Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Redman said:
There's a difference between having a preference & stating a (borderline racist, it makes me think of the 'no blacks' signs in b&b's/pubs etc from earlier times) definitive preference on a site visible to anyone. With me, it's a red flag. I'm white, state clearly in your profile no blacks/asians/whatever & you're not the girl for me, to me at least it implies a certain mindset. Just don't reply to people you don't find attractive, don't slate a race publicly.
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I can see your point but fortunately/unfortunately not everyone tip toe around the race issue and scream racism at the mere mention of a colour. I only date white women, always have and always will. Every single dating site ask you your preference. I state my preference. Some would not even let you send a message if you don't adhere to all the criteria. I know Match does something along those lines. Or you CAN send the message but there's some sort of issue to get around first.

Perhaps people should stop getting their backs up over trivial issues. People have their preferences, it's not going to change.
 
regulus said:
I can see your point but fortunately/unfortunately not everyone tip toe around the race issue and scream racism at the mere mention of a colour. I only date white women, always have and always will. Every single dating site ask you your preference. I state my preference. Some would not even let you send a message if you don't adhere to all the criteria. I know Match does something along those lines. Or you CAN send the message but there's some sort of issue to get around first.

Perhaps people should stop getting their backs up over trivial issues. People have their preferences, it's not going to change.
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I actually agree with you. However, people who write that stuff in their profile have, in my experience, more than preference as an issue. Just my experience, it's not a case of screaming racism at the mention of preference, sometimes it reveals more than it actually states.
 
it's dyed hair. i had a picture of dyed hair which i moved just seconds before posting the link on here. the image explained it's dyed but i may add some text to the most ginger image to explain.

i was going for a bit cheeky/confident/messing around don't take things too serious/but still serious/fun style for my profile.
 
shifty_uk said:
Righty chaps, think I need some advice on brushing up my profile :p

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=42850271

I've had a lot of dates lately....more in the last 2 months than I've ever had in my life, my way of dealing with coming out of a 4 year relationship with a total babe...About 40% of them have came from this website however, of all the girls I've seen from the site, either they just don't suit, aren't to my tastes or turn out to be nutters! Yes, nutters! Pictures are very misleading, aswell!

The girls I do find genuinely interesting, attractive, natural etc, all ignore me completely! :(

Any tips? Do I look like a prat? :p
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Your profile is okay but it isn't a million miles away from looking like a job application. :D

Spice it up a bit!
 
Man this is real irony... the moment I join dating sites I pick up twice in 1 week. Last Thursday a French girl, then last night a tall blonde Hungarian. Touch wood this run doesn't end. :D


shifty_uk said:
Righty chaps, think I need some advice on brushing up my profile :p

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=42850271

I've had a lot of dates lately....more in the last 2 months than I've ever had in my life, my way of dealing with coming out of a 4 year relationship with a total babe...About 40% of them have came from this website however, of all the girls I've seen from the site, either they just don't suit, aren't to my tastes or turn out to be nutters! Yes, nutters! Pictures are very misleading, aswell!

The girls I do find genuinely interesting, attractive, natural etc, all ignore me completely! :(

Any tips? Do I look like a prat? :p
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You look fine, it's just it's not a very interesting profile in the way its written. Needs spicing up and developing some more, and inject some humour into it.


Mammalian said:
what do you fine gentlemen think of my great profile?

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=43755490

don't be kind, i'm hard and can take it
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Sorry, but the photos are a tad gimpy and uncool. No offence, just being honest.
 
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Mammalian said:
sounds like they're spot on then :p i'm seriously not a cool guy at all so no offence taken.
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Even geek chicks like a guy to look their best on dating sites. It's nothing to do with how "cool" (I just used the word off-hand, not in a true sense, you know what I meant) you actually are, but everyone will judge you based on those pics, and I think many would be a bit put off, including girls you'd probably like to date and that would maybe suited to you. It's not complicated psychology... people look at photos and make snap decisions of whether to read the profile or not, so look your best and get better results. However, completely up to you I guess. :p
 
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Maybe theres someone out there? never know until you try right. I personally couldn't be bothered with all the messing around. At least when you see people face to face you know what your dealing with. For example, you talking to a hot chick, but infact, you actually talking to a 50 year old naked guy???

Just thought I'd put that out there.
 
Spider-man86 said:
Maybe theres someone out there? never know until you try right. I personally couldn't be bothered with all the messing around. At least when you see people face to face you know what your dealing with. For example, you talking to a hot chick, but infact, you actually talking to a 50 year old naked guy???

Just thought I'd put that out there.
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Sinny said:
I was just stating any guy would love a girl like that, sarcastically. But I often forget its hard to do satire over the internet :-D.

Plenty more fish as they say though.
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I still don't get it. At least she's being honest about it and telling people not to waste their time. It's the same as putting "straight" down, or "Will only meet non-smokers". It's just a preference.

I'd argue that your clearly OTT reaction is far more deplorable than her honesty.
 
Sinny said:
I was just stating any guy would love a girl like that, sarcastically. But I often forget its hard to do satire over the internet :-D.

Plenty more fish as they say though.
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I think it's ok to state a preference, I just think she wrote it in a way that may be offensive to the PC-sensitive crowd. If you're not interested in Asian guys sexually then you're just not interested, there's no changing that, and as there are a lot of Asian guys on POF I guess it may save having to read a lot of messages.


Zefan said:
I still don't get it. At least she's being honest about it and telling people not to waste their time. It's the same as putting "straight" down, or "Will only meet non-smokers". It's just a preference.

I'd argue that your clearly OTT reaction is far more deplorable than her honesty.
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Well, i'd argue anything involving race isn't the same as anything involving smoking. Hardly "deplorable" in either respect though. :p
 
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Richdog said:
I think it's ok to state a preference, I just think she wrote it in a way that may be offensive to the PC-sensitive crowd. If you're not interested in Asian guys sexually then you're just not interested, there's no changing that, and as there are a lot of Asian guys on POF I guess it may save having to read a lot of messages.




Well, i'd argue anything involving race isn't the same as anything involving smoking. Hardly "deplorable" in either respect though. :p
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I think it's fair enough to have a preference, everyone has them. I just find it very unattractive if someone states it on their profile. Just Ignore any messages from races you don't really like, it's just not in my taste to find someone attractive if they state it.

who am I to say though, I get messages from some absolute wombles all the time *forever alone* :D
 
When I was on POF I purposely selected my ethnicity as 'Other' to reduce the number of messages I receive from Asians (a lot of Asians search for Asians). I prefer not to date Asians but I didn't state that in my profile as I thought it would be rude.
 
Richdog said:
Well, i'd argue anything involving race isn't the same as anything involving smoking. Hardly "deplorable" in either respect though. :p
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What about height? Some people will only date people over/under a certain height. Is that as bad? Both your race and your height are genetic traits so it should be just as bad.
 
Zefan said:
What about height? Some people will only date people over/under a certain height. Is that as bad? Both your race and your height are genetic traits so it should be just as bad.
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Sometimes I wonder if you are just subtly trolling, because surely no-one could seriously compare race and height as the same side of the coin and then use the "but it's genetics" argument to tie them together as of equal sensitivity and import. No... just, no. :p
 
Richdog said:
Sometimes I wonder if you are just subtly trolling, because surely no-one could seriously compare race and height as the same side of the coin and then use the "but it's genetics" argument to tie them together as of equal sensitivity and import. No... just, no. :p
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A lot of the time I am just playing devil's advocate, and I will admit that this point means little/nothing to me and I just like highlighting other's flawed logic.

How is it any different? Race = not something you can change. Height = not something you can change. Some women only like to date black guys, and they say so on their profiles.

There's only one thing worse than racism, and that's people being so scared of being racist that they pussyfoot around for a year and a day "in case someone gets offended :(:(:(" instead of just coming out with their perfectly reasonable opinion or preference.
 
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