Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Actually he did the wrong thing. All he had to do was be patient and hook up with her when she is free, tap her then leave.

By ending it shortly he missed a chance, and there was nothing stopping him looking for other girls in the process.

She's wasting my time, I have been looking for other girls but I changed my plans this weekend to accommodate her and she does this. **** it.
 
Wrong attitude dude.

You need to just carry on with your life and just meet up with her when it's good for you. That way you don't lose out on anything such as your weekend. But now you lost everything because you didn't see the long term gain.

Always keep them at arms length as this stage of the relationship and you will get hurt less.
 
What was it before?

Just too much talking i think, simplified it a bit

Sent some messages out, So if they read the messages is that a good thing ? one girl has read it, and another has read deleted, i am guessing unread delete is pretty bad lol

How much talking do you guys do in your opening messages ? i am just keeping it simple, question about there profile, then are they alright today
 
Example of the messages ? or my profile text ?

An example of two messages is

"Hello you, your job sounds interesting! how are you today ? hungover i hope ?" - which got read and not deleted

"Hello you, how are you today ? what is your degree in ?" - Read and then deleted

My profile now says

Hello

My Name is Thomas and i reside in a town called Worksop

Looking for a nice girl to spend some time with

Things i like

Nice cars, Business, Money, Drilling rigs, Law, Politics

I am sure i would love to talk to you so send me a message

Bye!
 
Things i like

Nice cars, Business, Money, Drilling rigs, Law, Politics

Are you trying to attract a girl, or a bloke to have a chat with down the pub?

Why would you ever think its a good idea to list that you have an interest in 'drilling rigs' and 'money' in an online dating profile?!
 
haha point conceded, i don't know! i felt like i was talking about too many different things in my old profile text so just made it a bit more generalized, i would love them to ask about a drilling rig lol

Whats in your profile text under interests ? BMW's :P (sorry couldn't resist)
 
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Wrong attitude dude.

You need to just carry on with your life and just meet up with her when it's good for you. That way you don't lose out on anything such as your weekend. But now you lost everything because you didn't see the long term gain.

Always keep them at arms length as this stage of the relationship and you will get hurt less.

TBH dude you sound like a "player", and I'm not saying that in a good way. Not everyone wants to jump from girl to girl putting up with annoying women just for sex. If a girl offered me sex on a plate on the first date I'd be very surprised and unless they were something exceptional probably would't be going out on a second date... On the other hand the women I (and I'm guessing a lot go guys in this thread) go out with/ are attracted to aren't that kind of girl anyway... ;)
 
Example of the messages ? or my profile text ?

An example of two messages is

"Hello you, your job sounds interesting! how are you today ? hungover i hope ?" - which got read and not deleted

"Hello you, how are you today ? what is your degree in ?" - Read and then deleted

My profile now says

Hello

My Name is Thomas and i reside in a town called Worksop

Looking for a nice girl to spend some time with

Things i like

Nice cars, Business, Money, Drilling rigs, Law, Politics

I am sure i would love to talk to you so send me a message

Bye!

Both messages sound like the generic "send to every girl" message.

Not that my messages are likely to be any good (get less than 1 in 3 replies) but I usually do something like this:

Hey ****,

So Australia hey? It's one of the places I'd love to go to, but never been yet, how was it? I'm not a budding chef but I do make have some mean chocolate dishes and could probably rustle up a strawberry/chocolate fondu as well if the occasion asked for it!

Anyway, I saw your profile and thought I'd send you a message to say hi. Perhaps we could meet up some time and see how things go?

****

Something like that anyway. At least two or three things picked out of their profile so they know it's not a copy and paste. I made a female friend from one of the sites and talk to her regularly, she has mentioned before messages get deleted if they seem remotely generic.
 
Hmm i guess, not sure what to think, on one hand it seems a bit unnatural to write an essay to a person who in reality you know very little about and all your after really is to see if they like your pictures and they want to talk back, but on the other hand you don't want to come across like your copying and pasting i agree.

A couple i have picked up on the odd thing and wrote a bit more, one said she is running her own business and i asked her a few questions about that
 
"Hello you, your job sounds interesting! how are you today ? hungover i hope ?" - which got read and not deleted

Should have been:

Hey there,

*My friend is in the same job and they say it's really good/hard/ect*, you enjoy it? Did you have a nice night out? Hope it went well and you had fun!

"Hello you, how are you today ? what is your degree in ?" - Read and then deleted

Hello there,

How are you today? Just read your profile and you look like a girl I should get to know, what you're studying?

Hope you're not too busy studying to reply! Would love to talk more.

Hello

My Name is Thomas and i reside in a town called Worksop

Looking for a nice girl to spend some time with

Things i like

Nice cars, Business, Money, Drilling rigs, Law, Politics

I am sure i would love to talk to you so send me a message

Bye!


Hello everyone!

My name is Thomas and I live in a small town called Workshop, very few girls here so I have giving [insert site name] a go to meet some nice [insert gender] and make some friends a long the way.

I work as a [insert job] [insert comment about job]. I one day want to start my own business in [make it up].

In my spare time and love to talk about the dynamics of business, politics, world events and the law that surrounds them. I find this is a great way to meet new and interesting people, who aren't afraid to share their ideals and opinions. I have an odd interest in large scale drilling so engineers are more than welcome to message me!. In my spare time I like to drive various cars [list a few]and go for long drives and hopefully be able to find someone from here with a like minded [gender] with similar interests to share the cruise with or who is just looking for a good time out.

[insert anything else]

Looking forward to meeting those who are interested and thanks for looking!

_______

Something like that, though I am only adjusting what I am giving but this should help you get a few messages.
 
Hello everyone!

My name is Thomas and I live in a small town called Workshop, very few girls here so I have giving POF a go to meet some nice girls and make some friends a long the way.

I work as a Construction Project Manager at mine and my dads Company which i enjoy. << perhaps add something here about doing a part time masters ?

In my spare time and love to talk about the dynamics of business, politics, world events and the law that surrounds them. I find this is a great way to meet new and interesting people, who aren't afraid to share their ideals and opinions.

In my spare time i enjoy driving my car and going to see bands around the country.

Looking forward to meeting those who are interested and thanks for looking!

Better ?
 
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Hello everyone!

My name is Thomas and I live in a small town called Workshop, very few girls here so I am giving POF a go to meet some nice girls and make some friends a long the way.

I work in a family business as a Construction Project Manager. while studying a part time masters in [subject].

In my spare time I love to talk about the dynamics and entrances of business, politics, world events and the law that surrounds them. I find this is a great way to meet new and interesting people, who aren't afraid to share their ideals and opinions although I am very open minded about all subjects.

In my spare time I also enjoy driving my car and going to gigs and concerts around the country.

Looking forward to meeting those who are interested and thanks for looking!

_____

This should suffice I guess.


Sorry, what was that, I fell asleep. :D

Clearly not your type then ;)
 
Wrong attitude dude.

You need to just carry on with your life and just meet up with her when it's good for you. That way you don't lose out on anything such as your weekend. But now you lost everything because you didn't see the long term gain.

Always keep them at arms length as this stage of the relationship and you will get hurt less.

Why would I want a relationship with a woman who says she'll keep Sunday free to meet in the late morning, then fails to make any arrangements, ignored me when I asked when/where she wants to meet and then texts me in the afternoon to say she's in bed hungover and doesn't understand why I am a tiny bit irritated and says she's done nothing wrong. I have no time for self centred idiots, this is the 3rd time she's cancelled, I have no interest and I do not wish to see her. I'm not in it for a 'smash', I want a long term relationship.

I always plan my weekends up in advance because I am on call, so I've got no real problem in chopping and changing my plans. I just have 0 time for selfish people.
 
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