Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Theres so many shallow women on POF its un believable.

All the fit ones you instantly get "unread deleted" even if you message them after that full of abuse "unread deleted". So now i send short messages and then i get complaints that i havent written an essay. So i put this at the bottom of my profile which sums up most of the women on there.

"Hi, I am John. I have a 160 IQ, I am a billionaire and want to spend it all on the lucky lady. I aim to please, have no backbone and would love to be a slave. I dont mind if you cheat on me, after all i am only here to make your life easier. I look gorgeous (see pics of ripped muscle model type man) and i drive a supercar thats perfect for ferrying you and your friends around. My perfect date would be going to dinner, buying you £1000 champagne which you can drink whilst I drink water whilst you decide if i am still good enough to message back next time i message you instead of just "unread deleted"." lol
 
twoblacklines said:
Theres so many shallow women on POF its un believable.

All the fit ones you instantly get "unread deleted" even if you message them after that full of abuse "unread deleted".
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Everyone is shallow whether they realise it or not. Even you Mr "All the fit ones". :p

To be honest it might not be your picture that gets them read/deleted. Hot girls literally get hundreds of emails. They are bored of all the "hi, how are you?" ones.

In my experience if you want to get the attention of an attractive girl on POF you MUST have a funny or intriguing email subject. Otherwise it will get deleted with all the "Hello's". Obviously I'm not saying this guarantees success but it will improve your open rate. Then you have your chance to impress.
 
Behemoth said:
I had a shock today, a message in my POF inbox. Doesn't happen all that often. Anyway went to read the message, it was a one liner "What do you do for a living, you haven't said"

I replied back with "I work in retail but not for much longer :)"

Got another one back which said "Why not much longer?"

So I replied saying why and had another asking what I was planning on doing and once I'd replied I got nothing back. I wasn't giving much away because I didn't feel I had to explain my reasons fo quitting my job to someone who I don't know. Wasn't the right sort of question to ask in all honesty, not as a first question anyway.
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Gold digger, avoid.
 
twoblacklines said:
"Hi, I am John. I have a 160 IQ, I am a billionaire and want to spend it all on the lucky lady. I aim to please, have no backbone and would love to be a slave. I dont mind if you cheat on me, after all i am only here to make your life easier. I look gorgeous (see pics of ripped muscle model type man) and i drive a supercar thats perfect for ferrying you and your friends around. My perfect date would be going to dinner, buying you £1000 champagne which you can drink whilst I drink water whilst you decide if i am still good enough to message back next time i message you instead of just "unread deleted"." lol
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perfect! :D:p

i was on PoF for 3 months, felt like it was a waste of my time and got tired of receiving messages from people i weren't interested in so i deleted my account.

if at any point you think the girl is out of your league, she probably is. you can chance it and send her a message hoping she will response, but don't get annoyed if she doesn't respond or doesn't read your message at all. if she does reply and you both get talking, but you feel like you're not getting anywhere then she's probably not interested in being anything more than just friends.

first impressions do count, so a good pic is a must. for me, if the guy is blatently posing, topless or drunk in their pic then i ignore/delete. i don't think highly of myself, but if i don't think the guy is on the same-ish league as me then they also get ignored/deleted.

for all those who complain about girls not replying... would you rather the girl respond out of kindness, give you false hope, or just simply not reply so that you get the hint right at the start and know not to waste your time on this person?
 
MisChief said:
perfect! :D:p

i was on PoF for 3 months, felt like it was a waste of my time and got tired of receiving messages from people i weren't interested in so i deleted my account.

if at any point you think the girl is out of your league, she probably is. you can chance it and send her a message hoping she will response, but don't get annoyed if she doesn't respond or doesn't read your message at all. if she does reply and you both get talking, but you feel like you're not getting anywhere then she's probably not interested in being anything more than just friends.

first impressions do count, so a good pic is a must. for me, if the guy is blatently posing, topless or drunk in their pic then i ignore/delete. i don't think highly of myself, but if i don't think the guy is on the same-ish league as me then they also get ignored/deleted.

for all those who complain about girls not replying... would you rather the girl respond out of kindness, give you false hope, or just simply not reply so that you get the hint right at the start and know not to waste your time on this person?
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dont matter.
 
MisChief said:
i don't think highly of myself, but if i don't think the guy is on the same-ish league as me then they also get ignored/deleted.
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Even if they're in a league above you...?

Perfect example as to why, for most, internet dating doesn't work. If no one 'settled' as it were, then the world would be a lonely place.
 
Obviously shes gonna go with a guy in a higher league, The problem is most guys will go with anything with a pulse but not be prepared to offer full term commitment, thats why you read on so many womens profiles that they are sick of cheats, liers and players.
 
MisChief said:
for all those who complain about girls not replying... would you rather the girl respond out of kindness, give you false hope, or just simply not reply so that you get the hint right at the start and know not to waste your time on this person?
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Replying out of kindness to say you're not interested would take a whole matter of seconds to do.
 
.Lethal said:
Replying out of kindness to say you're not interested would take a whole matter of seconds to do.
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True but it also makes them think they've got a foot in the door. I've put a polite note at the bottom of my profile which says if I read your email and don't reply it's because I don't think we're a match and don't want to waste your time.

Worked very well so far.
 
friddela said:
Even if they're in a league above you...?

Perfect example as to why, for most, internet dating doesn't work. If no one 'settled' as it were, then the world would be a lonely place.
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in reality, how often does somebody 'in a league above you' message you first? i can only think of 3 reasons why this would happen... 1) they are desperate or want to take advantage of you, be it sex, money or whatever. 2) they are genuinely interested/liked your profile and don't think this 'league' thing is a problem 3) profile pic is misleading.

out of all the messages i received on PoF, i would say 1% were above my league, 4% same-ish league and the rest of the 90% 'below my league' :o

i think ones looks/appearance are important when you don't 'know' the person. i often seen fit guys dating beastly girls, or fit girls dating 'under average' guys.. i'm guessing their relationship started off as a friendship first. i think if you actually 'know' the person then the looks/appearances probably don't matter as much.

.Lethal said:
Replying out of kindness to say you're not interested would take a whole matter of seconds to do.
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this depends on how many messages a person gets and chooses to ignore/delete. and what if the person replies back and starts asking why i'm not interested? then would it be rude for me to not reply, or shall i spare a few more seconds to reply again and explain my reasons for not being interested? all these seconds will add up depending how many messages you receive. i was once kind enough to reply and say i wasn't interested, but got a response back saying 'its cos i'm black right?'

Orange Peel said:
True but it also makes them think they've got a foot in the door. I've put a polite note at the bottom of my profile which says if I read your email and don't reply it's because I don't think we're a match and don't want to waste your time.

Worked very well so far.
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this is a good idea, i didn't think of this. what i did do though, was list down certain things i didn't like about a guy and said don't message me if they fall under any of those... and guess what, these people messaged me anyway :rolleyes:
 
MisChief said:
in reality, how often does somebody 'in a league above you' message you first? i can only think of 3 reasons why this would happen... 1) they are desperate or want to take advantage of you, be it sex, money or whatever. 2) they are genuinely interested/liked your profile and don't think this 'league' thing is a problem 3) profile pic is misleading.
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And that's the problem with doing it online. No. 2 rarely happens online but happens all the time when you meet someone face to face.

MisChief said:
out of all the messages i received on PoF, i would say 1% were above my league, 4% same-ish league and the rest of the 90% 'below my league' :o
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You must have had a lot of messages to get a 1%.

MisChief said:
i think ones looks/appearance are important when you don't 'know' the person. i often seen fit guys dating beastly girls, or fit girls dating 'under average' guys.. i'm guessing their relationship started off as a friendship first. i think if you actually 'know' the person then the looks/appearances probably don't matter as much.
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Which was exactly my point, you could be the most compatible two people in the planet and you would never know because one person thinks, "oh, I could do better."

I have very little experience with Internet Dating, I gave up after a couple of weeks as it was too much effort and a lot easier to meet someone elsewhere. It only works for a tiny percentage of people and for most it's just frustrating and time consuming, as people have proved on this thread.
 
friddela said:
You must have had a lot of messages to get a 1%.
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328 to be exact, but including replies (in case you're wondering how i know - i did a search for 'plentyoffish.com' in my email inbox and it told me how many messages there were..) hence my reason for not replying to every single message out of kindness to say i'm not interested (instead, i just simply deleted my account to put everyone out of their misery :p)
 
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MisChief said:
328 to be exact, but including replies (in case you're wondering how i know - i did a search for 'plentyoffish.com' in my email inbox and it told me how many messages there were..) hence my reason for not replying to every single message out of kindness to say i'm not interested (instead, i just simply deleted my account to put everyone out of their misery :p)
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To be fair, that's quite a lot of messages.

Your picture must be misleading.
 
:eek: I wish I had got 328 messages.

As I've not posted in this thread in a while, I thought I would give an update about how things are going with me.

I've been on two dates. One I met from pof and the other OkCupid. Goes to show there is hope for everyone out there if you stick with it! Neither worked out unfortunately.

I wish there were more people on OkCupid. I seem to be having far better success on there in terms of message replies compared to pof. I've been tempted to give up on pof a few times, but there are just so many people on there it’s hard to ignore! My friend has also promised to write me a profile for mysinglefriend so I hope to be giving that site a go soon!
 
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