How would you feel?

I dont see a problem with it tbh. If you trust her not to do anything then whats the problem?

You clearly dont trust her enough not to do anything though otherwise you wouldnt have made a thread on the Internetz about it ...Id personally hate to 'that' clingy boyfriend.
 
Ripper said:
So.... my girlfriend of almost 4 years has decided she wants to go away for the weekend with some mates (2 girls and 2 lads, all single). She asked me what I thought and I whilst I didn't say "No I don't want you to go" I never exactly made myself sound to keen on the idea.

Turns out she's said yes and she'll be going. We had a bit of a row this morning and I can't see myself being OK with this at all. If she goes i'll feel like **** and if she stays i'll feel like **** knowing that I'm the reason she's not going.

I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything but I don't trust others. I'm now refusing to see her for the time being :(

What would other people feel like in this situation?
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Unless you're actually worried that the other 4 people will sexually assault her, you are not telling the truth when you say "I trust her and I know she wouldn't do anything but I don't trust others."

Unless you mean that the other 4 might have sex in some combination and your girlfriend might be horribly traumatised by seeing it, and I really don't think you mean that either.

I think you don't trust her, and that's a far bigger problem than someone going away for the weekend with some friends. Either she's intending to screw around and you're right not to trust her or she isn't and you're wrong - either way it's a serious problem.

How would I feel? I don't know, it would depend on the relationship. However, if I didn't feel OK about it, I'd know there was a problem, probably with me. It didn't bother me when it happened in the past, so it probably wouldn't bother me now. I mean, where's the problem?
 
This is GD, so here's the obligatory silly comment:

Buy her a videocamera as a present, tell her to get people to take turns filming the 3F2M orgy and then sell the video to an amateur porno website!
 
i wouldnt be letting my wife go anywhere with male friends unless i knew them really well.
i would be really suspicious about us not beeing invited along as a couple.
tbh even my wife would be really suspicious if some of her friends invited her somewhere but they didnt want me to go aswell
 
I can't really understand why there are a couple of males and a couple of females (all single) going on a trip together & why you aren't going....or why she didn't suggest to the others that you go along too.

Especially after 4 years together. Last thing I would have wanted to do on my wife is go away after 4 years with single mates.

And does she usually go out at home on her own much with this bunch - or is this a one off thing ?

Maybe I'm just reading into things too much..... but to me she might be trying to tell you something.

I wouldn't be happy with it either.... and it's nothing about trust or being jealous, it's about wondering why she hasn't asked you along....and why she feels the need to leave you (while having fun with males friends) and not think you might have a problem with that after 4 years together.
 
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I havn't read any of the other replies but quite honestly if you don't trust her after 4 years, what on earth are you doing with the girl?

I am also in a 4 year old relationship. I've just been to a Festival in Holland for a week with my mates and my gf went to Morocco with friends at Easter, simply not an issue. If I didn't trust her I wouldn't be with her.
 
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I don't see why her going is a big issue if you trust her. Having said that , she knows how you feel and I would have thought that might have a slight impact on her decision about going.

Agreeing with the majority here, trust her and let her go.
 
Surfer said:
turning this situation on its head a bit....

what if one of the guys going with her is an ex-bf? Still feel the same? let her go np?

in fact what if guy 1 is a notorious flirtatious womaniser and guy 2 is an ex-bf who she is still friends with?

Still cool with her going? (yeah i was in this very situation lol)
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would make a perfect test
 
Is it her and 1 other girl, and 2 guys, or is it her, 2 girls, and 2 guys?

chances are nothing would happen, but its perfectly understandable that you would be a bit uncomfortable about the whole idea
 
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would make a perfect test
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and what if both the guys going are gay?

Roles almost reversed:

I'm going away in a couple of weeks for the weekend with two female friends and i think one of their boyfriends, my girlfriend is a little peeved at not being invited, but i have skirted round it by saying that she's working anyway, the truth is literally space i think, we're staying on a small boat, and there is only comfortable room for 4, unless one of my best friends suddenly wants to sleep with me, maybe she's going to rape me! :rolleyes: My gf knows both the girls in question, and while i understand if she's a bit uncomfortable about it, she knows nothing will happen and if she were to try and stop me going away with my friends i'd have a big problem with it
 
Hedge said:
Is it her and 1 other girl, and 2 guys, or is it her, 2 girls, and 2 guys?

chances are nothing would happen, but its perfectly understandable that you would be a bit uncomfortable about the whole idea
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either way, this would be my view, I wouldn't be 100% with it, and yes that probably does show a little bit of distrust for my gf, but i trust her enough to not consider stopping her
 
Er.. let her go? Why wouldn't you let her go? If it's because you're jealous/you don't trust her then you need to address exactly why you don't trust her.

Does she give you reason not to trust her? If the answer is yes, then you need to talk to her about this.

If the answer is no, then it's something you need to deal with yourself.

Either way, let her go..
 
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