Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Looks like I need to 'ditch' one of the girls I've seen a couple of times. First meeting went well but she seemed really nervous so I did most of the talking, and we had a fairly good time. Second meeting I thought I'd let her talk more but again she hardly said a thing and what she did say seemed to be hard work for her. I get the feeling she's not a great communicator as her emails are very short and to the point, which is OK sometimes but when you're trying to have a conversation via mail it's a little off putting.

An example of this would be and email I received yesterday. I was supposed to see her on Sunday for our 3rd date but had to cancel. I did let her know that I wouldn't be able to confirm till the day before but she was cool with that, plus it was her only free day, so it wasn't exactly my fault we were both quite busy over the weekend. So, I emailed her asking her what day she would be free for another date and wrote a bit about my day and asked her how her day was etc. The reply was "Am I going to get stood up again?" I didn't know how to take this as she was 'fine' with me cancelling, so I thought and she was only free on Sunday. I was free every day but Saturday...

I'm not sure how to reply to this. I didn't stand her up and I don't know her well enough to know if it's a light hearted email.

However, after all that I'm pretty sure the relationship wouldn't progress much further as I'd struggle to be with someone who can't communicate easily. Such as shame as she's really hot lol.
 
Orange Peel said:
Looks like I need to 'ditch' one of the girls I've seen a couple of times. First meeting went well but she seemed really nervous so I did most of the talking, and we had a fairly good time. Second meeting I thought I'd let her talk more but again she hardly said a thing and what she did say seemed to be hard work for her. I get the feeling she's not a great communicator as her emails are very short and to the point, which is OK sometimes but when you're trying to have a conversation via mail it's a little off putting.

An example of this would be and email I received yesterday. I was supposed to see her on Sunday for our 3rd date but had to cancel. I did let her know that I wouldn't be able to confirm till the day before but she was cool with that, plus it was her only free day, so it wasn't exactly my fault we were both quite busy over the weekend. So, I emailed her asking her what day she would be free for another date and wrote a bit about my day and asked her how her day was etc. The reply was "Am I going to get stood up again?" I didn't know how to take this as she was 'fine' with me cancelling, so I thought and she was only free on Sunday. I was free every day but Saturday...

I'm not sure how to reply to this. I didn't stand her up and I don't know her well enough to know if it's a light hearted email.

However, after all that I'm pretty sure the relationship wouldn't progress much further as I'd struggle to be with someone who can't communicate easily. Such as shame as she's really hot lol.
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I went out with a girl who "couldnt talk about her feelings cos it was too hard" complete nightmare so I wouldn't bother seeing this girl again.
 
Orange Peel said:
Looks like I need to 'ditch' one of the girls I've seen a couple of times. First meeting went well but she seemed really nervous so I did most of the talking, and we had a fairly good time. Second meeting I thought I'd let her talk more but again she hardly said a thing and what she did say seemed to be hard work for her. I get the feeling she's not a great communicator as her emails are very short and to the point, which is OK sometimes but when you're trying to have a conversation via mail it's a little off putting.

An example of this would be and email I received yesterday. I was supposed to see her on Sunday for our 3rd date but had to cancel. I did let her know that I wouldn't be able to confirm till the day before but she was cool with that, plus it was her only free day, so it wasn't exactly my fault we were both quite busy over the weekend. So, I emailed her asking her what day she would be free for another date and wrote a bit about my day and asked her how her day was etc. The reply was "Am I going to get stood up again?" I didn't know how to take this as she was 'fine' with me cancelling, so I thought and she was only free on Sunday. I was free every day but Saturday...

I'm not sure how to reply to this. I didn't stand her up and I don't know her well enough to know if it's a light hearted email.

However, after all that I'm pretty sure the relationship wouldn't progress much further as I'd struggle to be with someone who can't communicate easily. Such as shame as she's really hot lol.
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Sounds like shes a little insecure, although there are those types who do take a bit to come 'out of their shell' so to speak or she is a complete Introvert and then you never gonna win!. I'd give it another go one more date cant help? Is there any chemistry?. As for the email maybe be a bit playful and apologetic at the same time? She how she receives that and then you'll probably know from the reply about what to do.....
 
Is plenty of fish the only decent place then?

Been reading random posts in this thread and am going to try a internet dating site out (free) simply to test the waters, you never know!

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mikeossy said:
Sounds like shes a little insecure, although there are those types who do take a bit to come 'out of their shell' so to speak or she is a complete Introvert and then you never gonna win!. I'd give it another go one more date cant help? Is there any chemistry?. As for the email maybe be a bit playful and apologetic at the same time? She how she receives that and then you'll probably know from the reply about what to do.....
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I'm not sure she's insecure I really believe she's just not great at communicating freely. I'm looking for someone I can talk to like a mate, if that makes sense.

I replied explaining the only day she had free was the day I may get called into work, just to recap what I'd said before and what she was previously 'OK' with, I also asked what day she would prefer and got the folllowing reply.

"well im off all next week."

Great response lol.
 
As above I think she is def a bit timid, just be up front and assertive, tell her OK we do this on this day at this time? is that ok? see what happens, she may easily lighten up when you get 'further' into the relationship?. Who knows, he who dares and all that!......
My current girlfriend of 6 months whom I met on a dating website is pretty good at communication and was a something that i do find an attraction, I dont think its a great sign if your finding it hard to talk though.
 
ChrisJSY - I dont know whether to be insulted by that or not lol
well if that's the case then I will keep quiet about it now and won't reveal who it is... :p

Orange Peel - I agree with Felix, give it one last shot although it's hard to tell from her last email whether she does has trouble communicating or just cba. Or maybe she expects you to do all the hard work.

I understand what you mean about being able to talk to them like a mate. I felt that instantly with forum fella, i felt completely comfortable like i had known him for years and could be myself around him without getting judged for it. It's still early days obviously but it's been a long time since I felt like that so it's nice. :)
 
See I just fell PoF comes in heaps and troughs....well thats my feeling :P

Messaging and getting to know quite a few nice girls on there at this very moment but at the weekend there my faith was restored in meeting people in clubs....met a lovely girl when I was out on Saturday and we have been texting each other pretty much constantly since then.

Glad to see people are getting on well with some hilarious stories...no need to guees what one in particular. :D

I also signed up for OKCupid to see what it was like, its an attractive interface especially compared to PoF and seems to have a lot of people on it too so worthwhile checking out.
 
secretspy said:
I understand what you mean about being able to talk to them like a mate. I felt that instantly with forum fella, i felt completely comfortable like i had known him for years and could be myself around him without getting judged for it. It's still early days obviously but it's been a long time since I felt like that so it's nice. :)
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All of the other girls I've met have been easy to talk to. Some more than others but generally all good. They've all mentioned how I'm easy to talk to bar this one.

I'm still 50/50 on what to do. If she was a little more fluid with her conversation I'd be really into her. As it stands I'm not really looking forward to another date :(
 
Orange Peel said:
All of the other girls I've met have been easy to talk to. Some more than others but generally all good. They've all mentioned how I'm easy to talk to bar this one.

I'm still 50/50 on what to do. If she was a little more fluid with her conversation I'd be really into her. As it stands I'm not really looking forward to another date :(
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Kick her to the kerb! She will turn out to be too much like hard work in the end.
 
If you're not looking forward to another date then I wouldn't bother arranging one.

Maybe just politely say you don't think you're good match etc etc ........?
 
Well, after spending almost 30 mins answering questions honestly at eharmony:

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That's my first saunter into online dating over with.
 
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