Man of Honour
Be a toy boy and get all your kicks for free...
Girlfriend's Contributions
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Be a toy boy and get all your kicks for free...
Soldato
Fix your relationship before moving in or things are only going to go downhill...
A millions times this. Don't just blindly let her contribute towards mortgage etc, no telling what the future holds so make sure you're fully covered if the relationship ends.
Soldato
In which case be very careful what she contributes, and as suggested, maybe consult a solicitor. Yes, it sounds cynical and untrusting, but who knows what the future may hold, and otherwise you could end up seriously regretting it!
Associate
If you have a mortgage put an agreement in writing and stipulate that the contribution is towards bills/food only. Seriously.
Soldato
This - Worked for me
When my missus moved in last year we just agreed to split everything 50/50. I just make any over payments on the mortgage myself. We alternate buying the weekly food shopping each week but it generally comes out about the same price each time.
Man of Honour
A friend of mine used to make his long time girlfriend split their contributions 50:50. At the time, he was on about £28,000 and she was on about £14,000. As a consequence he was perpetually loaded and she was perpetually broke.
He saw their money as strictly individual pots so come Friday night it would be a case of "I'm coming down the pub, but she can't afford to so she's staying in"
What a miserable existence for her.
My girlfriend and I earn similar amounts so it's not an issue for us, but if there is a big disparity it quickly becomes horrible for the person on the lower wage.
He saw their money as strictly individual pots so come Friday night it would be a case of "I'm coming down the pub, but she can't afford to so she's staying in"
What a miserable existence for her.
My girlfriend and I earn similar amounts so it's not an issue for us, but if there is a big disparity it quickly becomes horrible for the person on the lower wage.
Soldato
How I've always done it: work out what the fixed monthly outgoings are (Inc food, utilities, regular payments) and both deposit half that + contingency into a joint account. Keep your separate accounts for your own shiz like meals out together, drinks with the lads etc.
I'll tell you, it's no fun getting a birthday present you really don't want, even less when it's paid for out of your joint account! That and I think she'd go crazy on what I spend on gadgets/RC
E: assumes both are on a livable wage.
If not, just ask her to pay for the food shop
I'll tell you, it's no fun getting a birthday present you really don't want, even less when it's paid for out of your joint account! That and I think she'd go crazy on what I spend on gadgets/RC
E: assumes both are on a livable wage.
If not, just ask her to pay for the food shop
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This.
If it was a property you owned I'd suggest you pay the mortgage, she covers the bills, but if it's rented 50/50 is fair, maybe a bit more contribution to leccy on your part if you've got a machine running 24/7
I earn a lot more than my girlfriend does, but we pay equally towards the relationship, I wouldn't have it any other way and nor would she.
Soldato
I think I may have said this before, but does anyone find it sad that the standard response to this these days (rightly or wrongly) is to call in the solicitors.
"I love you honey, lets move in together..."
"Sign here please."
Yes and no. If you own a house solo, it's a big gamble taking in a woman who a) hasn't paid her way into it and b) is fairly likely to walk away at some point (see OP). All it takes is some one to suggest she should take him to the cleaners if (when) they split
Soldato
Exactly.
Soldato
I think I may have said this before, but does anyone find it sad that the standard response to this these days (rightly or wrongly) is to call in the solicitors.
"I love you honey, lets move in together..."
"Sign here please."
I find it very sad. However unfortunately it's also the sensible option. There are far too many horror stories about people losing everything for you to not consider it
Soldato
exactly and maybe work on bulking out the muscles in your frapping arm........
on a serious note don't mug yourself off either she pays her way or you be prepared to bank roll her. I know it sounds crap, but if you enter into this situation with a softly monkey approach you will be hen pecked before dawn....
50/50 split is utter nonsense in my mind.
The way me and my partner work out the split is simple, whatever percentage of take you have of the total household income, that's what you're liable for.
Some simple figures;
If I take home £2,000 one month and my girlfriend takes home £1,000, then my liability of the bills for that month is 66%, whilst my partners is 33%. So if the bills come to £1,500, I pay for £990 of it and she pays the rest.
Say for example that she has actually paid more than her theoretical 33%, then I'll give her the difference, or vice versa.
In my mind, that's ultimately the only fair way these things can be worked out.
The way me and my partner work out the split is simple, whatever percentage of take you have of the total household income, that's what you're liable for.
Some simple figures;
If I take home £2,000 one month and my girlfriend takes home £1,000, then my liability of the bills for that month is 66%, whilst my partners is 33%. So if the bills come to £1,500, I pay for £990 of it and she pays the rest.
Say for example that she has actually paid more than her theoretical 33%, then I'll give her the difference, or vice versa.
In my mind, that's ultimately the only fair way these things can be worked out.