I think the rate of divorce initiated by women would be indicative of the gender that also typically ends a relationship first as well.
Sure, we can go with that but it's a pretty meaningless statistic in this context if you dont know the reason why, wouldnt you say?
I mean, its more usual for domestic violence to be from male to female. You wouldn't expect them to put up with that for the sake of the kids would you?
You can't make the inference that because women end more relationships than men, it's because they are being selfish and not thinking of the children, as Chris pretty much said.
I don't think people should stay together if they're toxic, though I'd imagine most people who stay together are simply apathetic towards each other and are simply unfulfilled in their relationship due to a lack of attraction and romantic feelings rather than it being toxic.
Yea, that's true as well. I'd have no idea how common either types are, but people staying in antagonistic relationships 'for the sake of the children' isn't that rare. It's maybe another reason why the statistic of women ending relationships is gender skewed, as men have more of an expectation on them to do that, and thus put up with more emotional abuse in their relationships, which they shouldn't!
The point I'm making is the statement and attitude that you should just stay together for the children, because that's by default the best and right thing to do, is just plain wrong. Giving a loving and stable environment for the children is the most important thing to do.
I'm not just talking abstractly about this either, I've been involved in the early years sector for over 10 yrs now, my partner has worked in/owned a nursery for 30+ yrs, her daughter is doing a Phd in developmental psychology. That's a lot of experience of families and how the home life affects their behaviour and development.