Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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mrbell1984 said:
Not as easy as that. There are key factors in successful dating;

  • IMAGE
  • BODY LANGUAGE
  • VOICE
  • INNTER STRENGTH
  • SOCIAL SKILLS
  • PERSONALITY
  • APPEARANCE
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I would say when trying to date women that the most important things are looks and personality, with social status very close behind.

Women are just as shallow (if not far more so!) than men in terms of looks. Not height and build just general looks.

Personality is importance, with things like confidence, charisma and humour going a long way.

Finally, we all like what we perceive to be valuable, same with women and men. They would much rather a bloke that they know other women would want. A man that no one else wants isn't likely to interest her, no matter how "nice" he is.

Then again, I am chatting ****, as I'm a lanky fellow without a lot to recommend him, with a warped sense of humour, and an inability to be normal. Then again, is the same, albeit far prettier on the eyes. ^^
 
sports_brah said:
I would say when trying to date women that the most important things are looks and personality, with social status very close behind.

Women are just as shallow (if not far more so!) than men in terms of looks. Not height and build just general looks.

Personality is importance, with things like confidence, charisma and humour going a long way.

Finally, we all like what we perceive to be valuable, same with women and men. They would much rather a bloke that they know other women would want. A man that no one else wants isn't likely to interest her, no matter how "nice" he is.

Then again, I am chatting ****, as I'm a lanky fellow without a lot to recommend him, with a warped sense of humour, and an inability to be normal. Then again, is the same, albeit far prettier on the eyes. ^^
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I think you are chatting a bit of **** mate.

Looks play an important and confidence will factor in initital attraction. I dunno about you but once I've been with someone a while the inital attraction barely exists anymore and you're left with a more base "can I stand looking at them".

Social status or desire because of percieve social value? I know there are some people like that in the world, but the majority of grown adults don't follow such crap from my experience. Once you'd landed the girl she probably won't be as open to other male advances anyways so it's not like you'd ever see normal another guy trying it on.

I imagine woman are largely the same as men*, though I'm not sure the people online are generally the best of the bunch. :p

* Once we reach the level of maturity that allows us to think for ourselves. Most of us should get there eventually.

Flipt said:
Sounds like you have ADHD when it comes to dating :p
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Disney romance vs feminism. She's doomed. :p
 
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aln said:
I think you are chatting a bit of **** mate.

Looks play an important and confidence will factor in initital attraction. I dunno about you but once I've been with someone a while the inital attraction barely exists anymore and you're left with a more base "can I stand looking at them".

Social status or desire because of percieve social value? I know there are some people like that in the world, but the majority of grown adults don't follow such crap from my experience. Once you'd landed the girl she probably won't be as open to other male advances anyways so it's not like you'd ever see normal another guy trying it on.

I imagine woman are largely the same as men*, though I'm not sure the people online are generally the best of the bunch. :p

* Once we reach the level of maturity that allows us to think for ourselves. Most of us should get there eventually.
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I talk ****, it's what I do. haha (sent you reply)

At the risk of sounding like a misogynist, I think women definitely place more importance on these things than men do. There is a cartoon strip I'm desperately trying to find which sums it up brilliantly. (its two people having dinner, the womans speech bubble is massive and is a one long train of thought of different things, the mans is "nice front, nice back, she'll do :p)

And I can sort of understand it to a point, as women have to live with (less so nowadays) the product of any relationship. haha
 
FatFishMonster said:
whats this sending a rose business on pof?

surley its not going to make the message any better?
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Don't send gifts or compliment them... It's quite obvious that you won't message them unless you found them attractive and/or interesting :) I personally think the gift and rose idea comes across as seedy and needy :p
 
Flipt said:
Don't send gifts or compliment them... It's quite obvious that you won't message them unless you found them attractive and/or interesting :) I personally think the gift and rose idea comes across as seedy and needy :p
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yeah i dont think ill ever send a "gift" or "rose"

the girls never reply to me anyways! hardly worth the extra mouse clicks ;)
 
me too. no idea what's the point in it. never sent it, never will. i can only guess it's more for the younger crowd, however the minimum age is 18 so maybe not. more like 13/14. you have to buy more as well which is daft as who'd pay for it.
 
Richdog said:
In this case, go with your female flatmate. Saying "let me know when you have time" and then waiting for her to text you is just quite frankly daft. Girls don't like desperation of course, but they do like to know they are wanted. If you really like her, then do the legwork.
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Ok so I text the lady last night, and now I'm languishing in no-reply purgatory. She's abroad so she may have not even got it, but argh... note to self: do not attempt to date women who are unable to see you. Too much uncertainty.
 
sports_brah said:
I talk ****, it's what I do. haha (sent you reply)
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Something we have in common.

sports_brah said:
At the risk of sounding like a misogynist, I think women definitely place more importance on these things than men do. There is a cartoon strip I'm desperately trying to find which sums it up brilliantly. (its two people having dinner, the womans speech bubble is massive and is a one long train of thought of different things, the mans is "nice front, nice back, she'll do :p)

And I can sort of understand it to a point, as women have to live with (less so nowadays) the product of any relationship. haha
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I disagree with this. I just think woman tend to mature differently and often slower than men. Now everyones different but this is a sterotypical woman in my mind:-

16-23 - "I'm an adult. Boys may age are too immature. My friends are getting married and having babies so I should too. A man should look after me". These girls are silly immature because they think life should be handed to them on a plate, believe they're adults despite not paying their own way and are pretty much ******.

24-28 - "Alright so I guess I need to look after myself, pay my own bills, but having a man around might be nice anyway."

29+ - "Oh ****, running out of time to have babies".

Men:-

16-21 - "I want sex".

22+ - "Crap, I need to get a proper life and pay for my own stuff. Also I want sex".


Obviously everyones different, but theres my break down of why men mature quicker than women. With said maturity, folks partener picking logic is bound to change.
 
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aln said:
Something we have in common.



I disagree with this. I just think woman tend to mature differently and often slower than men. Now everyones different but this is a sterotypical woman in my mind:-

16-23 - "I'm an adult. Boys may age are too immature. My friends are getting married and having babies so I should too. A man should look after me". These girls are silly immature because they think life should be handed to them on a plate, believe they're adults despite not paying their own way and are pretty much ******.

24-28 - "Alright so I guess I need to look after myself, pay my own bills, but having a man around might be nice anyway."

29+ - "Oh ****, running out of time to have babies".

Men:-

16-21 - "I want sex".

22+ - "Crap, I need to get a proper life and pay for my own stuff. Also I want sex".


Obviously everyones different, but theres my break down of why men mature quicker than women. With said maturity, folks partener picking logic is bound to change.
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This made me laugh as it rings totally true in most respects, obviously there are some people that will not follow this rule.
 
Got a trip booked to Utrecht next month with someone I met just under 2 weeks ago. We decided we both wanted a spontaneous adventure, so we're going over there to watch Reel Big Fish. Is only 2 nights so not the end of the world if it's crap and we stop getting along for some unknown reason. Not looking for anything to come out of it, but she seems a pretty good friend so far, and that's all she wants I believe.
 
garriec said:
Got a trip booked to Utrecht next month with someone I met just under 2 weeks ago. We decided we both wanted a spontaneous adventure, so we're going over there to watch Reel Big Fish. Is only 2 nights so not the end of the world if it's crap and we stop getting along for some unknown reason. Not looking for anything to come out of it, but she seems a pretty good friend so far, and that's all she wants I believe.
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That sounds like an awesome adventure, and only knowing her a few weeks is pretty good trust too!! A good friend is all you need for now, and then it should evolve naturally from there.... Good luck!! :D
 
aln said:
Something we have in common.



I disagree with this. I just think woman tend to mature differently and often slower than men. Now everyones different but this is a sterotypical woman in my mind:-

16-23 - "I'm an adult. Boys may age are too immature. My friends are getting married and having babies so I should too. A man should look after me". These girls are silly immature because they think life should be handed to them on a plate, believe they're adults despite not paying their own way and are pretty much ******.

24-28 - "Alright so I guess I need to look after myself, pay my own bills, but having a man around might be nice anyway."

29+ - "Oh ****, running out of time to have babies".

Men:-

16-21 - "I want sex".

22+ - "Crap, I need to get a proper life and pay for my own stuff. Also I want sex".


Obviously everyones different, but theres my break down of why men mature quicker than women. With said maturity, folks partener picking logic is bound to change.
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Spot on :D
 
garriec said:
Got a trip booked to Utrecht next month with someone I met just under 2 weeks ago. We decided we both wanted a spontaneous adventure, so we're going over there to watch Reel Big Fish. Is only 2 nights so not the end of the world if it's crap and we stop getting along for some unknown reason. Not looking for anything to come out of it, but she seems a pretty good friend so far, and that's all she wants I believe.
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Gauchos down by the canal is amazing. I travel to Utrecht several times a year. :)
 
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