She does know what she wants, its just not easy to tell you that.
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She does know what she wants, its just not easy to tell you that.
Do this. It's the only way you'll find out.
Hope it works out for you buddy, even if you are a Man Utd fan
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Agreed, she will have known for a while what she wants.
Real men can spell wimp.
Yes, I agree with this. Although I cant relate exactly, I broke off a relationship a few months ago as it was basically horrible. My ex believed that he could give me a 'good life' and I knew that would never happen.
You can sometimes be friends, but I didnt want to be friends with my ex. He kept phoneing stating he was 'the one' for me. As soon as I was with someone else, he started getting bit nasty.
Be certain that she wants to be friends with you and not just saying it as she broke it off. It sounds nasty but I did it to my ex 'cos he wouldn't leave me alone and only did after things got worse.
Good to talk to parents btw.
Hope things work well for you, you're still very young, I was in a 'relationship' for 4 years with my ex, I'am with someone now and never been happier. Spend time with mates.....I hope things work out for you.
You mean on here? that will be because the vast majority of members are male.
if you meant generally, I think men can happily plod along in a relationship a lot easier than women
Men (and this isnt a critcism) prefer the habit in a lot of cases, and all the benefits that go with it. Or do things for an easy life and dont want to admit when somethings broke, and they dont know how to fix it.
Yeah, I agree. Never quite understood why this is the case, though. I can't think of anything worse than just 'plodding along'.
Not that things have to forever be changing, but it shouldn't need to become a plodding old slipper until you're both under tartan blankets in front of the fire with a pipe and some knitting.
Usually a subtle way of telling you she's got her eye on someone else.
Time to move on to bigger and better things mate. Go spend some time with friends.
Time's a great healer.
you would think wouldnt ya
but there is always loads of break up sex when you break up for no reson just to play with ya head that little bit more before they find someone else
Hope it can work out for you mate, just because she said what she did, doesn't mean its over, but doesn't mean it'll not be, just give her time, its obvious from what you've said that you're totally into her, don't listen to these stupid "nail her friends, find someone else" etc.. suggestions, if you ever got back with her, you'd have blown it for in the future by doing that. If you love her, and respect her like you say you do, give her time, don't force her, don't push her, just listen to what she has to say.
The last thing anyone wants in thier relationship to become a "routine" and thats where some people panick and run, and some people panick and make changes.
Just the best of luck to you dude, have added you on MSN if you ever want to talk about it.
The last thing anyone wants in thier relationship to become a "routine" and thats where some people panick and run, and some people panick and make changes.
Just the best of luck to you dude, have added you on MSN if you ever want to talk about it.
I'd contest this, I find that people do just fall out of love - and often that's so much harder than it just being someone else.
Although sometimes it can be a surprise I think, like having fallen out of love and plodding along in a less-than-happy relationship, the mind will wander and suddenly pick up on a new person to find attractive.
I think you have to fall out of love first for that to happen, I don't think a roving eye comes brings it on...
Ok well I went round hers last night, extremely nervous obviously. I knew she'd talked to her mum so I figured i'd be able to tell from their reaction as soon as I walked in and sat down (always go straight into the living room to her parents for a bit when I go round to say hello). It felt a bit uneasy and as if they were trying to force conversations about random things, but maybe that was just me reading into things a bit. Next thing my girlfriend came downstairs, got me a drink and we went up to her room.
Sat on the bed, she looked at me and said "what have you been thinking then?" to which I replied its not my call and its her decision. She then said she's been thinking and she doesn't want us to split up, and maybe we should spend a few days away from each other and not see each other as much as we have been doing. We then talked sensibly for an hour and she realises at the moment there's too many opportunities for her to be doing other things and she wants things to get back back to normal, as I do.
All of her school friends have been back from uni for the past couple of months so obviously thats made her life a bit busy.
I told her how bad I felt yesterday and that I didn't want her to turn around in two months and decide it was a mistake to carry on, and she said she didn't want that either.
I went there thinking and preparing for the worst. It didn't happen but now I've realised I was naive to put all my eggs in one basket so to speak, and i'm going to start seeing my mates more than I did before and give her the time she needs to realise she's more grown up than she thinks, all her friends are still kids who've been stuck at 18 for a few years but she's a young woman and the sooner she realises that the better. To be honest it'd be good to speak to her mum and i've been considering popping round in the day and doing that, but we'll see.
I slept a lot better last night anyway, we'll just see how things go from now.
Sat on the bed, she looked at me and said "what have you been thinking then?" to which I replied its not my call and its her decision. She then said she's been thinking and she doesn't want us to split up, and maybe we should spend a few days away from each other and not see each other as much as we have been doing. We then talked sensibly for an hour and she realises at the moment there's too many opportunities for her to be doing other things and she wants things to get back back to normal, as I do.
All of her school friends have been back from uni for the past couple of months so obviously thats made her life a bit busy.
I told her how bad I felt yesterday and that I didn't want her to turn around in two months and decide it was a mistake to carry on, and she said she didn't want that either.
I went there thinking and preparing for the worst. It didn't happen but now I've realised I was naive to put all my eggs in one basket so to speak, and i'm going to start seeing my mates more than I did before and give her the time she needs to realise she's more grown up than she thinks, all her friends are still kids who've been stuck at 18 for a few years but she's a young woman and the sooner she realises that the better. To be honest it'd be good to speak to her mum and i've been considering popping round in the day and doing that, but we'll see.
I slept a lot better last night anyway, we'll just see how things go from now.
