Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Heh, see my bloke mates are suggesting that she wants to be chased (which I agree with), even that she might be testing me to see how keen I am.... so I think I gotta strike a good balance and not come over as Mr. Desperate, but also manage to be Mr. Cool-and-Super-Awesome... argh lol
 
reflux said:
Men (and women) of OCUK - need thoughts!

So I went on a first date with a bird last week, had a good time and as such has been documented in this thread. Took her out again a few days later and once again good time, she sealed it with a kiss so I was pretty chuffed. Text her the next day proposing date #3, to which she replied saying she was away abroad with work/family until Easter, but could we set a date for after then. So I talked to some other gentlemen and they told me that I should play it cool, so told her just to let me know when she was free again and we'd do something.

I've not heard from her since then (Friday) and now my female housemate is busting my balls saying I should be texting her or she'll lose interest. However my other housemate (male) says I shouldn't be too bothered and just text her in a few days or wait for her to text me. Don't know what to do - don't want to overcook it and don't want to muck it up either...argh. So, honourable denizens of OCUK - what should I do?
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In this case, go with your female flatmate. Saying "let me know when you have time" and then waiting for her to text you is just quite frankly daft. Girls don't like desperation of course, but they do like to know they are wanted. If you really like her, then do the legwork.
 
Haven't done online dating in a few years now. Going to be starting it up again soon. Quite excited but nervous now I know what I am actually looking for.

I came across this website lookbetteronline.com which gave some great tips in terms of how to take photos.
 
MisChief said:
Text her. It's always nice when a guy makes an effort to chase a girl :)
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reflux said:
Heh, see my bloke mates are suggesting that she wants to be chased (which I agree with), even that she might be testing me to see how keen I am.... so I think I gotta strike a good balance and not come over as Mr. Desperate, but also manage to be Mr. Cool-and-Super-Awesome... argh lol
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mrbell1984 said:
Only if they other person is interested in you. :)
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I think it is nice when someone makes an effort, however I think if its not being reciprocated and you keep trying it makes you come across in a bad way (desperate or whatever). Equally if you do make an effort it is great and it will be great if they too are interested.

I really don't like the mind games that come along with dating. Is she into me or not? If I keep seeing her and then send a text which gets no reply and text more does it make me seem desperate or are they only seeing you as a friend and replying because they are polite....

If I were you I'd send the text. If it gains no reply then just leave it for a bit.
 
Sometimes it can be hard work finding the perfect balance, and believe me I have probably lost women due to both being too over bearing and coming across like I am not interested. My advice would to keep talking to her and make convo, like always send a text which would warrant an answer or response. I wouldn't send more than 2 messages in row without a reply in between so that it doesn't come across as desperate.

If you get one word answers then give her please fully star swearing! for it... Be cocky and ask if she forgot her conversational skills today?

Or send a joke... "Did you hear about Cinderella" ... "No" ... "She gagged when she got to the ball!"

Good luck!
 
Janesy B said:
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How can you put that little effort in, that is just abysmal. I really do feel like sending a sharp reply but I'm not dignifying any message like that with a reply. Burn in hell. Alone.
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wtf? send her a deep, meaningful message with any problems you have with the world. you never know, you could be in for an intellectual treat! or you may never hear from her again. either way it's a WIN
 
cm1179 said:
wtf? send her a deep, meaningful message with any problems you have with the world. you never know, you could be in for an intellectual treat! or you may never hear from her again. either way it's a WIN
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Hmmmmm.... Definitely not my type, but if you like the larger lady then it could literally be a big win! ;)
 
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HOLY ****STICKS.

DO NOT REPLY, I REPEAT, DO NOT REPLY.
 
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