Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Met my ex online together for 4 years, we don't talk now, **** happens, the thing is I hate asking women out, allways look a right tool when they say no:(. Actually any ladies on here want a slightly used 34 year old pm me??????;):o:o

Please fully star out any swearing
 
Nearly there but I think you need to add:-

"You will never need to cook/clean again as I love all domestic chores. Even though you're too lazy to ever cook for me you'll be treated to a banquet whenever you come around.

I'm also a dab hand at DIY and gardening so no need to ever do that again even though you say how much you love both of these pastimes. You can be as "dull as ditchwater" as you've got boobies, luckily I make Sir Ranulph Fiennes look like a boy scout"

;)

HEADRAT

Dont forget "I am asexual so you will never have to undergo the chore of having sex with me, you can just sleep with people you really like but have no money instead".

I created a newprofile one day and photoshopped me standing next to a ferrari with the key in my hand, and all the girls who unread deleted me were messaging me telling me how nice i looked and what an amazing personality they have etc etc.

Its just full of shallow gold diggers.

My mate in my picture on the left is also on there and he gets about 100 messages a day but he says everyone he meets are thick and cant hold a decent conversation but look great.
 
Open notepad, type polite 2 line response along the lines of "Thank you for taking the time to write to me, unfortunately.... etc" and save it. When receiving said message from person who has made an effort, open notepad, copy, paste and press reply. Most decent people will probably very much appreciate it over being ignored.

Complicated stuff obviously.



As she said, 360 ish something messages, to do that for all of them?
Screw that, I don't owe anyone the time of a reply if I see fit, as much as I can ignore people in real life. I don't reply, the same as people who don't reply to me.

There are better things to really care about and if you're the type that gets hurt by no replies, well I suggest they add they are insecure to their profile, or write something about wanting a reply either way in their opening message.

I frankly, cannot try to begin to give a damn if someone doesn't reply to me.
 
As she said, 360 ish something messages, to do that for all of them?
Screw that, I don't owe anyone the time of a reply if I see fit, as much as I can ignore people in real life. I don't reply, the same as people who don't reply to me.

There are better things to really care about and if you're the type that gets hurt by no replies, well I suggest they add they are insecure to their profile, or write something about wanting a reply either way in their opening message.

I frankly, cannot try to begin to give a damn if someone doesn't reply to me.

You can read a fair bit about you just from that reply.

The last 2 pages have been discussing this, where people have said that replying to people who send a genuine, real response should get one back. If they read your profile and talk about it or some other thing that may be well written, reply back and be kind in turn.

If its "hai how are you" then why bother replying.

I seriously doubt MissC had 300 REAL genuine emails.

Feel free to keep skipping half the thread and posting about me me me, just don't expect us to give a **** about you too.
 
As she said, 360 ish something messages, to do that for all of them?
Screw that, I don't owe anyone the time of a reply if I see fit, as much as I can ignore people in real life. I don't reply, the same as people who don't reply to me.

There are better things to really care about and if you're the type that gets hurt by no replies, well I suggest they add they are insecure to their profile, or write something about wanting a reply either way in their opening message.

I frankly, cannot try to begin to give a damn if someone doesn't reply to me.

There's nothing insecure about wanting a reply, even to say no, regardless whether it's wrt dating or any other situation. It's called courtesy; you should look it up, and start applying it.

If not, a note at the bottom of a profile at previously mentioned would be understandable for someone who genuinely gets hundreds of messages.
 
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What does my head in is the amount of two faced women, like those who say personality is all that and looks are a bonus, but they then have their filter set that you have to have a pic to contact them, and when you send them a message they delete it without even reading it, but look at your pics. It makes me very angry so i send them an abusive message and they unread delete that too :cry:
 
I seriously doubt MissC had 300 REAL genuine emails..

I just had a quick look at the site and there are a helluva lot of blokes on POF. I just did a search on my town for blokes aged 18-22 (a tiny age range, chances are she's getting messages from a range of ages), within 5 miles (smallest possible radius, again many will cast the net wider) of my town. It returned the maximum number of results possible (600+).

OK so not all accounts will be active, not all guys will look at/like her profile. But even so there are probably thousands of blokes in her area looking for a partner. Yes no doubt there will be some throw away one-liner emails with no effort in there but I don't think we should underestimate just how huge free online dating is these days.
 
I seriously doubt MissC had 300 REAL genuine emails.

Easily. She said it includes replies etc but it wouldn't even surprise me if she got 300 first contact emails. Any half decent looking girl gets inundated.

There's nothing insecure about wanting a reply, even to say no, regardless whether it's wrt dating or any other situation. It's called courtesy; you should look it up, and start applying it.

I don't agree with this, a reply is a waste of time. I know what it means if a girl doesn't reply, I don't need her to explain.
 
I seriously doubt MissC had 300 REAL genuine emails.
As others have said, all you need do to cast some doubt on your doubting is look around these sites. A fair proportion of halfway decent looking females have words to the effect of "I get a lot of messages so may take a while to reply" so I think it's pretty believable.
 
I just had a quick look at the site and there are a helluva lot of blokes on POF. I just did a search on my town for blokes aged 18-22 (a tiny age range, chances are she's getting messages from a range of ages), within 5 miles (smallest possible radius, again many will cast the net wider) of my town. It returned the maximum number of results possible (600+).

OK so not all accounts will be active, not all guys will look at/like her profile. But even so there are probably thousands of blokes in her area looking for a partner. Yes no doubt there will be some throw away one-liner emails with no effort in there but I don't think we should underestimate just how huge free online dating is these days.

As others have said, all you need do to cast some doubt on your doubting is look around these sites. A fair proportion of halfway decent looking females have words to the effect of "I get a lot of messages so may take a while to reply" so I think it's pretty believable.

Easily. She said it includes replies etc but it wouldn't even surprise me if she got 300 first contact emails. Any half decent looking girl gets inundated.

You lot red the previous 2 pages and understand I'm not talking about "hi how are you" messages right? If you think someone on a dating site like PoF would attract nothing but serious indepth emails then I don't know why so many use the paid services of other websites.

Anyway, enough of this matter, lets change the subject as its quite boring!
 
then I don't know why so many use the paid services of other websites.

Firstly the "so many" part: hardly anyone pays; only about 5% of all accounts on the main pay sites have actually paid.

You've more chance of success on free sites, as 95% of the people on those aren't unable to read your messages or reply. People use pay sites because of marketing, and because they naively assume that because it's a pay site it's more likely to work out.
 
Dont forget "I am asexual so you will never have to undergo the chore of having sex with me, you can just sleep with people you really like but have no money instead".

I created a newprofile one day and photoshopped me standing next to a ferrari with the key in my hand, and all the girls who unread deleted me were messaging me telling me how nice i looked and what an amazing personality they have etc etc.

Its just full of shallow gold diggers.

My mate in my picture on the left is also on there and he gets about 100 messages a day but he says everyone he meets are thick and cant hold a decent conversation but look great.


100 messages a day, i seriously doubt that, i was at uni for years and women just dont approach guys most of the time,

yeah a lot of women are shallow, you think peter crouch and andy murray would have such stunning women if they wern't rich and famous who really cares, if it gets you a date (fake ferrari or not) then you can impress with your personality etc and keep them.

not sure if your trolling but, if chicks only went with you for your looks then you'd be worried they'd be on there looking for something better anyway surely.
 
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How do you guys suggest dates and stuff, sometimes i get asked for msn and stuff but i dont really bother with it, i'm guessing that means they are at least slightly intrested:o
when i was on PoF i asked for msn after 2-3 messages, simply because i hate writing emails/messages. theres been a few times where i've asked to talk on msn, and the guys either say they don't use it much or they just ignore that i asked - i stop speaking to them immediately after that, it was either msn or nothing
 
Firstly the "so many" part: hardly anyone pays; only about 5% of all accounts on the main pay sites have actually paid.

This actually fact or just something you've randomly come up with? I think you're trying to aruge now.

Yes, as I acknowleged in the last sentence of my post.

You went off and generalised. It would have been easier to say no .Lethal I disagree with your comments regarding 1 persons email communications because "I see x many men on this site" so it must be true - even though I didn't question the number of emails 1 person gets.

My point was regarding the emails.. (this is so boring now fwiw, I feel like I am humoring you) and the amount of them which should warrant a reply rather than ignore all.

If people want to be rude and ignore serious communication then its there choice in the end, I've given my opinion on the subject.

What I do see from this thread is that for a portion of people it is no wonder why they are single, and as for the ones that vent frustration of emails just being deleted without any reply (after putting some effort into sending them a message) you have my sympathy.
 
when i was on PoF i asked for msn after 2-3 messages, simply because i hate writing emails/messages. theres been a few times where i've asked to talk on msn, and the guys either say they don't use it much or they just ignore that i asked - i stop speaking to them immediately after that, it was either msn or nothing

What if they insisted on using Skype? ;)
 
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