Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Jono said:
Afraid not, not without music and certainly not with an audience... I'm getting there... it's just stupidly hard to me right now... And the music's not simple either.
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A friend of mine has been working on it for ages now, people don't understand how much hard work goes into learning a few minutes of music! That piece is at the top of my "to do" list once I acquire enough talent but I'm quite a way off managing something like that sadly. :D

Ah well, happy playing lots of Chopin and Schubert now anyway :p

Anyways, sorry for off topic ;)
 
Good effort with the Piano; Something I'd like to learn.

I know what you mean when you say you take up something for a particular reason, or song. I took up the guitar to play "Under the Bridge" by the Chilli's, but have never managed it, even though I can play enough to get me by. Never did wrap my head around that. I will one day though.

I know it's slightly off topic, but if you could learn something on an instrument (Piano, Guitar etc), what would it be? :)

I might pick up a keyboard and a set of drums and stick them in the spare room to learn.
 
hilly said:
I know it's slightly off topic, but if you could learn something on an instrument (Piano, Guitar etc), what would it be? :)
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I took it up to learn the Chopin Nocturne in E minor (Op.72 No.1) and played it a few weeks ago at an event that I organised for amateur players. The problem is that you think, "once I can play that, I'll be happy" - but you get to that point and discover that you've only just really started! :rolleyes:

I think my next goals are the Chopin Op9 No.1 Nocturne and the Liszt transcription of Schubert's Standchen (have been playing a more conventional transcription lately and that's not really presented any problems). I'd really like to do some Jazz but that's a completely different ballgame.

Something else I've been trying my hand at lately is accompanying; making music with other people (no double entendres ;)) is an amazing thing. Doing a few Schubert songs next month at a friend's place with a singer. :D

Can't recommend taking up an instrument enough tbh, it's life-enhancing and doesn't have to be a solitary pursuit. In fact - back on topic, it's a great way to meet lots of new like-minded people. Do iiiiiit! :)
 
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Cheers, still waiting for that elusive first response though :(. Messaged someone last night who looks and sounds perfect so with my optimism turned up to max i'm hopeful she'll reply!
 
One thing I will say about the replies thing, don't get disheartened.

I work with a girl who met her now husband on there, I kid you not this girl would go away for lunch and come back and have like 100 + messages. It was crazy there was no way in hell she could reply to them all. If memory serves me right she would look at the thumbnail of the person and the subject and if either appealed to her then she would view the message but that didn't mean she would reply. Honestly as the girl would clear one message/reply she would have 5 new ones kind of thing.
 
cHk4 said:
One thing I will say about the replies thing, don't get disheartened.

I work with a girl who met her now husband on there, I kid you not this girl would go away for lunch and come back and have like 100 + messages. It was crazy there was no way in hell she could reply to them all. If memory serves me right she would look at the thumbnail of the person and the subject and if either appealed to her then she would view the message but that didn't mean she would reply. Honestly as the girl would clear one message/reply she would have 5 new ones kind of thing.
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This.

I don't send many first emails and only get replies to half of them. A couple have made me think "Whats wrong with me" but generally women do get more emails than men so don't reply unless they're really interested.
 
PianoBasher said:
I took it up to learn the Chopin Nocturne in E minor (Op.72 No.1) and played it a few weeks ago at an event that I organised for amateur players. The problem is that you think, "once I can play that, I'll be happy" - but you get to that point and discover that you've only just really started! :rolleyes:

I think my next goals are the Chopin Op9 No.1 Nocturne and the Liszt transcription of Schubert's Standchen (have been playing a more conventional transcription lately and that's not really presented any problems). I'd really like to do some Jazz but that's a completely different ballgame.

Something else I've been trying my hand at lately is accompanying; making music with other people (no double entendres ;)) is an amazing thing. Doing a few Schubert songs next month at a friend's place with a singer. :D

Can't recommend taking up an instrument enough tbh, it's life-enhancing and doesn't have to be a solitary pursuit. In fact - back on topic, it's a great way to meet lots of new like-minded people. Do iiiiiit! :)
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Excellent, well done.

I took up the guitar as mentioned to learn Under the Brdige, Tears in Heaven (inspired by Gordy's playing on here actually), Everlong and Accoustic version of 'Times Like These' by the Foos. I've got them all down other than Under The Bridge, which just isn't happening, can't get the intro, though the chorus etc is fine.

I will take up a couple of instruments at some point. Really need to buy a new guitar too (eletric), I find that there's nothing better to reinvigorate your playing and want to practice by getting a new instrument / amp / pedal / whatever.
 
Nah i know its not going to be easy, especially with me having 3 kids. Single negatives like that are enough to turn 99% of people off on dating sites i think.
 
My main problem is being crap at sight reading unless I know how a piece is meant to sound in great detail. My old piano teacher could sight read anything you put in front of her and play it almost flawlessly first time. Either that or she'd memorised every piece of music ever written.

Internet dating sucks, but being being single is worse.
 
cHk4 said:
One thing I will say about the replies thing, don't get disheartened.

I work with a girl who met her now husband on there, I kid you not this girl would go away for lunch and come back and have like 100 + messages. It was crazy there was no way in hell she could reply to them all. If memory serves me right she would look at the thumbnail of the person and the subject and if either appealed to her then she would view the message but that didn't mean she would reply. Honestly as the girl would clear one message/reply she would have 5 new ones kind of thing.
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Can anyone explain why this happens?! It just seems so weirdly disproportionate that men would blanket email women on this site... the real world analogy would be seeing 100s of men mobbing 2 or 3 girls in a club! :eek:
 
nero120 said:
Can anyone explain why this happens?! It just seems so weirdly disproportionate that men would blanket email women on this site... the real world analogy would be seeing 100s of men mobbing 2 or 3 girls in a club! :eek:
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It's easy to spam! Copy past copy paste.

I get around 20 emails a day. Most are from women who haven't read my profile and have just gone on my pictures. Many of them say "Hey you look nice want to chat"

I'm sure I'm not the only person they've spammed while online.
 
Jono said:
My main problem is being crap at sight reading unless I know how a piece is meant to sound in great detail. My old piano teacher could sight read anything you put in front of her and play it almost flawlessly first time. Either that or she'd memorised every piece of music ever written.

Internet dating sucks, but being being single is worse.
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My sight reading is awful as well. My teacher deliberately gets me to start at random parts of a piece to scupper me... Saying that, I haven't been playing that long in the grand scheme of things so I suppose it's something that will come with time.

Have you thought of playing at festivals and the like? You can meet loads of new people that way who will have a common interest. Also, if your teacher arranges concerts you may meet some nice female students there. ;)

I think I'd just get frustrated with putting effort into writing all these messages on a dating site and getting no replies back so I'm sticking to just meeting people in RL and if something clicks, then great. :) The worst thing about being single is the amount of badgering you get from friends and family. Apart from that, I'm really not that bothered as I have loads of stuff to take up my time as it is. :D
 
I'm meeting a girl from PoF this coming week. I'd messaged her once before and never got a reply, but she kept popping up and she really appealed to me so I sent her another message saying how it was foolish of her to avoid destiny and that some higher power was trying to tell us something, and she replied saying it was the best message she'd had!

She added me to FB and we've been chatting on there, meeting for dinner this Fri hopefully. Well chuffed :)
 
I hate performing for an audience... I don't know why, it's not that I can't play ... I'm just very conscious of people listening to me, even if they're sat in another room in the house... wish I didn't find it so offputting.

Internet dating is amazing in that it offers so much more scope of finding the perfect partner - but they may be miles away, which sucks... But if you can't find anyone local, then... what else can you do. Plus I'm not into finding people in bars and clubs, because I don't want to be with someone who goes to bars and clubs to find people.
It's nice to be able to get to know a little about someone first, before you meet, and I've had some nice "dates" that were really relaxed and a great day out... It's no fun if both people don't feel the same at the end of the day, though. But I guess you can get that without the internet being involved at all.

I just hate being single, I really do. I love my own space, my own time, but I also love knowing that I'm with someone. I'm not a one night stand sort of person. Empty physical only relationships do nothing for me. I just want to find someone who I share some, not necessarily all, common interests with, who can make me laugh and vice versa. Someone who can be happy with who I am, not who I feel I need to pretend to be to impress them.
 
Big Chris said:
I'm meeting a girl from PoF this coming week. I'd messaged her once before and never got a reply, but she kept popping up and she really appealed to me so I sent her another message saying how it was foolish of her to avoid destiny and that some higher power was trying to tell us something, and she replied saying it was the best message she'd had!

She added me to FB and we've been chatting on there, meeting for dinner this Fri hopefully. Well chuffed :)
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Haha, nice one. Sound like my style.

I've seen a couple girls PoF inbox and it makes me feel ashamed to be male. So many Wayne Currs with no tact or talent for the English language. 4/5 words is about the most people send. It makes life for us genuine guys much harder.

I have had a lot of messages, but from younger people who aren't quite... well intellectual enough I suppose. Very full one liners. I do try and engage them as they might just be apprehensive but it doesn't go anywhere.

My main issue is that I'm banned from the roads and live in a rural area so can't get about. (long story, stupid mistake which stems from my previous relationship). I only have 6 weeks to wait though, so I can look further afield and hopefully meet someone to snuggle :)
 
Jono said:
I hate performing for an audience... I don't know why, it's not that I can't play ... I'm just very conscious of people listening to me, even if they're sat in another room in the house... wish I didn't find it so offputting.
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Me too, trying to get over it by playing for others as much as possible. Will give you a shout when I arrange the next London play day if you're interested (nice Steinway C and only those who play themselves attend so everyone is in the same boat and understands). :p

Jono said:
Plus I'm not into finding people in bars and clubs, because I don't want to be with someone who goes to bars and clubs to find people.
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Jono said:
I'm not a one night stand sort of person. Empty physical only relationships do nothing for me.
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Yep, I'm the same. Unfortunately you've picked what can potentially be one of the most solitary hobbies unless you are proactive in getting around it. ;)

Also, along the lines of SecretSpy's post, I'm in the same situation but from the opposite perspective - absolutely no plans for starting a family (nieces and nephews are enough for me!) and I don't want to be with someone for years and then go through the heartache of a split because they thought that maybe I'd change my mind about it.

My sister keeps harping on at me, "oh you'll change your mind soon", but she's been saying that for the last 10 years. If they came out at about 12 years old, I'd have loads, but the early years are too hellish for me to contemplate. :p

A friend of mine and his wife have been happily married for ages and never had kids - they both work, have several holidays a year, a nice house, still do all kinds of great fun stuff and are generally really happy people. I know that what does get on their nerves is other friends treating them with "pity" for not having children. :confused:
 
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