Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Now, what is this "spark" thing that I frequently see mentioned ?

Physical attraction ? They say something witty ? They break out the toys ?

Maybe i'm shallow, but I know in the first 5 seconds of a first date if I fancy them or not.
 
Stolly said:
Now, what is this "spark" thing that I frequently see mentioned ?

Physical attraction ? They say something witty ? They break out the toys ?

Maybe i'm shallow, but I know in the first 5 seconds of a first date if I fancy them or not.
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I don't get this "spark" thing either. It takes 3 to 6 months before I decided I actually like some one. I cant like simply like some one straight away, its good them being nice at first but their true personality can show after a few months which can be a complete turn off.
 
malachi said:
I don't get this "spark" thing either. It takes 3 to 6 months before I decided I actually like some one. I cant like simply like some one straight away, its good them being nice at first but their true personality can show after a few months which can be a complete turn off.
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The "spark" not being there is a nice way of telling some one they're an ugly bugger and they don't fancy them.....

Personally, I kind of feel that the people who rely on this initial "spark" to decide if someone is right for them or not are a tad shallow.
 
Ok so went on my 2nd date since signing up to POF a week friday.

Turn up at bar 19:30, she turns up, get on really well for 4 hours.

I wasn't drinking, she was, she says she will text me and that she wants to see me again at end of night.

I text her next day, really slow response, but says she had a great time. No reply today.

Really gets on my goat.

I think im done with internet dating after 2 dates, its ** No disguised swearing ** depressing, and even worse when you feel stringed along.
 
I think I know what Jambo means but it's hard to explain, I don't think it's just a sexual/lust thing. I've had plenty of dates where we've got on great, they are very attractive but it's more like a best friend vibe you get.

Sure I could probably have a relationship with them and it'd work out great but I want that element of excitement and spontaneity.
 
holymonk said:
Ok so went on my 2nd date since signing up to POF a week friday.

Turn up at bar 19:30, she turns up, get on really well for 4 hours.

I wasn't drinking, she was, she says she will text me and that she wants to see me again at end of night.

I text her next day, really slow response, but says she had a great time. No reply today.

Really gets on my goat.

I think im done with internet dating after 2 dates, its *** depressing, and even worse when you feel stringed along.
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Give it some time. Don't expect too much too quickly, besides she might be genuinely busy. I'm a **** for replying to text's so she could be as useless as me.

Play the field a bit, have a few on the go and whittle it down gradually.
 
Nuttah said:
The "spark" not being there is a nice way of telling some one they're an ugly bugger and they don't fancy them.....

Personally, I kind of feel that the people who rely on this initial "spark" to decide if someone is right for them or not are a tad shallow.
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It might be an excuse to tell someone they don't fancy them but it's not necessarily what it is.

The spark is simply the chemistry/connection/rapport you have with someone. When you just 'bounce off' each other AND are physically attracted to them. I agree it can develop over time but dating doesn't really work that way.
 
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