Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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I have had dates cancelled just a few hours before they start but you just have to suck it up and get on with things really. The last one was a few days ago actually. I gave her a day or so with no contact and then just sent a very simple message:
'Would you like to try and arrange another date?
If not do let me know
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24 hours later we're trying to sort another one out but circumstances are difficult so I won't be surprised if it goes belly up again.
Don't get too wound up by other people's lives especially as you don't really know what they have going on.
'Would you like to try and arrange another date?
If not do let me know
'24 hours later we're trying to sort another one out but circumstances are difficult so I won't be surprised if it goes belly up again.
Don't get too wound up by other people's lives especially as you don't really know what they have going on.
But you simply can't put trust in someone who you have talked to online and be 100% dead set on them keeping their word. Tell yourself all the way up they will cancel and dampen the response that you will have as much as possible.
Go in expecting nothing and enjoy it even more when it happens.
Go in expecting nothing and enjoy it even more when it happens.
I'm gonna take a guess that you are more perceptive/sensitive to things and people hence when these things happen they affect you whereas the other "normal"
people are totally oblivious to these things.... its a curse Neil just try to get used to it.
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I've had one women mess me around but it didn't stress me out as I had another date lined up the following evening.
You have to take internet dating with a large pinch of I don't give a damn
Women seem to attract to that kind of attitude.
I'm gonna take a guess that you are more perceptive/sensitive to things and people hence when these things happen they affect you whereas the other "normal"
We all feel it, we all have emotion, its no curse. Its how you choose to deal with it that's the problem.
Thats just a fubared attitude to have...... basically dont give a **** about anyone ok cool.
Read it again, I didn't say don't care about anyone. I said do not rely/trust so much on people if you can not handle the emotional back draft.
You know Neil has Aspergers right? A part of that makes you much more susceptible/perceptive/sensitive to ones surroundings including people. (thats only the tip of the iceberg..)
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It's more like, "hey, fancy a cup of coffee sometime?"
Then don't chase again, it works, I had a few dates a couple months back (no spark, amounts to nothing) but I seem to get more yes to date when I don't give a crap.
Then don't chase again, it works, I had a few dates a couple months back (no spark, amounts to nothing) but I seem to get more yes to date when I don't give a crap.
No I didn't, that explains it all then. Thanks for letting me know. Don't take my advice!
She probably is lying Neil, perhaps she met someone in a shop or out on the town and wants to persue them first before trying you.
Message her back saying not to worry, and to let you know if she wants to re arrange. When she messages you back with a date, tell her you have another date that night, and put her off a bit.
Girls want what they can't have. Fact.
Message her back saying not to worry, and to let you know if she wants to re arrange. When she messages you back with a date, tell her you have another date that night, and put her off a bit.
Girls want what they can't have. Fact.
i'm just saying as tbh i would react similar to Neil. People **** me off all the time but i dont overtly react because i would be seen as a nutter 
The way i see it. Hes spending a lot of time getting to know her (doesnt matter if its online still a person) they're getting along great i'm assuming the conversation is in depth stuff. She talks a lot about looking forward to the meet. Then at the last minute she pulls out and makes up a reason entirely. In other words she lied (correct me if im wrong) to get out of the meet up.
If it were me, i wouldnt talk/meet her again after that unless it was a very good reason she pulled out.
I wouldnt freak out at her though. One thing time is good for is learning to keep yourself under control....and ofc you care less as the years go by
The way i see it. Hes spending a lot of time getting to know her (doesnt matter if its online still a person) they're getting along great i'm assuming the conversation is in depth stuff. She talks a lot about looking forward to the meet. Then at the last minute she pulls out and makes up a reason entirely. In other words she lied (correct me if im wrong) to get out of the meet up.
If it were me, i wouldnt talk/meet her again after that unless it was a very good reason she pulled out.
I wouldnt freak out at her though. One thing time is good for is learning to keep yourself under control....and ofc you care less as the years go by
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I wouldnt freak out at her though. One thing time is good for is learning to keep yourself under control....and ofc you care less as the years go by
I think this is what I was getting at, probably the best skill I have learnt in the last 10 years as it applies to all aspects of life.
Thanks all and for your understanding and Surfer you've been the most spot on in all of this my hat off to you sir
Exactly what i did, no reply... thus i know what to do
Move on, i just wish people on both sides should stop messing others about.
Exactly what i did, no reply... thus i know what to do
Move on
, i just wish people on both sides should stop messing others about.snip....
Got the picnic food ready for tomorrow and now my plans are shafted
Not happy at all
It could be she's no longer interested it could be the truth. Personally I'd say just leave it be. She's the one who cancelled so wait to see if she gets in contact, leave the ball in her court and don't chase. If she's interested she'll soon contact you. If she doesn't well you have your answer.
I had a similar situation with a guy a couple of years ago. Friends kept saying "oh he's probably just busy etc, send him a text" i'd send one and occasionally get replies implying he was still interested to go on another date but then nothing would be finalised. Turned out he had another girl on the scene.
Ironically we are friends now (he knows I'm not interested in him anymore) but it took a while to get to that point.
As for the picnic take me
I love picnic's. Wait...you do have cocktail sausages right? Can't have a picnic without them 
As for the picnic take me
Well i've seen your profile and although you would be a perfect match for me and yes i'd love to take you out for a picnic. Alas you are to far but there are many things in your profile i could talk about back and forth
Shame, but i'm sure you wont have any problems finding the right person for you x
As for the picnic take me
Aww, bless - go for it!!!
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