Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Richdog · 24 Nov 2012 at 18:11

DJMK4 said:
Seem to be getting a few messages from older women as of late on my iPhone app. Will have to see how this pans out

Which app is that, and how much older? :eek:

gambitt said:
Your opinion means everything to me.

It certainly seems to mean something to you, or you wouldn't have your knickers in such a twist.

DJMK4 · 24 Nov 2012 at 18:48

Richdog said:
Which app is that, and how much older?

It certainly seems to mean something to you, or you wouldn't have your knickers in such a twist.

I am 28 myself, Just use SKOUT on the iPhone, it's better than plenty of fish I find. But yeah you search for people more in your age range, try and spark up a conversation and most of them cannot be bothered to have a decent conversation so I am finding myself talking to 29-36 sort of range at the moment

gambitt · 24 Nov 2012 at 18:54

Richdog said:
It certainly seems to mean something to you, or you wouldn't have your knickers in such a twist.

Yes, my knickers are so twisted that I'm on the verge of having a hissy-fit meltdown because a girl found out that I called her fat.

Richdog · 24 Nov 2012 at 18:55

gambitt said:
Yes, my knickers are so twisted that I'm on the verge of having a hissy-fit meltdown because a girl found out that I called her fat.

lurkio · 24 Nov 2012 at 19:42

gets popcorn

silversurfer · 24 Nov 2012 at 19:54

Is fat and pointy elbows mutually exclusive or a possible double whammy

Richdog · 25 Nov 2012 at 10:20

gambitt said:
Moreweirdness

You're starting to really cross the line now by posting my photos, don't make this too personal.

Von Smallhausen · 25 Nov 2012 at 10:25

gambitt, don't post pics of other members without their permission.

gambitt · 25 Nov 2012 at 10:59

I just received a very threatening email from someone that definitely wasn't Richdog. In response to your question, no, I do not want my face smashed in but thank you for the kind offer.

Richdog · 25 Nov 2012 at 11:05

gambitt said:
I just received a very threatening email from someone that definitely wasn't Richdog. In response to your question, no, I do not want my face smashed in but thank you for the kind offer.

Wow, how low are you going to stoop? Are you seriously this mental? :confused:

For the record people, I did not and would never send an email like that. Disturbing, and reported to mods.

NeoReloaded · 25 Nov 2012 at 14:57

I'm not seeing any one at the moment, but heres a question for ya! Is it normal at the start of something to txt loads and then after a few weeks just a few txts a day and some times not even have contact for a day or two at a time?

Richdog · 25 Nov 2012 at 14:58

NeoReloaded said:
I'm not seeing any one at the moment, but heres a question for ya! Is it normal at the start of something to txt loads and then after a few weeks just a few txts a day and some times not even have contact for a day or two at a time?

Usually a clear sign of dwindling interest, sadly.

Voltar · 25 Nov 2012 at 15:12

I would like to thank gambitt for attempting to hijack and ruin what was a helpful thread. Your behaviour is nothing short of shocking and I still cannot believe it has been allowed to continue unchecked.

I wanted to read about other people's experiences and to get advice. Ill ask for some advice, but no doubt will get trolled as has sadly become very prevalent in more recent years here.

Essentially, I met someone online, met up, knew she was really keen, didn't think she was particularly attractive and photo didn't match etc. But I thought I'd see what happened so met up again resulting in "smashing success" . Then left it a week or so and she's very keen so meet up again with the same result. Thing is I don't particularly fancy her, she seems like a nice girl but I don't want to jerk her around and lead her on. She is nice but I don't feel any particularly chemistry or spark there. It's been 3 dates and I get the impression she is super keen and I'm just not.
Question is how do I let someone down gently? I've not been the dumper in this type of situation so would appreciate some advice.

Yes it could come across as shallow because there's nothing wrong with her, but I just don't fancy her that much but wanted to give her a chance to have her personality shine through and win me over. It hasn't really. Very nice girl but I just can't see it going anywhere for me.

Any help appreciated guys.

bertles86 · 25 Nov 2012 at 15:39

Voltar said:
I would like to thank gambitt for attempting to hijack and ruin what was a helpful thread. Your behaviour is nothing short of shocking and I still cannot believe it has been allowed to continue unchecked.

I wanted to read about other people's experiences and to get advice. Ill ask for some advice, but no doubt will get trolled as has sadly become very prevalent in more recent years here.

Essentially, I met someone online, met up, knew she was really keen, didn't think she was particularly attractive and photo didn't match etc. But I thought I'd see what happened so met up again resulting in "smashing success" . Then left it a week or so and she's very keen so meet up again with the same result. Thing is I don't particularly fancy her, she seems like a nice girl but I don't want to jerk her around and lead her on. She is nice but I don't feel any particularly chemistry or spark there. It's been 3 dates and I get the impression she is super keen and I'm just not.
Question is how do I let someone down gently? I've not been the dumper in this type of situation so would appreciate some advice.

Yes it could come across as shallow because there's nothing wrong with her, but I just don't fancy her that much but wanted to give her a chance to have her personality shine through and win me over. It hasn't really. Very nice girl but I just can't see it going anywhere for me.

Any help appreciated guys.

Voltar...

As its only been a few dates, text is fine. Be honest. 'I don't feel that spark, you're lovely but not for me.'

Simples.

gambitt · 25 Nov 2012 at 15:48

Hi Voltar, thank you for your valued opinion. Unfortunately, your gripe is with the moderating team, as you appear to be questioning their ability to do their jobs properly. Perhaps you can draft a twelve page letter detailing what you "cannot believe" and pointing out their shortcomings. Don't forget to tell them you were shocked.

As for your request for assistance, please post a photo of this lady so we can advise accordingly.

Voltar · 25 Nov 2012 at 15:54

bertles86 said:
Voltar...

As its only been a few dates, text is fine. Be honest. 'I don't feel that spark, you're lovely but not for me.'

Simples.

Thanks for the advice. I'm just a bit hesitant as it feels quite impersonal to do by text or even a bit disrespectful. In a way I think it may be best to do it sooner rather than later as that is worse really.

Richdog · 25 Nov 2012 at 15:56

Voltar said:
I would like to thank gambitt for attempting to hijack and ruin what was a helpful thread. Your behaviour is nothing short of shocking and I still cannot believe it has been allowed to continue unchecked.

I wanted to read about other people's experiences and to get advice. Ill ask for some advice, but no doubt will get trolled as has sadly become very prevalent in more recent years here.

Essentially, I met someone online, met up, knew she was really keen, didn't think she was particularly attractive and photo didn't match etc. But I thought I'd see what happened so met up again resulting in "smashing success" . Then left it a week or so and she's very keen so meet up again with the same result. Thing is I don't particularly fancy her, she seems like a nice girl but I don't want to jerk her around and lead her on. She is nice but I don't feel any particularly chemistry or spark there. It's been 3 dates and I get the impression she is super keen and I'm just not.
Question is how do I let someone down gently? I've not been the dumper in this type of situation so would appreciate some advice.

Yes it could come across as shallow because there's nothing wrong with her, but I just don't fancy her that much but wanted to give her a chance to have her personality shine through and win me over. It hasn't really. Very nice girl but I just can't see it going anywhere for me.

Any help appreciated guys.

Do both yourself and her a favour and just be honest with her rather than just ignore her and leave her hanging (not saying you would). Yes, you will feel a little horrible for saying it, yes she will feel especially horrible for hearing it, but at least she will have closure and her pride won't be as dented.

Preferably call her to do it, but if you can't then shoot an SMS or email that is clear but nice, tell her what a great girl she is but you don't really feel anything strongly from your side (or something similar). It'll be fine.

Voltar · 25 Nov 2012 at 16:09

Richdog said:
Do both yourself and her a favour and just be honest with her rather than just ignore her and leave her hanging (not saying you would). Yes, you will feel a little horrible for saying it, yes she will feel especially horrible for hearing it, but at least she will have closure and her pride won't be as dented.

Preferably call her to do it, but if you can't then shoot an SMS or email that is clear but nice, tell her what a great girl she is but you don't really feel anything strongly from your side (or something similar). It'll be fine.

Ill call her this week and say that I just don't feel a spark with her. It definitely makes me feel horrible for doing it. But I suppose that's all part of it. I guess it's more important not to string her along or leave her hanging.

Any tried and tested lines to go for? I will be honest with her and say I dot feel a spark nor do I think one will develop. I feel quite bad because she's nice but I just don't fancy her that much and she lacks that spark for me (conversation onus is definitely on me etc)

Richdog · 25 Nov 2012 at 16:17

Voltar said:
Ill call her this week and say that I just don't feel a spark with her. It definitely makes me feel horrible for doing it. But I suppose that's all part of it. I guess it's more important not to string her along or leave her hanging.

Any tried and tested lines to go for? I will be honest with her and say I dot feel a spark nor do I think one will develop. I feel quite bad because she's nice but I just don't fancy her that much and she lacks that spark for me (conversation onus is definitely on me etc)

Just start with a compliment about how great a girl she is, and then say what you need to say about there being no spark. There's no great way of doing it, but at least you can make it as less painful as possible. Good luck.

bakes0310 · 25 Nov 2012 at 17:08

Hey Richdog and zefan i asked her out for a drink and something to eat, she only got herself to blame and said yes

Really looking forward to it (a bit anxious but the good kind) and ive never had a girl who is really into me. She already mentioned me to her mum so thats good and i can see a few comments on facebook. So i think im off to a good start.

Im thinking meetup for a couple drinks at about 7:30pm then go down to the restuarnt about 8:15-8:30.