Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Burnsy2023 said:
So here's my first attempt: http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=59371542
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You have to remember that these girls on POF will be getting messages from all over and if they're hit with that wall of text they won't be bothered to read it. The opening paragraph should start with something that will draw them in and keep them interested. And yes, if you wear a uniform that will be a winner with most girls :D
 
I think that profile is a great example of what not to do.

You look like the 'creepy geek guy' in all of your photos. You give way too much info in your profile description when the fact of the matter is 100% of people are going to judge you on your photos and wont give a damn what you write. However because you've written so much they'll probably get the impression you are needy and desperate. You listed IT and games in your interests which isn't going to get the women bending over backwards to meet you. Saying you want a long term relationship is also a mistake, regardless of whether you want one or not - be cool enough to be able to say you want to date only and if it leads to more than that so be it.

Hopefully you appreciate honesty :D

Anyway here's what i'd suggest.

Get a picture of you smiling properly.
Change the description to a paragraph at most, basically you're trying to give the impression you didn't have time to write any more than that because of your uber cool social life! You're just to busy having fun!
Get rid of the geeky activities from your profile. VERY rare that a girl wants a computer game playing I.T enthusiast to bring home to Mom or show off to their friends. (obviously you can introduce these things to any girls slowly over time, hitting them with it all at once isn't going to work)
 
Ste59w said:
I think that profile is a great example of what not to do.

You look like the 'creepy geek guy' in all of your photos. You give way too much info in your profile description when the fact of the matter is 100% of people are going to judge you on your photos and wont give a damn what you write. However because you've written so much they'll probably get the impression you are needy and desperate. You listed IT and games in your interests which isn't going to get the women bending over backwards to meet you. Saying you want a long term relationship is also a mistake, regardless of whether you want one or not - be cool enough to be able to say you want to date only and if it leads to more than that so be it.

Hopefully you appreciate honesty :D

Anyway here's what i'd suggest.

Get a picture of you smiling properly.
Change the description to a paragraph at most, basically you're trying to give the impression you didn't have time to write any more than that because of your uber cool social life! You're just to busy having fun!
Get rid of the geeky activities from your profile. VERY rare that a girl wants a computer game playing I.T enthusiast to bring home to Mom or show off to their friends. (obviously you can introduce these things to any girls slowly over time, hitting them with it all at once isn't going to work)
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Have to agree with this.
 
Supposed to meet this girl today and got this message at 9am, about 3hrs or so before the date!

"I got robbed by my kids grandma £250 pounds, so I can't make it"

Best excuse ever! Someone should lock that Grandma up :rolleyes:
 
Please message back with someone should lock that grandma up!!

On my pof shenanigans I'm excitedly done with online dating for now! After the disappointment of the girl that decided she wants to move back to Wales (still friends though) went on a bundle of first dates and now am with the nicest ginger girl (who's local and fit) who I went to a vegan beer festival with last month. No more dull first dates and lonely nights for a while here :D
 
Neil79 said:
Supposed to meet this girl today and got this message at 9am, about 3hrs or so before the date!

"I got robbed by my kids grandma £250 pounds, so I can't make it"

Best excuse ever! Someone should lock that Grandma up :rolleyes:
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Not had that one yet!

I've been off POF for a total of 3 weeks now.

I have had 4 'dates' or meets as I prefer to call them, no disasters but all of the women I have met, either I have not liked, or they have not liked me.

Found the whole thing rather depressing really, I wasnt counting on it being this hard. The worst part is, every time I think, right I am done, another one pops up and messages me and the cycle starts all over again.

I am also starting to find it extremely confusing what I have discussed with who....... I end up discussing things with the same person twice....
 
Freddie1980 said:
It's the latter, most girls on pof will have a sentence in there profile to the effect that if all your lookingn for is sex then don't bother messaging them. The best way to play it is to meet new people have a laugh and if anything develops from it then great, if all your interested is sex find a hooker.

A lot of men when signing up for internet dating think there Cassanova and women will fall over themselves because their so charming and smooth. The reality is its very easy for men to come across as shallow and desperate in front of a prospective mate, while women can afford to be pickey and choosey and thier partners men are hard wired to reproduce as much as they can hence why a lot of men trip up on first date.
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Not sure that's right, I've had a fair share of women tell me there only interested in sex. Some randomly sending my naked photos too. Though I agree most of the normal ones aren't looking for this and ones who are should be avoided.

Mate of mine has slept with at least 20 people from POF, at least.
 
i don't know if just perhaps this town is bad, but i honestly cannot find more then a few girls any more that are local that i like. everyone i like ends up being in london, and outside of london within say 5 miles they are older/chavy/fat
 
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