Heart broken
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It's usually done for cathartic reasons, not wanting actual answers from strangers.
Sorry, but its just the way I feel.
Any normal person will get dumped, will dump, cheat and be cheated on.
Its just life. Nothing exceptional, nothing out of the ordinary.
If you had posted that your ex had a sex change, and got married to your dad and became your half brother/stepmum it would have been interesting.
Dont post on a forum looking sad, just go to Amsterdam and get sucked off from a young hooker whilst stoned out of your mind.
Any normal person will get dumped, will dump, cheat and be cheated on.
Its just life. Nothing exceptional, nothing out of the ordinary.
If you had posted that your ex had a sex change, and got married to your dad and became your half brother/stepmum it would have been interesting.
Dont post on a forum looking sad, just go to Amsterdam and get sucked off from a young hooker whilst stoned out of your mind.
Last night my girlfriend of 3.5 years told me she's not sure if she feels the same way anymore. I'd seen it coming and felt dodgy for the past two weeks but just tried to make myself think that it was me being paranoid.
Things have happened, she's started becoming less reliant on me in a way, and she has been seeing her friends more and more. She's also booked a holiday with them for next month (she's already been on holiday this summer with me), and she showed me less and less affection recently. She's always told me she wanted me to be more serious with her (see her more, do different things with her, stop over more etc). So the last two weeks i've been different towards her and made more effort and it seems thats made her realise its actually not what she wants.
We saw each other on Monday night and again she wasn't showing much affection towards me so when I got home I finally decided to phone her up and asked her what was up. We decided we'd speak the next day (last night) and that was when she told me.
However, we're best friends and she's been with me since she was 16 (me since 19), she told me she still loves me and doesn't not want to have me in her life. This talk lasted about 2-3 hours and we both cried bucket loads. I think in her eyes we're basically best friends instead of partners now, which makes it even harder to be fairI get on with her parents, my parents adore her, we are the perfect couple and I want to spend my life with her.
I left her house last night after telling her to have a proper think about what she wants and said goodbye and she said its not goodbye just good night, so I really don't know whats going on. She then text me when I got home saying "I'm so sorry I never wanted any of this to happen!". I never replied and i'm just waiting for her to make the next move now.
I'm absolutely gutted. I got home and just went straight to my mums room in tears which is completely sad for a 22 year old but that was how bad I felt. Today mum and dad have phoned me and I can't talk properly on the phone
I don't know what to expect form this thread but it just helps to talk about it, i've been texting a couple of my mates and they have been good towards me too. We cannot just become friends, as much as it kills me to lose her it'd kill me even more to be around her when she finds someone else.
I'm lost. I know people have far far worse problems but I can't help how I feel.
the only advice i have got, is probably the same as what others have already given you, and it depends on how rationally you can think of the situation.
i.e. in 6 months give or take, you'll have moved on,
cliches like plenty more fish in the sea, you come to realise as you get older, as will you, thats these are truisms, and you will be saying such things to your kids in the future.
in the short term however, id get someone else, to tide you over, whatever you need to distract yourself over the next few weeks, also the worst thing you can do is pester her, or be in her face, just leave it alone, she may alter her view for the better!
Word.
Well, threads aren't posted to entertain you, if you don't care for the topic, don't read the thread.
If everyone moaned about boring threads, there would be no room for threads in the first place
+1 and time will heal you.
Well, threads aren't posted to entertain you, if you don't care for the topic, don't read the thread.
If everyone moaned about boring threads, there would be no room for threads in the first place
just cos you got your heart broken, stop being such a pansie
hehe
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Don't read the thread then.
Not everyone have people readily available to talk to about personal things. Sometimes it is good just to get things off your chest, and if some free advice comes with it, bonus. These forums are a perfect place for such things.
It was pretty clear from the thread title what this thread would be about, so if you're not interested, why bother reading, let alone replying?
That sounds a lot like a couple of friends of mine - after 3 or so years together, the guy would tell me how the 'spark' had gone and how he felt he needed a break etc...
Then the next time I saw them, she was in tears and clinging to him, he had a stony face. They were apparently 'having a break' but since we were all in the same group of friends, occasionally we all came together and she couldn't let go.
The next thing that happened, I think he tried to break it off. But her mother drove her over to his place and they stayed there until he came down to talk to her.
After that I think he gave in.
Sounds a bit grim and forced, doesn't it? I wasn't convinced at the time.
Then a few months later he was due to go out to America for at least 3 months or so, at the time he saw it as an opportunity to get away and enjoy himself for a bit.
You know, he was back within 2 weeks. Of his own accord. They've been together now nearly 10 years, from her age of 15 to 24. She never went to uni herself and was very accomplished and independent already by age 20. Interesting - and they seem really happy
Horses for courses, Failz.
I like to think I can give a female insight, and that it might be helpful. Similarly being a bit of a tomboy I give female friends who are having man trouble a male insight. This doesn't mean I can take my own advice, mind...
This thread wouldn't have got so long without interest. It doesn't need yours too, you don't have to read it.
Because its posted over and over and over and over and over and over again.
The same situations, the same questions, the same answers.
Hell, just put the relationship advice in the FAQ.
Anyway, I get everyones point, sorry, I will bugger off out of this thread and leave you all to curse the opposite sex.
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Quite opinionated for someone who I'm guessing has been lurking for a long time.
Not likely you would get so riled about it in the 2 weeks you've been on the boards
Forums are about interacting and communicating with people, not FAQs
Well go over to www.bigbooobiesandbustybabes.ru/uk.com/bpi then, and quit spamming up this thread.
Some of us like to post on the internet, get some reassurance from different people, and just to try to get some advice.
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Dude, nothing wrong with that. If you weren't upset, it would mean you didn't care for her.
However, it does sound like even though she still loves you, she might not be in love with you anymore. It's one of the worst situations to be in tbh. It's so much easier to hate someone when the relationship ends because then you know how to act.
It's pretty difficult to give any real advice as everyone is different.
Personally, I would give her a bit of time and if she still feels the same way, stick with it and remain friends.
At best, she realises that she is still in love with you and your relationship has just gone through the 'boredom' phase.
I think every relationship does. It's where you can sit watching a movie and not have to be cuddling; where you can walk down the street and not be holding hands; where sex goes from daily to once or twice a week.
At worst, it takes you a while to get over your feelings but you end up with a genuine best friend.
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That's your problem right there.
She probably already has her eyes on someone else, so don't be surprised.
See someone your own age, seriously.
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We should have an Agony Aunt section for the whiners who cant cope with life themselves and require the help of the internetz.
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