Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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If you're trying to attract the attention of the riff raff then go for it 
Otherwise change it to something a bit more presentable!
This morning I received a message from a nearby girl who's a nurse and does belly dancing. Awesome, right?
Sadly the use of a space before every punctuation character was just off putting. She seemed nice and sensible otherwise and has asked a plethora of questions!
If I was anyone else I'd probably call them a wannabe stalker or someone on here but I know that's not true
Otherwise change it to something a bit more presentable!
This morning I received a message from a nearby girl who's a nurse and does belly dancing. Awesome, right?
Sadly the use of a space before every punctuation character was just off putting. She seemed nice and sensible otherwise and has asked a plethora of questions!
If I was anyone else I'd probably call them a wannabe stalker or someone on here but I know that's not true
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I had a browse though here last night and signed up to POF, and I've been speaking to a nice girl who's just moved here, and I tell you what..... I never thought I'd actually have any luck with this. Hopefully all goes well!
just realised i have no proper pictures of myself, and the few i do have i look moody as ****
"I can't be ****ed" look
Need a happier photo me thinks!
it's the "i've been sat in this hospital for the past 4 hours now, as much as i want to visit you i feel like killing us both" look
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yeah you need better photos tefal. one of the biggest issues i find is getting decent photos of me, as when on the rare occasion i get a photo taken e.g. xmas, i'm some tiny head withing a picture of 30 heads not really posing for the camera. guys don't take pictures like girls do
Just had a delightful and funny email from a nice lady, incorporating a lot of observational humour on things that's in my profile (proving she read it) and asking me to check hers and mail her back if I so wish.
So I did check. She's 19 ...
Mailed her back saying that I'm a bit too old for her but thanks anyway and that I felt quite flattered (which I did) and hope her search goes well on Match. She mailed back saying that she has thing for older guys and that I shouldn't look at her age and that's she's very mature for being so young.
I thought about it for a few minutes, I'm not going to lie to you
But me being 32 going on a date with a 19 year old. Bad idea. Though a chance to 'drink in' her youth might have been fun!
Personally I don't think you should be that bothered by age... Just make sure it is legal though!! I have found and chatted to a few younger women ranging from 20-23 and I am 32! I think they prefer the older guy because we are more mature and level headed - Perhaps...but that's the vibe I get.
I thought the same as you and concerned that I was older, but then I thought hang on... let's just chat and see what happens. Sometimes the convo will fizzle out, but on the flipside I am now seeing a young lady who is 23 and I am 32.
Things are still fresh between us, only been seeing each other for about a month and at the weekend was a chance for us to go away and have fun. We went out in Notts, crawled a few bars before going to the club, got drunk, danced the night away and then went back to the hotel!
Btw I met her on POF!!
just realised i have no proper pictures of myself, and the few i do have i look moody as ****
what do you think, acceptable for a profile picture or try to find one where i don't look clinically depressed?
Not sure if serious. You look stoned (eyes look heavy and not quite straight), bored, moody, and arms are crossed.
Any girl will look at that and go straight to the next profile.
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you got dumped? girl finally come to her senses?
In my experience, any girl below 24 isn't mentally mature enough for me as a 32 year old. Don't get me wrong, I still party like crazy, but you can really tell the difference in maturity when you talk to them, especially as girls nowadays are often maturing later due to increased education lengths and more financially stable parents who they are reliant upon for longer.
26-27 is ideal for me.
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Yeah I totally understand where you are coming from mate! Lots of girls who are younger tend to be party animals living for the weekend and going out getting wrecked... Pretty much what you see on POF. Banter, party, banter, drink, banter, live for the weekend!! On this occasion the lady is a single parent just like myself, and we both have careers and work hard. I guess her being a young parent makes you mature a bit quicker and gives you a different outlook on life other than going out and getting wrecked every weekend. However, this weekend we got wrecked and Sunday was pretty much a write off
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Different priorities different people. This is what normally causes relationship problems. Age can't be counted as a maturity level these days I don't think. Children defiantly makes a lot of younger girls feel responsible and grow up a lot faster.
Yes, but most girls don't have kids so young unless they made a big mistake. I certainly would not date a single mother either way, that's not compatible with my lifestyle.
For girls who stay in education beyond high school (my target group, considering everyone where I live does that), age is definitely a reasonably reliable indicator of maturity nowadays.
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So it could be safe to say depends on location of said person too. I know a few girls with children who don't go out much as they are dedicated to their children and every last penny goes towards them. Heck some even work and go to college/uni at the same time.
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I've not posted for a while, but in need of a bit of advice :/ Went on a date on Friday with an Italian guy and he was sooo nice and was trying really hard for us to have a great evening, but I just wasn't feeling it. He asked me if he were the first Italian guy I'd ever dated, which made it seem like we were actually together even though it was only our first date 
He then said 'do you think you could date me?' and caught me off guard with his directness. I was thinking 'hold your horses - the point of the first meeting is to see how compatible you are, not to start a relationship right away!' I'm also the first girl he's met off the site.
I told him I have to meet people a few times before I can know.
It's now been a few days and the more I've thought about it, the more I realise I don't want to meet him again. He wrote to me last night asking if we could go for dinner this week, but I don't want to lead him on by agreeing to it, but I feel bad because I originally said I need to meet up with people a few times before I can know if it'll go anywhere.
Crap, I don't know how to let him down gently
He then said 'do you think you could date me?' and caught me off guard with his directness. I was thinking 'hold your horses - the point of the first meeting is to see how compatible you are, not to start a relationship right away!' I'm also the first girl he's met off the site.
I told him I have to meet people a few times before I can know.
It's now been a few days and the more I've thought about it, the more I realise I don't want to meet him again. He wrote to me last night asking if we could go for dinner this week, but I don't want to lead him on by agreeing to it, but I feel bad because I originally said I need to meet up with people a few times before I can know if it'll go anywhere.
Crap, I don't know how to let him down gently
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Be tactful, but be honest. If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. There's nothing you can do to change that.
Fine but this is a completely moot point, I clearly wasn't talking about this demographic, so lets drop the "girls with kids" topic.
Crap, I don't know how to let him down gently
No, it's not that you don't know how... unless you somehow think it's rocket science to say: "I think you're really nice but I just didn't feel any chemistry. Sorry, and good luck with the site". You're just not comfortable with any potential mildly confrontational response you may get. However, this has been the issue with telling people "no" since time probably began. It can be a little uncomfortable for many people.
However, stop being a wimp and just be honest with him, it's good practise for when it happens again in future and it does get easier.
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I've not posted for a while, but in need of a bit of advice :/ Went on a date on Friday with an Italian guy and he was sooo nice and was trying really hard for us to have a great evening, but I just wasn't feeling it. He asked me if he were the first Italian guy I'd ever dated, which made it seem like we were actually together even though it was only our first date
He then said 'do you think you could date me?' and caught me off guard with his directness. I was thinking 'hold your horses - the point of the first meeting is to see how compatible you are, not to start a relationship right away!' I'm also the first girl he's met off the site.
I told him I have to meet people a few times before I can know.
It's now been a few days and the more I've thought about it, the more I realise I don't want to meet him again. He wrote to me last night asking if we could go for dinner this week, but I don't want to lead him on by agreeing to it, but I feel bad because I originally said I need to meet up with people a few times before I can know if it'll go anywhere.
Crap, I don't know how to let him down gently
Well first of all asking if he is the first Italian guy you have dated makes him sound like a d**che and that you should be honoured to date an Italian! I am sure every black guy that goes on a date with a white girl doesn't ask a question about race or nationality. To me the whole idea of the first meet is to do something fun and try and keep it as relaxed as possible without even thinking you're in a date situation.
You have 2 choices... Tell him out right that you had a good night but just didn't feel that compatible, or you agree to meet again, but make it fun instead of formally sat down eating together.
Good luck!
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