Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Well I think it just means she doesn't fancy you. A situation I am having from the other side sadly.
I went on a date with a girl the other night and we get on so well but I just don't fancy her. I wish I did.
Well I think it just means she doesn't fancy you. A situation I am having from the other side sadly.
I went on a date with a girl the other night and we get on so well but I just don't fancy her. I wish I did.
How does that happen. Picture misrepresentation?
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I tried this for like two days & just felt stupid never knowing what to put. I don't do social networking awfully well & my emails always come out kind of 'work-ish'
Happened to me as well, fine line between creative photography (her head was shaped like an alien from alien!!!!) and coming across as a normal/interesting person via internet and text but in reality being as exciting as licking a battery... (I did a write up a few weeks ago of the most comically terrible use of my Friday night)
It's the sort of thing you have to write off as a cross between comedy experience and a horrendous learning curve really.
When someones holding something back, I always assume theres a reason. People who post "artsy" or "random" pictures to " seem interesting" come near at the top of that list.
- If they don't have a straight up face shot, I assume ugly.
- If they don't have a body shot, I assume fat.
Was that writeup in this thread?
Anyone remember the website Faceparty? me and some friends I played CS with around 2002 joined it for a laugh. Shortly after a local girl contacted me, no profile picture but her description of herself from the times we talked was good, we then met and she couldn't have been more opposite to her self-description.
It was a disaster, I wasn't attracted to her at all. We had made loads of plans of what to do on our date and all of it we couldn't do because of stuff she has said that wasn't true, so I made a quick plan and we went to the cinema and watched "Catch Me If You Can", great film but I couldn't enjoy it because I didn't have my glasses with me, and then during the film I was further distracted because she started stroking my leg, and I just sat there like I didn't know it was going on, sweating with inside embarrassment and looking in my peripheral vision at her hoping she would stop. Mercifully the film finished and we took a bus to the station, we spoke for a while and then parted ways.
I got home and played some CS, and never went back to Faceparty, and told this story very few times.
I've had other successful internet encounters since but nothing I capitalized on due to my own inefficiencies at the time like going to another country and my unwillingness to travel around the UK on public transport.
It was a disaster, I wasn't attracted to her at all. We had made loads of plans of what to do on our date and all of it we couldn't do because of stuff she has said that wasn't true, so I made a quick plan and we went to the cinema and watched "Catch Me If You Can", great film but I couldn't enjoy it because I didn't have my glasses with me, and then during the film I was further distracted because she started stroking my leg, and I just sat there like I didn't know it was going on, sweating with inside embarrassment and looking in my peripheral vision at her hoping she would stop. Mercifully the film finished and we took a bus to the station, we spoke for a while and then parted ways.
I got home and played some CS, and never went back to Faceparty, and told this story very few times.
I've had other successful internet encounters since but nothing I capitalized on due to my own inefficiencies at the time like going to another country and my unwillingness to travel around the UK on public transport.
See 90% of the time that's right, but occasionally one of 3 things happen, a) she takes an ok photo (5 that are of different angles all hiding the alien head) b) her conversation avoids the clown collage/general uninteresting/uneducated front and c) go think with your wang and there is the prospect of sex if you nod along and say the right things...
Yeah my comically angry vent was about 2 friday ago, trip to Dunstable (of all the disgusting places) with the highlight of maybe setting off a speed camera... A great date for all the people I keep updated with this stuff! (who are all pursuing the I cant get back into a long distance relationship movement)
I like to think I'm a nice and friendly guy, but if someone did that to me I'd probably tell them I'd probably just say "alright, cheerio then" and leave.
If you weren't into it, why didn't you tell her to stop or remove her hand?
Funnily enough I met a girl "from the Internet" when I was 18. I met her playing an online game and she confided in me about how her ex-boyfriend used to force his way in and beat her.
I decided I didn't like the sounds of that, but they were both mid to late twenties so I didn't fancy my odds. I took my mean looking staffy around to her house for a good old camping session.
Instead of that plan, which was just supposed to show she had friends who cared, she jumped my bones and her ex came over when we were naked in her bedroom. She pounced up mid sesh, grabbed only a robe and let him in.
Luckily he left sharpish when he realised a guy was in her bedroom, though if he'd had saw me in there panicking and scrambling for clothes he probably wouldn't have been very intimidated.
Truth be told, that was the first and last pity **** I ever gave. She was fat and I only didn't say no because I felt sorry for her. I shudder to think I actually hit that but I guess it was kinda funny.
See 90% of the time that's right, but occasionally one of 3 things happen, a) she takes an ok photo (5 that are of different angles all hiding the alien head) b) her conversation avoids the clown collage/general uninteresting/uneducated front and c) go think with your wang and there is the prospect of sex if you nod along and say the right things...
I can understand the sex thing if they're hot enough, but I don't think I could sit through a date with someone who can't talk. I can find almost anyone and anything interesting if only the person actually puts a minimum amount of effort into talking about something.
If they give good chat online and bad chat in person, I'd have to assume it's a shyness / lack of self-confidence thing. I'm a tad shy myself but it's a pointless feeling. If someone is with you in any context I think I might as well chat **** because it's better than sitting in awkward silence.
Luckily I don't have this problem as I'm apparently incapable of interesting woman online, at least when trying to do so.
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I like to think I'm a nice and friendly guy, but if someone did that to me I'd probably tell them I'd probably just say "alright, cheerio then" and leave.
If you weren't into it, why didn't you tell her to stop or remove her hand?
Funnily enough I met a girl "from the Internet" when I was 18. I met her playing an online game and she confided in me about how her ex-boyfriend used to force his way in and beat her.
I decided I didn't like the sounds of that, but they were both mid to late twenties so I didn't fancy my odds. I took my mean looking staffy around to her house for a good old camping session.
Instead of that plan, which was just supposed to show she had friends who cared, she jumped my bones and her ex came over when we were naked in her bedroom. She pounced up mid sesh, grabbed only a robe and let him in.
Luckily he left sharpish when he realised a guy was in her bedroom, though if he'd had saw me in there panicking and scrambling for clothes he probably wouldn't have been very intimidated.
Truth be told, that was the first and last pity **** I ever gave. She was fat and I only didn't say no because I felt sorry for her. I shudder to think I actually hit that but I guess it was kinda funny.
I can understand the sex thing if they're hot enough, but I don't think I could sit through a date with someone who can't talk. I can find almost anyone and anything interesting if only the person actually puts a minimum amount of effort into talking about something.
If they give good chat online and bad chat in person, I'd have to assume it's a shyness / lack of self-confidence thing. I'm a tad shy myself but it's a pointless feeling. If someone is with you in any context I think I might as well chat **** because it's better than sitting in awkward silence.
Luckily I don't have this problem as I'm apparently incapable of interesting woman online, at least when trying to do so.
Weird!
Sounds exactly the same scenario I was in! Except the internet thing.
Got chatting in a bar, same crappy story. Ended up at her house, the boyfriend was in!!! Supposedly they'd finished!
Argument carried on with them, with me sitting on the couch not having a clue what I was meant to do. Stupidly drunk out my face.
Next thing, I'm in a taxi to her mums were well I done the wrong thing. :/
Biggest mistake ever. Must be something around here, wouldn't be surprised if it was the same women! ha
Probably not the very same, but there are a lot of broken people around central Scotland, so I'm not suprised you have a similarly interesting anecdote.
To add further to that she was texting me about the next time I was going to see her and I was trying to find a polite way to say I'm not interested in that but I still didn't like the idea that a guy smacks woman so wasn't sure what to say or do.
She then called me to tell me the ex was moving back in but she still wanted to see me and all sorts of crazy ****. At that moment the too nice for my own good part of my personality died and was replaced by a selfish *******.
This was in Glasgow like 10 years ago.
I have lots of similarly BS stories but none of them have the Internet angle. I've literally never had a sane girl interested in me, my faith in them existing is pretty low.
I had an experience once where I met a girl online who had been scorned from her previous relationship. Not violence, but cheating and other trust issues. Anyway... After being with her for 2 years I noticed that over that period of time see became more and more jealous, and became distrusting. I had no idea why at all, I had done nothing wrong, I don't cheat as it is not my style. I called her up on my way back from gym one night and knew that something was wrong. I don't know what gave me that feeling, but I just knew. It worked out that she had cheated on me... Not once, but twice with this guy (friend) that she had before I met her. I went round for her to explain herself to try and understand why she would do it? She didn't give me a good enough answer at all, she was full of tears, didn't want to lose me etc etc and she said if I wanted to cheat then she understood 
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Stupid me stayed with her for a few months but this time to jealousy and insecurities got worse, to the point where she would punch me in the arm for apparently looking in a woman's direction! I told her she had no right to have a go at me regarding cheating, looking at another woman when it was her that did the cheating! The arguments got worse and I had enough and sent her on her way
My conclusion now is that if a partner whether man or woman become stupidly insanely jealous or insecure, means to me that they have cheated in the past and think that because they have done then the other partner will do it.
...Stupid me stayed with her for a few months but this time to jealousy and insecurities got worse, to the point where she would punch me in the arm for apparently looking in a woman's direction! I told her she had no right to have a go at me regarding cheating, looking at another woman when it was her that did the cheating! The arguments got worse and I had enough and sent her on her way
My conclusion now is that if a partner whether man or woman become stupidly insanely jealous or insecure, means to me that they have cheated in the past and think that because they have done then the other partner will do it.
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I have lots of similarly BS stories but none of them have the Internet angle. I've literally never had a sane girl interested in me, my faith in them existing is pretty low.
They do exist, they genuinely do.
At one point I had 5 on the go at once!11! You dirty dawg you
Got pretty confusing though, and messages were crossed...Weirdly, I actually missed POFing a bit when I finally left and settled down, it was good fun getting banter going and working out how to approach each one. Dare I say it, I actually got pretty good at chatting to/meeting girls after a year on there, just takes a bit of practise!
My 1 year anniversary tomorrow with a girl I met on POF following the recommendation from this very thread. Who'd have thought this lucky girl has a bunch of lovesick internet nerds to thank for me finding and relentlessly pursuing her until she reluctantly gave in to my advances
Congrats and snap! Was our 4 year on Tuesday, also POF
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found a girl on pof that i really liked the look of!
she had really nice blond hair, she was really pretty, was 21, and got the impression from her profile that she was a nice girl (i know you cant tell much from there)
seemed like my kind of girl! sent her a message......
ANDDDDD she hasnt even viewed my profile!
so either she doesnt use POF anymore, or my main picture is that my profile isnt even worth a viewing!!<- more likley this one!
loosing faith in dating full stop at the moment!
she had really nice blond hair, she was really pretty, was 21, and got the impression from her profile that she was a nice girl (i know you cant tell much from there)
seemed like my kind of girl! sent her a message......
ANDDDDD she hasnt even viewed my profile!
so either she doesnt use POF anymore, or my main picture is that my profile isnt even worth a viewing!!<- more likley this one!
loosing faith in dating full stop at the moment!
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