How would you feel?

Cut the "leave her" comment out people, you know nothing about the OP's rl issues and I surely doubt this is a strong reason to end the relationship.

OP: It does look like you are a bit insecure, although I'm sure MOST understand your point you are making. Eaither way, the majority of advice being that you should relax and trust her whoever she is with is right.
 
Ripper said:
So.... my girlfriend of almost 4 years has decided she wants to go away for the weekend with some mates (2 girls and 2 lads, all single). She asked me what I thought and I whilst I didn't say "No I don't want you to go" I never exactly made myself sound to keen on the idea.

Turns out she's said yes and she'll be going. We had a bit of a row this morning and I can't see myself being OK with this at all. If she goes i'll feel like **** and if she stays i'll feel like **** knowing that I'm the reason she's not going.

I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything but I don't trust others. I'm now refusing to see her for the time being :(

What would other people feel like in this situation?
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I know exactly what you mean. Why dont you tell her what you just told us and then offer to go with her and that way you get to know her friends and she should be ok with that and that way your happy to!?
 
Nitefly said:
Who on earth said that? We said let her go on holiday.
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lozzick said:
Let her go.
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codec said:
let her go, if anything does happen it just means you werent meant to be :p
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MilanoChris said:
Speaking from experience, you don't trust her and if you're feeling this way you shouldn't be together.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, I'm just saying what I think.
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jdickerson said:
If you love her - let her go. If she comes back, she'll be yours forever, if she doesn't, she never was.
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benneh said:
Posting in fun thread.

Let her go br0, if it's meant to be and all that..
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Some are not serious but some are, and doesn't help the OP. mmkay?
 
JBuk said:
you know it is possible he just doesnt trust the guys as he may suspect one of them will make a move on his girl, he may trust her 100% but just wants to avoid her being put in that situation at all even though he knows she would never do anything, its quite understandable

that does not mean he is accusing that guy of rape..
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I agree with Acid. A girl has a brain and can tell when she is in a situation that she doesn't want to be in. If that's the case she can remove herself from the situation and prevent it happening again. You just have to trust that she'll do that.

Burnsy
 
To be honest i wouldnt be too chuffed about the situation either. Lots of people here making out that its all so Black and white, but its not. Things arent that simple at all.

2 girls, 2 guys.. on a weekend away... hmmm
 
Hedge said:
To be honest i wouldnt be too chuffed about the situation either. Lots of people here making out that its all so Black and white, but its not. Things arent that simple at all.

2 girls, 2 guys.. on a weekend away... hmmm
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I agree, it'd be a problem if you didn't trust her had problems being insecure. But both of those problems are the OP's.

Burnsy
 
DUMP HER NOW

I can't imagine any early twenties, straight bloke not trying it on, unless she is "weight challenged". I fully expect to see an "i've been dumped" thread next week. You know more than your saying, it's not just about the weekend.

Give it another ten years and you'll be paying for your partner to go away at weekends.
 
mcast123 said:
DUMP HER NOW

I can't imagine any early twenties, straight bloke not trying it on, unless she is "weight challenged". I fully expect to see an "i've been dumped" thread next week. You know more than your saying, it's not just about the weekend.

Give it another ten years and you'll be paying for your partner to go away at weekends.
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Seriously, get a grip.

Burnsy
 
Alls these people saying they wouldnt have any problem letting there gf of 4 years go away for a weekend with another girl and 2 lads are talking bull.
 
Ripper said:
Fair enough I didn't expect such a strong reaction against me, guess I'm in the wrong then. Suppose i'll have to try and get my head round it, cheers :)
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You're not in the wrong, grow a pair and tell her she can't go on a random sex weekend with her buddies. In fact, this might even be a test to see if you can stand up for yourself...

Why did she even ask you what you thought unless there was something you should be paying attention to?
 
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