Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Richdog said:
It's not the result of the dating site. The result of the dating site was the marriage, the result of 10 years of marriage was the divorce. The dating site did it's job, the rest was down to people. I don't think the logic behind that is too complicated..
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Agreed. Pretty much every method of hooking up ever used will have led in at least one case to seperation with kids, from gavilanting at nightclubs, to water-cooler chats at work, to gyms, to blind dates etc.

Also worth bearing in mind that a 10 year marriage followed by 6-month seperation realistically means the initial online dating probably started as far back as 2000 when online dating was very much a niche sector and just starting to find its feet. You won't find any 20 year success stories simply because online dating hasn't been around that long.

Probably a time will come when online dating isn't even really seen as an independent, special form of dating that needs to be judged seperately, it will just be considered part of dating in general. Essentially in the same way that online communication in general is now becoming more mainstream and generally accepted e.g. communication via social networks rather than say phone or text no longer being considered a bit strange. I know back when I looked into online dating many years ago the idea that you'd talk to people online (in general not specifically for dating) was a bit of a taboo area unless you were with others who you knew did the same.
 
ok, so chatted to this nice '25' year old off a dating site. everything was going ok, she added me to Skype, which was easier to chat, then facebook. all seemed fine, and then something started to dawn on me, her birthday on Skype and facebook was 1995. now im no maths expert, but that didn't make her 25 :eek: she is only 17 :( why lie on a dating site, then freely give out info that contradicts it.
 
KillBoY_UK said:
As old boss from my uni job used to say (many years ago) used to say

(in a northern accent) "if there old enough to bleed the bleeding old enough"
and yes he was dirty old man of a boss lol
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:( if there's grass on the wicket, lets play cricket...

Was chatting to a mate about this on the car journey home last night, we're in our early/mid 20's now and the established rule is now they have to be able to hold their drink for it to be worth going for... Nothing more cringe worthy than talking about someone going with a girl who's sick on the way back.
 
I got a free 3 day trial on match.com if anyone wants to give it a go. I already had the free account and there was an ad for it when I was logged in. Remember to cancel your subscription though if you don't want it to auto renew and charge you after 3 days.

Was useful so I could read emails I'd received. Not sure if it's available to everyone but worth a try.
 
so went for my second date and there wasnt the same "click" as the first date, She was a nice lass so i was prepared to give it another shot but she text me to elt me know that she had enjoyed herself but she doesnt see a future in it.


on to the next one....!
 
What would you do in the following situation?

I've seen this girl for two months now and we're going steady. We're a couple. Everything goes well, sex is good. We can talk for hours. You get the idea. So last Thursday I saw her, had dinner, wine, a nice desert. Went back to hers. Though, I had to leave at midnight to be ready to travel with work the next day. Dropped her a text Friday. No reply. Saturday afternoon asking to catch up. No reply.

See, now I've reached my self imposed limit of amount of messages I'll send a girl without reply.

So feeling kind I send one more last night asking if she's doing ok. No reply.

This morning, with her out of my mind already, I hop back on OkCupid and trap a nice and leggy Italian broad for Wednesday night. Lovely cheekbones and 'just interested in sex'. If I play my cards right off course. No worries there, I only carry aces :)

Literally 10min ago the 'ex' drop a message 'Hey, sorry, was SO busy, let's catch up tomorrow'.

Whaaat? Nothing for almost FOUR days and now she wants to catch up? I mean, had we've been married for 10 years I may have welcomed the silence, but you don't pull that tricks with someone new. And I KNOW she purposely done it as a test of some sort. It's after all a woman, they cannot help themselves.

Now, my question is, what would YOU do?

I know what I'm going to do, but just curious as to how fellow OCUK'ers would've reacted.

And yes, I off course are going to bang the Eye-Talian and never bother with the Swede* again.


*The chick I'm about to dump by never getting back to her again is Swedish.
 
regulus said:
What would you do in the following situation?

I've seen this girl for two months now and we're going steady. We're a couple. Everything goes well, sex is good. We can talk for hours. You get the idea. So last Thursday I saw her, had dinner, wine, a nice desert. Went back to hers. Though, I had to leave at midnight to be ready to travel with work the next day. Dropped her a text Friday. No reply. Saturday afternoon asking to catch up. No reply.

See, now I've reached my self imposed limit of amount of messages I'll send a girl without reply.

So feeling kind I send one more last night asking if she's doing ok. No reply.

This morning, with her out of my mind already, I hop back on OkCupid and trap a nice and leggy Italian broad for Wednesday night. Lovely cheekbones and 'just interested in sex'. If I play my cards right off course. No worries there, I only carry aces :)

Literally 10min ago the 'ex' drop a message 'Hey, sorry, was SO busy, let's catch up tomorrow'.

Whaaat? Nothing for almost FOUR days and now she wants to catch up? I mean, had we've been married for 10 years I may have welcomed the silence, but you don't pull that tricks with someone new. And I KNOW she purposely done it as a test of some sort. It's after all a woman, they cannot help themselves.

Now, my question is, what would YOU do?

I know what I'm going to do, but just curious as to how fellow OCUK'ers would've reacted.

And yes, I off course are going to bang the Eye-Talian and never bother with the Swede* again.


*The chick I'm about to dump by never getting back to her again is Swedish.
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wuut? What was that all about? Really that was some kinda attention seeking thing.. she was interested to see how much you "Care" or something.. the fact that she actually messed up is funny :) and i would probably do the same thing you're going to do.. 4 days is no excuse to being busy.. one evening yes but cmon.. a text takes all of 10s to reply :) but then again, i hate when i get ignored :o
 
grudas said:
wuut? What was that all about? Really that was some kinda attention seeking thing.. she was interested to see how much you "Care" or something.. the fact that she actually messed up is funny :) and i would probably do the same thing you're going to do.. 4 days is no excuse to being busy.. one evening yes but cmon.. a text takes all of 10s to reply :) but then again, i hate when i get ignored :o
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I don't, but it's a pet HATE of mine if someone think they can play me. Ignore me and never get back to me, it doesn't bother me an iota, but don't pull the 'busy' card on me, you're BS'ing and know it.
 
Phate said:
Anyone fancy giving my profile a once over and see what they think/critique?

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=42151069

Ta! :) I personally quite like it and think its certainly better than some 'efforts' you see on there, but hey ho a 3rd persons opinion would be good :)
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Bits I don't like:

I love wearing a suit/looking smart, human psychology dictates that whether you admit it or not you always judge someone within 4 seconds of seeing them, so first impressions always count!
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I would reword it, because: "human psychology dictates that whether you admit it or not" is an unwieldy and inelegant phrase, and in my opinion doesn't make the sentence read well.

I'm quite geeky,
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No matter whether you intend that as cheeky self-deprecation, it will put some women off when they read it. If you want to keep it, then I wouldn't start the paragraph with it as though it's some kind of defining feature, work it into the middle or end somewhere and reword it more innocuously as a small character trait so a woman is more likely to think it's "cute".

Hope you enjoyed the read! Even if I'm not your cup of tea :)
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That just suggests a slight lack of confidence and a certain neediness for someone to enjoy what you've written... if you're confident that your profile is well written then you don't need to draw attention to that aspect, or that you may not "be their cup of tea" (you'd be surprised how things like that can be suggestive)... just be cheeky and assume they do like it and that you are their cup of tea.

Otherwise the profile isn't too bad, but to me just seems slightly un-natural with how you've thrown random things in like "cold side of the pillow", "oreos" etc... i'm sure you want to portray a man with a sensitive and spontaneous side, but to my eye it just seems like it's been slightly shoehorned in there and doesn't flow so smoothly and naturally.

Anyway that's just my musings, feel free to regard or disregard as thou chooseth. :p
 
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