of social media (where everyone tries their damndest to put forward a BS image of how perfect their life is) or film/traditional media it's that everyone is in huge groups of friends all the time but they aren't.

Love the life you have OP and enjoy it!
 
SexyGreyFox said:
I have no friends either, nobody I can ring up and go for a drink with.
However, I have over 650 'friends' on Facebook and every one have asked me to be their friend through my music.
Tomorrow night I'll be gigging and I won't have a second to myself because I'll be surrounded all night by people so you would think I'd be really popular.
if I was to die now a mate said it would probably be one of the biggest funerals Stoke has seen because of the amount of people I've entertained over the years but still I have nobody.
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That's the thing people are too invested in social media and spend so much time creating the perfect image they don't do life.

I remember being at a lake about 30mins or so from where I live with wife and kids. We were playing away on the little jetty bit kids were making stuff up as they always do there was a couple about 20 or so foot away on a bench they were both just sat on the phone hardly exchanging a word just tapping on phones. After a while (could have been anywhere up to an hour) they stood up took a load of photos of each other and selfies then walked off back to the car park head in their phone again. They probably (assumption bomb incoming :p) telling Facebook or whatever about the perfect time out with photographic "proof" the whole time rather than actually having a good time. I find it baffling.
 
No1newts said:
I have friends but at this stage in my life with work, family, young kids I don't get as much time as I would like to see them but that's life.

I think if you look through the lense of social media (where everyone tries their damndest to put forward a BS image of how perfect their life is) or film/traditional media it's that everyone is in huge groups of friends all the time but they aren't.

Love the life you have OP and enjoy it!
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Yep. Social media shows you all the highlights.
Same way someone will tell you they won 100 on a scratch card but spent 200 getting it

I'm avoiding kids. Almost every thread that involves kids is negative in here.
Why do so many people have them? I know it's often womens choice. Baffles me
 
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