Heart broken

[Ripper]

So while you were lavishing money on her she was **** a hoop but behind closed doors she was not that interested?

And would I be right in saying that it was you who mentioned seeing her on Friday not her?

We split the bill, which is what we usually do anyway. When we pulled up I didn't turn off the engine and I asked her if she wanted me to come in or not, she said "ofcourse I do, as long as you want to", so that was her call. She'd made a few comments about certain things which made it clear she expected to see me again and since she originally said last week she thought we should see each other a bit less I offered Friday or Sunday to her, and she said Friday. I also said we'd go out and do something but she said she thinks she'd rather stay in.

I'm as pessimistic as you mate but I do think she wants to try, whether it works out for the best or not remains to be seen.

 

[mattyprice4004]

Well we finally saw each other again last night. Went out for a meal and then went back to hers for a bit. All throughout the meal and drive home she was as chatty as ever but then it got a bit awkward when we were at hers. Guess i'll just have to persevere for now. We decided we'd see each other again Friday so we'll see how it goes again from there.

I feel a lot better now, still not totally out of the woods but ten times better than I felt a few days ago, the weekend away at my aunties really helped.

Did you slip her your length?

 

[Slinwagh]

I'm as pessimistic as you mate but I do think she wants to try, whether it works out for the best or not remains to be seen.

Cake and eat it springs to mind, she knows you will come running at the drop of a hat.

 

[Ripper]

Well believe it or not I spent the other night talking to another girl and now its made me think I actually might want to end things with my girlfriend. I can tell she isn't interested (not texting me for a start, we used to txt LOADS everyday), and after the other night I don't feel that bothered either. It's weird, I spent so long not having an interest in anyone other than my girlfriend but what she said to me has made me make more of an effort with other people.

I started my teacher training last week and in a couple of weeks that'll take up my time everyday and I can already tell its going to help.

Things are on the up, just need to figure out how to go about it now.

 

[Durzel]

She's nailing me behind your back.

*n

Ouch.

Guy has his heart on his sleeve and that's the first response he gets. I know it's not malicious, but still....

EDIT: Judging by the above post I guess it wasn't such a big deal after all.

 

[Ripper]

It was/is a big deal to me.

Well this is ridiculous, everything is so messed up. I ended up ending things with my girlfriend last week as I thought it'd be for the best (despite me not wanting us to split up). We said we'd stay friends, Monday I was a complete mess all day, its ridiculous to think a girl can do this to you. We went out to the cinema Tuesday, as predicted it was weird but we still chatted easily enough.

I'd been texting this other girl as well and we watched a film together last night. But as soon as I picked her up I had a lump in my stomach and knew it wasn't right. Maybe it was too soon i'm not sure but it just made me think about how much I want my (ex) girlfriend.

She is leaving to go on holiday for a week any minute now. I've been round her house today and left her a letter as I wouldn't be able to see her properly before she leaves and if I did something lame like waiting at the airport i'd only forget half the stuff I wanted to say. She's read it and text me saying "sorry i don't know what to say, wasn't expecting this just expected to come home and be looking forward to my holiday, we'll speak when I get back". I told her to take the letter on holiday and try and read it a few more times to take it all in.

I'm really annoyed with myself at how much this all bothers me

 

[Dreadi]

Been here before, shes wont want you in her life anymore, she'll be busy living her new single life. sucks but you gotta realise she doesn't want you any more and move on asap

 

[Nitefly]

I told her to take the letter on holiday and try and read it a few more times to take it all in.

I'm really annoyed with myself at how much this all bothers me

It sounds like it does bother you a lot, but whilst not wanting to be Mr. Hindsight, you are presenting yourself as a bit 'wet', which isn't really a good thing. In the future try not to force yourself upon her so much.

you are just acting desperate now

This is the post below, but I have to agree.

 

[Hedge]

Why the hell are you now wanting to ruin her holiday by getting her to take a letter with her?

you need to distance yourself mate. you are just acting desperate now

 

[Biohazard]

you need to distance yourself mate. you are just acting desperate now

Or creep like.

 

[Ripper]

It sounds like it does bother you a lot, but whilst not wanting to be Mr. Hindsight, you are presenting yourself as a bit 'wet', which isn't really a good thing. In the future try not to force yourself upon her so much.

What do you do though? I had to tell her I can't just stay quiet can I?

Why the hell are you now wanting to ruin her holiday by getting her to take a letter with her?

you need to distance yourself mate. you are just acting desperate now

It won't ruin her holiday, it'll just give her chance to relax and think about things hopefully. I know I am but again what else do you do when you want someone so much? :/

 

[Dreadi]

Or creep like.

I went slightly mental when my ex dumped me due to the lies and all the bull she gave me but before i found all that out i went all creep and weird and it made her hate me

 

[Hedge]

Or creep like.

or that too.

its time for you to man up, accept the situation and let the girl get on with things. Its clear she didnt want to be reading a deep desperate begging letter when she got home, why would she want to read it on holiday?

i honestly think some people on this forum dont seem to have any strength or understanding of situations whatsoever.

dont act like such a loser mate. im sorry to be harsh, but its pathetic behaviour on your half.

just LEAVE HER ALONE

if she cares, she will contact you. if not. LEAVE HER

 

[Nitefly]

What do you do though? I had to tell her I can't just stay quiet can I?

Nothing wrong with telling her how you feel, but by asking her to take the letter, it was a bit much.

The ball is in her court, from this point leave her be.

 

[Ripper]

Nothing wrong with telling her how you feel, but by asking her to take the letter, it was a bit much.

The ball is in her court, from this point leave her be.

I know that, that was the point. In my head its kind of like a final effort, if it works great if it doesn't then I think I will finally give up. I can't believe I was the one that ended things though, I don't think we tried hard enough and I just gave up too soon.

How the hell am I supposed to cope when I see her out with someone else though?

 

[Hedge]

I know that, that was the point. In my head its kind of like a final effort, if it works great if it doesn't then I think I will finally give up. I can't believe I was the one that ended things though, I don't think we tried hard enough and I just gave up too soon.

How the hell am I supposed to cope when I see her out with someone else though?

You will cross that bridge when you come to it. Dont be so weak dude.

I split up with my girlfriend after 6 years a few weeks back, its not a nice idea, but you gotta just accept it.

life deals you some tricky hands but you gotta just play em and see how it goes man. you are acting far too weak though, you do really need to grow some balls and accept the situation.

 

[Nitefly]

How the hell am I supposed to cope when I see her out with someone else though?

You swallow your pride and simply carry on. It it rubbish but times a healer.

 

[Monkey Puzzle]

Always seems to be the women that pull out of relationships it seems. Wonder why that is.

Penski's giant manhood and his patent-pending "Grind and click" technique?

 

[georges]

Sorry to hear it.

However, don't be hard on yourself by keeping in contact with her - it'll just keep eating away at you. Don't do the "lets be friends" route, it's just not worth it. By all means acknowledge her if you see her, but don't make any effort to converse.

 

[[FnG]magnolia]

Time that you started looking after number 1, now. You've tried, you've communicated and you've said your piece. From my experience, the only solution that works from here on in is to distance yourself from her. This really will give you a fresh perspective on things and yes, of course, it'll be hard but it is genuinely worth it. You probably don't believe it but it is true.

You will meet someone else and it doesn't even matter whether you think you will or not; you will. Lick your wounds, have a bit of a cry, say your farewells, but most importantly move on to the next bit because I absolutely guarantee you that things get better. That's how it works