Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Internet dating is a bit of a minefield - exactly like dating normally except you don't necessarily get the vibe that you might get from meeting someone face to face. I found that carefully selecting people does wonders. I've met lots of attractive people online but it hasn't gone further than just hello because the conversation just sucked.

I have been out with 3 people so far this year from internet dating. First one was a french girl who was fantastic and we ended up going out just for 2 months only, which was a major blow. I was later to find out that she had recently split up from a major relationship before so I was collateral damage. But we clicked and are still good friends.

Second girl was an english girl a history school teacher, the date was an absolute nightmare and she hardly said a word - which made conversation impossible. I never called her again.

3rd Girl is a turkish girl that I went out with on monday and we spoke for 5 hours and everything just clicked and we had a great time. We kissed before we said goodbye and I got a really good vibe. We have planned lots of stuff to do together so i'm quite excited about this one. We have talked loads since our first date and im seeing her tommorow.

I think pretty much within the first 20-30 minutes of meeting someone you can tell how it is going to go. If its hard to strike up things to say then it's doomed before it begun. Every date i've been out with it's been a kiss on the cheak. When I get a good feeling from the date i.e girl constantly touching you, your hand and arm. When she laughs with her whole body and when she says she dosnt care when she gets back - I think its safe to go for a lip kiss.

I've not been wrong so far...

When you know you know!
 
Been seeing someone for a few weeks but it's fallen through thanks to me being the rebound. Sort of expected it but still bummed about it lol. After reading through this I thought I'd give this a go as it means I can drink beer and browse on the sofa whilst watching TV!

Chatting to a bird on MSN now but eurgh it's hard going. Much prefer face to face as talking to someone you don't really know via text is quite hard to strike up a conversation I'm finding, but in real life I find it a lot easier. I'd much rather just get straight to going out to meet in a bar or something for a drink, but think if I asked that after just starting talking to them I'd scare them off!
 
I had a shock today, a message in my POF inbox. Doesn't happen all that often. Anyway went to read the message, it was a one liner "What do you do for a living, you haven't said"

I replied back with "I work in retail but not for much longer :)"

Got another one back which said "Why not much longer?"

So I replied saying why and had another asking what I was planning on doing and once I'd replied I got nothing back. I wasn't giving much away because I didn't feel I had to explain my reasons fo quitting my job to someone who I don't know. Wasn't the right sort of question to ask in all honesty, not as a first question anyway.
 
Behemoth said:
I had a shock today, a message in my POF inbox. Doesn't happen all that often. Anyway went to read the message, it was a one liner "What do you do for a living, you haven't said"

I replied back with "I work in retail but not for much longer :)"

Got another one back which said "Why not much longer?"

So I replied saying why and had another asking what I was planning on doing and once I'd replied I got nothing back. I wasn't giving much away because I didn't feel I had to explain my reasons fo quitting my job to someone who I don't know. Wasn't the right sort of question to ask in all honesty, not as a first question anyway.
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Bottom line - was she FIT?!

If she was, you've missed a chance there. She was probably just looking for a conversation opener, which you shot down, lol.
 
Yeah she was fit, but to me it just seemed to come across as "I want to know what you do for living so I can get as much cash out of you as I can"
 
Behemoth said:
Yeah she was fit, but to me it just seemed to come across as "I want to know what you do for living so I can get as much cash out of you as I can"
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But that's the game! She tries to get as much cash out of you as possible whilst you try to get as much man yoghurt up her as possible :D
 
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Can't give someone something I haven't got lol (Cash that is) and hadn't you better change that word for something more tasteful before you get a telling off from a don ?
 
Adsta said:
I have recently taken the venture to online dating.

Got chatting to one girl, who seems ok so far. Dunno what else to say that isnt on my profile to be honest. Starting talking about dogs :p (yes the animal !)

I think I need to try veer the convo to meeting up for a date. Not quite sure how to move it though... First time doing this online so its a bit different. I don't want to come of as being quite abrupt.

pfft I am proberbly thinking this through way to much.

Also a quick question how would you greet your date ? I know I am most likely going to get slaughtered for asking but I mean I am not sure. Do you embrace and maybe a quick peck on the cheek ? or just like smile and introduce yourself and see how she reacts ?
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After much research, I find "hey" to be the simplest and most effective form of greeting.
 
Seasaw said:
Internet dating is a bit of a minefield - exactly like dating normally except you don't necessarily get the vibe that you might get from meeting someone face to face. I found that carefully selecting people does wonders. I've met lots of attractive people online but it hasn't gone further than just hello because the conversation just sucked.

I have been out with 3 people so far this year from internet dating. First one was a french girl who was fantastic and we ended up going out just for 2 months only, which was a major blow. I was later to find out that she had recently split up from a major relationship before so I was collateral damage. But we clicked and are still good friends.

Second girl was an english girl a history school teacher, the date was an absolute nightmare and she hardly said a word - which made conversation impossible. I never called her again.

3rd Girl is a turkish girl that I went out with on monday and we spoke for 5 hours and everything just clicked and we had a great time. We kissed before we said goodbye and I got a really good vibe. We have planned lots of stuff to do together so i'm quite excited about this one. We have talked loads since our first date and im seeing her tommorow.

I think pretty much within the first 20-30 minutes of meeting someone you can tell how it is going to go. If its hard to strike up things to say then it's doomed before it begun. Every date i've been out with it's been a kiss on the cheak. When I get a good feeling from the date i.e girl constantly touching you, your hand and arm. When she laughs with her whole body and when she says she dosnt care when she gets back - I think its safe to go for a lip kiss.

I've not been wrong so far...

When you know you know!
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2nd date down and done, 3rd date this week... :D
 
Adsta said:
Also a quick question how would you greet your date ? I know I am most likely going to get slaughtered for asking but I mean I am not sure. Do you embrace and maybe a quick peck on the cheek ? or just like smile and introduce yourself and see how she reacts ?
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I've settled on going for a handshake. Although a couple of times have gave them a hug as we had been talking for ages before meeting up so I felt I knew them quite well. Normally though, I would go for a handshake in the same way as if a friend was introducing me to a group of her friends or something.

I was on two dates last week and we got on really well but unfortunately I just don't fancy the girl and I feel really bad about it. I reckon I'm hanging up my online dating boots, I hate the whole process. Better if you meet someone under normal circumstances and KNOW that you like them already.
 
I've just signed up to plentyoffish and been on the prowl a few hours and only found a couple ive managed to decide to inbox... but I've had a couple of messages already. What do you do when woman not your type message you? Do you ignore or let them know?
 
Jonnybmac said:
I've just signed up to plentyoffish and been on the prowl a few hours and only found a couple ive managed to decide to inbox... but I've had a couple of messages already. What do you do when woman not your type message you? Do you ignore or let them know?
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Do what they do, ignore :p
 
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