Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I meant to imply her lack of communication :o

In my experience, most are "fishing" (clue's in the name) and unless you seriously rings someone's bell 85% visually, 15% with your profile then you won't get anything from it. I've had great communication until things get personal and they realise you don't have a 5-bed house in the country or an internet penis.

Anyway, the best connections are made in person. If two people visually connect, they'll connect. If there's an environmental factor in common such as kids, dogs, hobby etc then it really does go from there.

Hate to say it but y'all need to get out more. Expect nothing from PoF but if something does come from it; bonus.

Oh I get out plenty and put less faith in this online dating thing than I may have let on in the past. I may have a date tomorrow night with a girl I started talking to yesterday and if this blows up in my face and leaves me covered in proverbial faeces, I won't spend a single minute longer on Match as there's literally no point paying to go around wrestling your way through trash cans in the hope to find a diamond.

You'd think people would take Match slightly more serious since you're paying good money for the service, but you'd be wrong. Anyway, no harm done. Was an interesting experience all together and one I glad I did. Had fun dates and almost met someone for the long term.
 
I may have a date tomorrow night with a girl I started talking to yesterday
Good luck.

You'd think people would take Match slightly more serious since you're paying good money for the service, but you'd be wrong.
I think it's a common but understandable misconception. 98% of the online dating population (free or not) are doing it for the same reasons so the odds of two genuine people hooking up are slim.
 
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Absolutely rubbish. It works but only if both of you are committed enough.

Agreed - Wasn't Ahleckz the guy who was getting upset over generalisations over the definition of the term "alcoholic" in a different thread? Bit rich :p

For how long though?

In my case, 5 years. We're getting married next year.
 
This weekend 10 different people msg'd me. I am very unproud to say I have replied to none. 9 years ago I would have begged for even a sniff at a girl, and I feel like a complete tool for becoming someone who doesn't pay back his dues.
Yet, attraction is everything!! If I didn't get a pathetic self esteem boost from being on there, then I would delete my profile, but, every now and then a very good looking girl msgs me and and I stay. :s

I feel sorry for the girls I'm due to meet, I clearly have issues from my ex :/
This isn't a bragging post, I'm genuinely messed up morally by the fact I can be so callus.
 
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I feel sorry for the girls I'm due to meet, I clearly have issues from my ex :/
This isn't a bragging post, I'm genuinely messed up morally by the fact I can be so callus.

Honestly, do them a favour and don't meet them then. There's already enough people around with emotional baggage, don't need to be creating any more.
 
Honestly, do them a favour and don't meet them then. There's already enough people around with emotional baggage, don't need to be creating any more.

Don't get me wrong, I want to meet them and I'm nothing but a gent to them. What I meant is I think my ex made me feel worthless, and now I'm a little aghast when I get complimented.
 
What is it with one liners, this is getting seriously ridiculous, I just asked a load of questions and get "I like to shop, drink, chill, days out, sleep, you?"

I wouldn't mind but she messaged me first. I've been talking to someone else for a week but it's just been friendly banter really, all the girls around my age on there are ready to "settle down".. I don't think this online stuff is going anywhere to be honest but I'm slightly addicted, a bit like OCUK really.

I'm going on the pull after my holiday (and no I can't on holiday I'm with the family :D).
 
What is it with one liners, this is getting seriously ridiculous, I just asked a load of questions and get "I like to shop, drink, chill, days out, sleep, you?"

I wouldn't mind but she messaged me first. I've been talking to someone else for a week but it's just been friendly banter really, all the girls around my age on there are ready to "settle down".. I don't think this online stuff is going anywhere to be honest but I'm slightly addicted, a bit like OCUK really.

I'm going on the pull after my holiday (and no I can't on holiday I'm with the family :D).

That's cause msg'ing is boring. Just arrange sooner, rather than later.
 
That's cause msg'ing is boring. Just arrange sooner, rather than later.

I'm not going to arrange a date with someone who can only write 2 lines, albeit if I find them attractive they have to show an interest. I've only just learned some good ice breakers which isn't really working..
 
I met my gf on plenty of fish about a month ago. Hit it off awesome and now I'm a happy chap . Uncool using a website but its worked mint :D
 
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Heh dont think im cut out for this dating lark anymore, been on 3 dates so far, first one went badly as she looked nothing like the pictures and never said a word, 2nd she didnt turn up at all, despite texting me saying she was 10mins away, waited an extra 40 mins, so she probably sat somewhere laughing her arse off, and the 3rd just didnt work, thought we had something in common and could talk about but in person it didnt work, was odd.

Lots of people supposedly want to meet me according to PoF, but im yet to hear anything back from any of them. Maybe its me i dunno..anyway rant over :)

I think as others have said you will know when it's the "right" girl. I haven't done the internet dating thing seriously (was on PoF for a couple of months last summer) but over the last six months or so I got on with a few girls I've met through uni, some are just people you think you like but only chat with, one I went on a date with (who subsequently stopped talking to me (wow, must have been good...)* and another I met one evening whilst away. The point is they were all "maybe I like them" girls. You then meet someone that just blows your socks off and you remember what attraction really feels like

So yeah... Keep at it and you will realise just what the right girl feels like when you meet them.

*No spark at all, from either side apparently, shame as she was hot...:p

EDIT: reading your post again my reply isn't necessarily relevant, guess I misread it a bit... Either way keep it up, you'll find someone eventually.

Well I did 'long-distance' from the US to the UK for 2.5 years and now coming up to our 2nd wedding anniversary :p

Basically for it to work you have to both be ridiculously awesome, as any chinks or flaws in the relationship are magnified a billion-fold to the power of the distance.

Out of interest how did you keep it up with your GF (not in the sexual way... ;))?

I've managed to get myself into what looks like it may be another long distance relationship, after promising myself never again after the last relationship ended up as one. This time it's not a few hours drive/train journey but transatlantic which is a little annoying... Any tips for dating an american girl long distance ;). Also a bit of a personal question but I'm intrigued, did you "fast forward" your marriage due to making it easier to live together?

Only if there is a clear end/goal in sight. However most times it fizzles and dies... had many friends who have tried it, thought they were committed, only to end in tears. Relationships need regular physical contact to work, and it takes an extraordinarily dedicated set of minds to make it work when that is lacking imo.

I agree with that, no end goal and there is no point. You both have to be very dedicated but also independent and able to have your own space. The end goal is the most difficult thing I think as it will invariably end up with one of you compromising for the other, for example leaving family and friends and moving to where one of you lives etc., which can be easy or difficult depending on how comitted you are to each other and to your family, not forgetting jobs and employment options.
 
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Damn it :(

Spoke to this girl got on really well, liked her writing style and i felt a tiny spark :p. 24hrs later, i get a reply. I reply back, 36hrs later she replies, I reply and basically say what i'm doing would she like to come with me. Message READ, hasn't been on POF since.

Last message was wednesday :(

*shakes head*
 
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