Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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FinglisHobbit said:
Yeah, it's a bit odd. To me it just sounds like she wasn't ready/wasn't over her ex. Or maybe she was using that as an excuse why things weren't working between you?

An ex is an ex for a reason afterall, so it surely should be a good thing that things were different with you compared to her ex? (If that makes any sense at all? :confused:)
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Unless she was the dumpee, and never wanted to lose her ex in the first place....
 
FinglisHobbit said:
Yeah, it's a bit odd. To me it just sounds like she wasn't ready/wasn't over her ex. Or maybe she was using that as an excuse why things weren't working between you?

An ex is an ex for a reason afterall, so it surely should be a good thing that things were different with you compared to her ex? (If that makes any sense at all? :confused:)
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Exactly and couldn't agree more. Getting fed up of meeting girls with baggage. I told her I would never compete or compare myself to someone else. I am who I am.

She had turned cold on me in the days leading up the break up. Taking 9 hours to reply to a text for example (I don't expect instant replies but 9 hours is a bit of a wait). I then replied when I could and didn't hear from here again until the next day when she gave me a one line text saying it wasn't working out. I hate being dumped by text at the best of times but I was left thinking if I actually meant anything to her at all over the past month for the way she ended it and the reason she gave.

krooton said:
Unless she was the dumpee, and never wanted to lose her ex in the first place....
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I can't remember the reasons they split up but she did tell me they were engaged at one point.
 
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maj said:
Exactly and couldn't agree more. Getting fed up of people girls with baggage. I told her I would never compete or compare myself to someone else. I am who I am.
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I think everyone has baggage, it's just finding someone who doesn't feel the need to bring their baggage along with them wherever they go, or use it to explain psychotic/weird behaviour :p
 
Ben-Irvine93 said:
I've had two messages from other girls, but I ain't interested in them. Do you guys just ignore them, or just say hey back, because I feel a bit bad on ignoring them! I must be just too soft.
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TBH I never replied to people I wasn't interested in, I just didn't see the point. You could look at it as being rude and shallow, but then you could look at it as not wasting their time on something that clearly wont happen.

Silent UK said:
Got a quick question for the guys that seem to date loads on this thread.

At what point or after how many dates is it acceptable/expected for a interested guy as ask a girl to be his girlfriend? As I don't want to be one of those guys who waits too long and the girl begins to think I'm no longer interested when I clearly still am!!
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After recently meeting my girlfiend from POF a few months back, I don't think we actually had the chat about going official as it kind of just happened. I was going on dates, meeting up and having fun, and it all just clicks together without even thinking about it. I did tell her that I liked her and enjoyed being in her company in the early stages. We just became closer to each other naturally, like holding hands, kissing and then doing the deed.

Basically don't think about this too much and just let things evolve at their own pace.
 
Flipt said:
TBH I never replied to people I wasn't interested in, I just didn't see the point. You could look at it as being rude and shallow, but then you could look at it as not wasting their time on something that clearly wont happen.



After recently meeting my girlfiend from POF a few months back, I don't think we actually had the chat about going official as it kind of just happened. I was going on dates, meeting up and having fun, and it all just clicks together without even thinking about it. I did tell her that I liked her and enjoyed being in her company in the early stages. We just became closer to each other naturally, like holding hands, kissing and then doing the deed.

Basically don't think about this too much and just let things evolve at their own pace.
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I never asked any of my exes either, they just naturally progressed, but I didn't meet any of them my normal dating means, it was always through social situations with groups of friends.

My current gf is from POF, and I asked her to be my gf on date number 5.
 
maj said:
We were only together official for a month before she broke it off. Apparently the chemistry she had with her ex she didn't have with me. Just me that finds it weird she compared someone new to someone she had?
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You shouldn't really compare past relationships. People are different and whilst a relationship might share some of the same characteristics they're never the same and to do so is unrealistic. If you want a relationship that was like a past one then go and get back together with whoever you had that past relationship with.

Exchanged some messages with one girl last night (messages from girls in total amounted to 6 :eek:) who seems nice, hard to guage someone you don't know especially when a conversation is written. I couldn't tell if she was playing a little on the hard to get side, which I don't mind as a little chase is fun but not doing all the leg work! However she messaged me and conversation was good. It's tough to have a conversation with a stranger without asking too much about them! I don't want to ask her about her job or family at the moment or too much about her interests as I would rather that save for a date and actually have something to talk about!

If some good vibes continue I might see if she's up for something mid-week or next weekend :)
 
How do you all ask someone to 'be your girlfriend'? I've never had to ask before, it's just happened!

I can imagine sounding like a complete berk just saying 'will you be my girlfriend'!
 
l33th3tr33 said:
How do you all ask someone to 'be your girlfriend'? I've never had to ask before, it's just happened!

I can imagine sounding like a complete berk just saying 'will you be my girlfriend'!
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Shall we make 'us' official..? All my exes oddly asked 'so am I like your gf now' :D so it was just a simple 'yeah wanna go for some cake???'
 
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