Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Nice one Mr K. :) Seems like it's worked out for you - one less single London lady though!! :( LOL! :D

She's a stunner mate, and hope that the connection lasts and is not short lived. :)
 
tisonlyme said:
Yeah I only ever write 'freestyle' messages. The way I see it, if a guy sends me a message and has made it clear that he's read my profile properly, rather than just looking at my pics, I'm more likely to respond to him. So I try to mention things about their interests, ask them relevant questions etc. It doesn't have to be an essay, but a small effort is always nice :)


Now, when someone sends me a message like 'Hi hows u u lk fit wanna chat?' I also respond to them by telling them their message was rubbish and to make more of an effort next time ;)
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Interesting.
When I dabbled with online dating around 5 years ago I had the same philosophy (i.e. I'd want to make it clear that I'd read the profile, looked for common interests to ask questions about etc). I'd probably spend at least 15mins composing/tweaking an initial message and wanted to stand out from the crowd. If I commented on a photo it'd be more along the lines of asking where it was taken rather than "wow hunni ur smile is amazin!! xx" etc

I think that some women find that a little creepy though and I eventually came to the conclusion that it was better to just play the numbers game, i.e. spend only like 1min per message and just send something short and chirpy to a large number of women rather than just concentrating on a couple. That way even if only 20% reply you still get some openings.

In essence I think it boiled down to a basic lack of understanding of women; I figured most of them would get dozens of messages every day telling them how great they looked and would be fed up and think the blokes only wanted one thing. I thought that showing genuine interest in them as a person would be a good move and that most of the women wanted something a bit deeper than a throwaway line used 100 times before. But of course most women want to have excitement, get laid etc too and I probably came across as boring/overbearing.
 
Nix said:
Nice one Krootz. Hope it works out for you. :)

If not, well... there's always Freefaller. ;)
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:D

We've spent another 6 hours together, and this is going to be nothing short of amazing.

Neither of us can believe that we found eachother through a free dating website, we are absolutely perfect for eachother in EVERY conceivable way, woohoo!!
 
Well I signed up to Match at the start of January, but didn't actually pay up and fully subscribe until Valentines day. The first email waiting for me had been sat there for nearly a month and was going to be automatically deleted the next day, so I read it and replied the very same moment...

We've now been together just over a month and we're going for our first weekend away up to Loch Lomond next week. To say I'm happy would be the biggest understatement in the world.

And to think if I'd left it another day to subscribe, we'd probably never have met...

:)
 
tisonlyme said:
Well I signed up to Match at the start of January, but didn't actually pay up and fully subscribe until Valentines day. The first email waiting for me had been sat there for nearly a month and was going to be automatically deleted the next day, so I read it and replied the very same moment...

We've now been together just over a month and we're going for our first weekend away up to Loch Lomond next week. To say I'm happy would be the biggest understatement in the world.

And to think if I'd left it another day to subscribe, we'd probably never have met...

:)
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*high fives*

Woot for the interwebz!

Yeah, she contacted me, and I wouldn't have noticed her profile had she not, as we were never on the site at the same time, and I tend to search by the people most recently online.

Coupled with the fact that her POF pictures did her a severe injustice given how amazingly gorgeous she is, I couldn't be happier with the way things have panned out.

We've been in contact for just over a month, and seen eachother 4 times, but already both agree that this is what we want and that we are now a couple, lol!

Talk about your whirlwind romances!

Roll on Summer and trips to Brighton! :D
 
Took a few lasses out and made a good few friends off that site but nothing more. However, I've been dating someone I met through a family friend which has been going well but I'm at that stage where I'm terrified of getting involved, as my selfish side can see all the fun stuff I like to do with mates, and the ability to buy myself expensive gadgets and the like taking a hit. Meh. :confused:

I think I've only been seeing/dating women lately through peer pressure from family. I think I'm quite happy being single tbh :D
 
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Hedge said:
I found the most unbelievably hot woman on that PoF site.

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member10929530.htm

Id sell me left nut to take her out. God damn!
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She is hot. im not signing up to message her though

My first (proper, well sort of proper) date i met through an internet chat room when i was 15. One of those really old ones that mainly peados lurked. Turned out she was 16, female, and not a 50 year old fat man!

I ended up meeting her a few times then sacked her off because she lived too far away
 
krooton said:
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Is it just me that noticed she looks a bit like the slightly loony bird who married Dirty Den in Eastenders? :D
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Extremely early days yet (like first date today) but I have met an awesome lady at last..
I am actually struggling to find any bad points which is very unlike me..
No idea what she thinks of me yet... we'll see if she ever replies after todays rather boring >drinks > meal > shopping.
I fail at making a fun day out.

No pics yet as the one she put up on the site does her no justice whatsoever (good for me anyway)

Fingers crossed. :cool:
 
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I'd like to say that this woman is actually perfect. Every single aspect of her is EXACTLY what I want in a woman.

Colour me besotted, lol!
 
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Ahhh so your the one she went for in the end??..damn i thought she was the one for me too....hmmm no wonder she went cold turkey on me....











Nah seriously well done Krooton...shes a stunning lass...nice bod on her ;):p


As for me i dont use pof, i did join up but havent bothered to log on etc. I use girls date for free and have pretty good success on there...at the moment i have a woman thats from Hereford whos really into me...been on the phone for a few good hrs and shes hot as hell. So probably go and see her this weekend...cant wait.
 
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It's shocking how many people say "We've got so much in common" and it's usually really insignificant, non unique and totally unrelated to wheter a relationship will work or not, like music, and films.

Not only that, if if someone does have the same interests, once you get to know people for who they really are they are totally different, everyone's always acting as ambassador on themselves putting on a show.

Spend a few months living with them and it's a whole new story, so guys, beware, don't get all head over heels so soon :p

I've already posted on this thread about meeting a canadian girl, we've met twice but I'm having my doubts now and called it.
 
Wow Chris, what a way to put a downer on things! The guy I'm with has completely different tastes in music/film/most things compared to me. But we have similar goals in life, similar personalities, values, sense of humour etc. so we're pretty much awesome together :p

Well done Krooton, I'm seriously chuffed for you, you sound so happy! :D
 
ChrisJSY said:
It's shocking how many people say "We've got so much in common" and it's usually really insignificant, non unique and totally unrelated to wheter a relationship will work or not, like music, and films.

Not only that, if if someone does have the same interests, once you get to know people for who they really are they are totally different, everyone's always acting as ambassador on themselves putting on a show.

Spend a few months living with them and it's a whole new story, so guys, beware, don't get all head over heels so soon :p

I've already posted on this thread about meeting a canadian girl, we've met twice but I'm having my doubts now and called it.
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That just it, all my past relationships did get started based on the external similarities we had, music taste, clubbing, those things drew my exes and I together.

This time it's different.

Who we are as people, our views on life, morals, values, eccentricities, the core important things are what we match up identically on. She's odd, positive, cheeky, child-like, honest, caring, and so many other things.

The the icing on the cake is that we actually do like the same external things, like dance music, foods, movies that sorta stuff.

Then the cherry on top is that we both find eachother excessively attractive, lol!

Neither of us can believe that we managed to find eachother, as we both blow eachother away and can't understand why either of us were even single, haha!
 
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