Does anyone else have no friends?

Nitefly said:
That is bleak - you are missing out :(
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I'd quite happily live on my own on an island and see other people only very casually and only every couple of weeks or so when I went to the mainland to buy food and collect stuff I'd ordered. Or maybe every few months. I'd have to see if it happened. Very casual interaction, e.g. a couple of sentences exchanged with someone working in the shop.

You would be missing out if you lived like that.
I wouldn't.

When I have a week off work, I leave my house usually only once to go shopping late at night and see only a few people very casually. I prize those weeks highly.

Maybe the person you're replying to would be missing out. Maybe not. People aren't all the same and shouldn't be required to be.
 
I'm not sure precisely what a friend is, and I'm not sure if it's a useful question to formulate an answer to.

There are lots of people that I like; that I interact with regularly or infrequently; that I seem to get on with.

However I don't involve myself in their lives nor do they involve themselves in mine. I don't really socialise with anyone. Whilst I like many people, and don't necessarily regard myself as misanthropic, I just don't derive any joy from social situations.

Whilst other people seem to love getting together; chatting about what they've done or what they've seen - I'm just not wired that way. I don't seem to care about what others are doing, nor am I doing anything interesting that I want to share.

I wonder if it's because so much stuff people talk about is completely mundane. You had a nice meal, OK. You bought a new TV? Great. That's nice.jpg.

Or maybe I'm a terrible person.

Either way, I know Magnolia will always be my friend :p
 
In my adult life I've found that good friends are hard to come by. For whatever reason, everyone is at different stages in their life. I find with social media there's a lot more social climbing going on these days rather than bonding. In that respect I'm pretty much off grid. I've probably only made one real friend since college days and he moved to NZ four years ago. I have time for good people that meet me in the middle, but otherwise content with my own company.
 
Angilion said:
From what I see nowadays, people here probably spend less time on their computers than average. Look around and see how often people are using their "phones", which nowadays are computers
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Even including phone use, I still don't think people here are below average, but that's fine, we're allowed to disagree :)
 
Psymonkee said:
I'm friendly with people at work but the chances of seeing them outside of work other than work socials? Hell no!
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I don't even go to those, I don't really like to mix work with pleasure. I don't want anything to do with work outside of it and I don't want my work colleagues to see me outside of work.
 
Artery said:
I don't even go to those, I don't really like to mix work with pleasure. I don't want anything to do with work outside of it and I don't want my work colleagues to see me outside of work.
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Couldn't agree more. I've never understood the whole work social scene - I have to look at their ugly mugs all day (and they at mine) and the last thing I want to do is socialise with them, even though they are nice enough.

I probably have two really good friends and a few others that I'd meet up with but none of them really share my hobbies and interests, which is fine as I don't really share in theirs. Saying that, get me on most topics and I can hold a reasonable conversation.

Saying all that, if I were to have the choice of an evening in to game on the PC or go out with friends, I would probably choose PC 9/10 times.
 
I know exactly how OP feels. I have lived in Stoke for almost 5 years now and the only person who I truely know/class as a friend is someone who I was friends with at school who has moved into the area. Back when I moved to Stoke I worked all day, gamed in the evenings and on the weekend drove to Reading to see the Mrs whilst she was at uni. Now I work all day, and spend all evening looking after the son whilst the Mrs goes to work. Absolutely no time to go out and meet people and make friends. Sometimes it gets to me that the Mrs has made some really good friends at the groups she takes the son to during the day whilst I'm at work.
 
if you have kids and a family it will be harder to have friends but it is possible
if i didn't make an effort with my mates i would have no friends, people rarely get in touch or invite me round or make plans. i would have taken that personally years ago but now (as you get older) it's just harder for people, there is little time to get together
it's a combination of our society and getting older. we're all made to work most of the time with a short weekend to try cram everything else in.
 
I work with 2 good friends and then a bunch of good work friends. Means most days are like a social event just without the beer. Although we do that after work once a week.

I'll be honest that's enough as it then leaves my days off to either relax or do things I want to do.
 
Having left school recently compared to some here and about to start my fourth year at uni...

I can say I have a few good friends who I talk (game/etc) with often and often go out with for drinks/food/quizzes. There are also friends within the group that I see who I'm less close with. But then there are a few good school friends I rarely see and others who I'll probably never see again. Thankfully instant messaging means everyone can keep in touch, even if you never physically see them for weeks on end. :p
 
Nitefly said:
That is bleak - you are missing out :(
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On what?

I was invited out the other by a cousin of mine at the weekend to meet people...

Women and men so called friends of my cousin...

All of them got on my nerves...They were dull, vacuous and thought the band that was playing was amazing...

:p

I'm not sure it's because I play 7 musical instruments, I have a degree and appreciate my own company and individualism and make a conscious effort to not be like everyone else is hindering me...:p

But I'm glad I'm not one of those cows in a field happy with mediocrity...

I spent 4 hours listening to contrived crap about 40 somethings pretending they like skepta just to be cool

The sad ******* *****

I left...
 
Boge said:
A friend in need is a...........
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Friend indeed!

Friends come and go and friends get family's and then they become less of a friend. That's life I'm afraid.

My social setting is hit and miss. I have some really close work friends and we go for drinks now and then after work but I wouldn't consider them stereotypical "Friends", one of them however is pretty much my "wife" we are that close.

All my old friends have families and are busy with them or are scattered abroad now so a lot of my really tight friendships are pretty much dead now. In all honesty I'm not too fussed, there are times when it would be nice to be doing something with others but I'm quite content with my own company.

Socially i go to 2 different shooting clubs a week, Firearms on Thursday evenings and Airgun on Sunday mornings and I would consider the people there "Comrades". Some Sundays a few of us from the firearms club go clay pigeon shooting and someone usually does the taxi service for it.

As a "Computer enthusiast" I've been gaming with the same small tight knit group of people for about 8 years now and we speak for hours on end daily, Teamspeak, Whatsapp or texts. There's been the occasional meet up and everyone knows everyone else's business and life and they probably know me better than a lot of people so in honestly i probably would class them as friends.
 
HybridX said:
Friend indeed!

Friends come and go and friends get family's and then they become less of a friend. That's life I'm afraid.

My social setting is hit and miss. I have some really close work friends and we go for drinks now and then after work but I wouldn't consider them stereotypical "Friends", one of them however is pretty much my "wife" we are that close.

All my old friends have families and are busy with them or are scattered abroad now so a lot of my really tight friendships are pretty much dead now. In all honesty I'm not too fussed, there are times when it would be nice to be doing something with others but I'm quite content with my own company.

Socially i go to 2 different shooting clubs a week, Firearms on Thursday evenings and Airgun on Sunday mornings and I would consider the people there "Comrades". Some Sundays a few of us from the firearms club go clay pigeon shooting and someone usually does the taxi service for it.

As a "Computer enthusiast" I've been gaming with the same small tight knit group of people for about 8 years now and we speak for hours on end daily, Teamspeak, Whatsapp or texts. There's been the occasional meet up and everyone knows everyone else's business and life and they probably know me better than a lot of people so in honestly i probably would class them as friends.
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easyrider said:
On what?

I was invited out the other by a cousin of mine at the weekend to meet people...

Women and men so called friends of my cousin...

All of them got on my nerves...They were dull, vacuous and thought the band that was playing was amazing...

:p

I'm not sure it's because I play 7 musical instruments, I have a degree and appreciate my own company and individualism and make a conscious effort to not be like everyone else is hindering me...:p

But I'm glad I'm not one of those cows in a field happy with mediocrity...

I spent 4 hours listening to contrived crap about 40 somethings pretending they like skepta just to be cool

The sad ******* *****

I left...
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No amount of instruments, degrees or self-adulation will compensate for an antisocial, abrasive and narcissistic personality that alienates people. ;)
 
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