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I think I speak for all of us here when I say... stop whining, man up and smash that pasty!
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Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Sigh woman message me that i really don't fancy or don't have full shots so you only see the face. The woman that i do message if i do get a return email the messages go back and forth for a few days then they just stop replying or send me one liners!.
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Sigh, i might aswell just do what they do " HI "
Well, did you have a good day then?
yaada yaada yaada
Got to watch what you say, they are not your friend, and they are only testing to see if your boring.
Mind you, I do the same just so I don't have to send the "I'm not into you", I'd rather bore them and they leave me be.
Well, did you have a good day then?
yaada yaada yaada
Got to watch what you say, they are not your friend, and they are only testing to see if your boring.
Mind you, I do the same just so I don't have to send the "I'm not into you", I'd rather bore them and they leave me be.
No i err asked if she had a good day and spoke about her job and wanted more info, she just basically said " I've had a good day thanks " and that was it.. Nothing more for me to go on. Nor did she ask me anything, the point of a conversation is to go both ways but it seems many women on pof fail at this
Or... you are not asking the right questions? /Irobot
Like I said, you are not her friend, so it's unlikely any *exciting* conversation is going to develop out of talking about yours/their day.
Unless one of you is a stuntman.
tbh I wouldn't waste anymore time on her. If she can't be bothered to try and make conversation and get to know you better than she's not worth it.
It might not be that she's not interested that might just be how she is.
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If that's the case is better to say; "I get the feeling you're not interested"? Or just leave it all together?
hmmm It's hard to decide
in some ways I'd think just leave it, in other ways I think it might be a good way of letting her know how she's coming across (because as I said she could just be like this and not trying to give you a hint to leave be.)It's completely up to you what you decide but if you opt for sending one last message perhaps say something like "I'm getting the impression you're not quite interested but I thought I'd send a quick message to say good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for
"I know a few people will probably say that sounds lame but to me I think the last bit makes it a little nicer rather than just saying "I'm getting the feeling you're not interested."
It's completely up to you what you decide but if you opt for sending one last message perhaps say something like "I'm getting the impression you're not quite interested but I thought I'd send a quick message to say good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for
I know a few people will probably say that sounds lame but to me I think the last bit makes it a little nicer rather than just saying "I'm getting the feeling you're not interested
Sounds spot on(from my vast experience of such things).
If i ever decide to take up this internet dating malarky and find myself in a similar situation to neil79 i might just use that.
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Good point.hmmm It's hard to decide
It's completely up to you what you decide but if you opt for sending one last message perhaps say something like "I'm getting the impression you're not quite interested but I thought I'd send a quick message to say good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for
I know a few people will probably say that sounds lame but to me I think the last bit makes it a little nicer rather than just saying "I'm getting the feeling you're not interested."
Well the date last night went really really well. She was in my arms half way through the night which was a bit odd, but it just happened naturally.
BUT... right people wrong time
. I'm totally gutted becasue we both really like each other, chemistry to the moon and back. But I was her first an only date on PoF (she's come off now) and it turns out she's only been single a month from a 7 year relationship and she's only 23. Looks like we'll keep in touch., she's apologised and been up front with me which makes a change compared to my previous long term relationships. We had the most amazing long cuddle and kiss before parting ways too. For me to even kiss someone on a first date is a thing in itself. I'm normally a traditional and caring guy so like to take things slow but I couldn't resist last night.
Oh well! I'm in no rush. She might look me up in a month or so but I doubt it. I hate it when girls tell me I will find someone very lucky to have me, who deserves me. I'm nothing special, just not your average bloke
BUT... right people wrong time
. I'm totally gutted becasue we both really like each other, chemistry to the moon and back. But I was her first an only date on PoF (she's come off now) and it turns out she's only been single a month from a 7 year relationship and she's only 23. Looks like we'll keep in touch., she's apologised and been up front with me which makes a change compared to my previous long term relationships. We had the most amazing long cuddle and kiss before parting ways too. For me to even kiss someone on a first date is a thing in itself. I'm normally a traditional and caring guy so like to take things slow but I couldn't resist last night.Oh well! I'm in no rush. She might look me up in a month or so but I doubt it. I hate it when girls tell me I will find someone very lucky to have me, who deserves me. I'm nothing special, just not your average bloke
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That's a shame Dup, but after only being single a month I wouldn't of continued anything serious with her anyway.
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We just didn't work out, ended up falling out quite a lot over silly things. Had some good times but I suppose I was still burnt over Amanda and it didn't help at all. Been single 5 months now. Put 2010 behind me as bad do and living up 2011 the best I can
How are you getting on these days? Tis been a while
Personally, if it's just from an initial chat I'd give it one more chance.
She may just be nervous about coming on to you too strong, especially if your messages have been very much of the 'have you had a nice day' variety so make it clear you want more than just a quick instant messenger chat.
If she's still then same when you give a bit more interest then jack it in before expending too much effort, but it's worth trying a bit more than a couple of messages.
I totally agree with the whole POF and single sentence answers thing. So many times that has happened. Most recently with this girl. Every time I sent her a message it would be single sentence replies, so I gave up in the end, she's just got nothing to say, one message I replied to her with after she asked me what bands I was into:
And she says:
So I reply:
And she says:
Riiiiigghht. No more messages for you idiot girl! :/
me said:
And she says:
So I reply:
me said:
And she says:
Riiiiigghht. No more messages for you idiot girl! :/
We just didn't work out, ended up falling out quite a lot over silly things. Had some good times but I suppose I was still burnt over Amanda and it didn't help at all. Been single 5 months now. Put 2010 behind me as bad do and living up 2011 the best I can
How are you getting on these days? Tis been a while
yea good mate, find reading this thread interesting
do you still miss amanda thenYep you are spot on, that's what i end up with but I went further once and actually got a phone number
. Talking on the phone with one liners is even worse, you ask questions that would give a lengthy reply but end up with " it was ok " or " not sure " , " don't know ".Dead Wood
Yep you are spot on, that's what i end up with but I went further once and actually got a phone number
Dead Wood
I wouldn't ring anyone unless there was some kind of spark.
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