Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

CircleFaust · 31 Jul 2011 at 14:20

ugh, just had to call a girl there to say it wasn't going anywhere with us
she seemed pretty into me so it was hard to do. and i kind of liked her but it always seemed a chore having to call or meet her, that's not right is it? i have been single a while though so i wasn't sure if it was me in my single ways.
well tis over now anyway

it was the my first ever date on match so... does anyone find their perfect match first time!?
feel a whole lot better now though. can relax for a while

Zirax · 31 Jul 2011 at 14:36

Zirax said:
Well after a break I went back to PoF, changed the profile picture and I seem to be having some success Now got a couple interested with one wanting a date Saturday and the other chatting away. We shall see.

Well my first date wasn't going that great. Then I said the words "IT consultant"...... suddenly I had a chatty, flirty girl in the pub :rolleyes:

Next!

Wizardskills · 31 Jul 2011 at 14:48

Zirax said:
Well my first date wasn't going that great. Then I said the words "IT consultant"...... suddenly I had a chatty, flirty girl in the pub Next!

This really really annoys me as well. Was chatting to a girl on a night out and the subject of jobs came up. Is said I was a computer programmer, her eyes light up and she says "Ah that pays very well doesn't it!" :rolleyes:

. I just made my excuses and left.

Zirax · 31 Jul 2011 at 15:58

Wizardskills said:
This really really annoys me as well. Was chatting to a girl on a night out and the subject of jobs came up. Is said I was a computer programmer, her eyes light up and she says "Ah that pays very well doesn't it!" . I just made my excuses and left.

Pretty much near enough those words as well. I think next time I will be the office junior or something. I suppose a positive is that you can weed out the gold diggers pretty quick, still a waste of my time.

T00thBru5h · 31 Jul 2011 at 16:59

bainbridge said:
Just got in from a dinner date which was a disaster..

Out of interest, did you pay for the dinner or split it?

.Lethal · 31 Jul 2011 at 17:50

Ed said:
You should be honest with her and not waste her time either. Sounds like she's really into you.

She has confidence issues by the sounds of it, she didn't (from the sounds of things) didn't come out of her "shell" eaither.

CircleFaust · 31 Jul 2011 at 18:06

T00thBru5h said:
Out of interest, did you pay for the dinner or split it?

yeah whats the norm. i paid for pretty much everything when i was out, but some say it doesn't have to be like that

Broken Hope · 31 Jul 2011 at 18:25

Cruiser said:
yeah whats the norm. i paid for pretty much everything when i was out, but some say it doesn't have to be like that

A lot of guys like to, or at least tend to pay for everything on the first date, but really you can just decide things with the person you're on the date with surely?

bainbridge · 31 Jul 2011 at 18:33

Ed said:
You should be honest with her and not waste her time either. Sounds like she's really into you.

I didn't want to hurt her, the best I could come up with was "When we first met I wasn't sure, but you are such a nice person I wanted us to meet again, the connection still isn't there but I'm sure you'll find someone if you keep looking." Haven't heard from her since.

T00thBru5h said:
Out of interest, did you pay for the dinner or split it?

We both pulled out our payment cards together, I could tell she wasn't just going through the motions, she wanted to pay, but I insisted on paying as I knew I was going to be disappointing her.

Cruiser said:
yeah whats the norm. i paid for pretty much everything when i was out, but some say it doesn't have to be like that

I don't know what the etiquette actually is but I do like them to offer to split, then tend to insist on paying myself. Some girls do a slow faff about with their handbag to stall, if they do this I usually ask "how much does this work out to each?" & get them to pay half

bainbridge · 31 Jul 2011 at 18:42

Cruiser said:
ugh, just had to call a girl there to say it wasn't going anywhere with us
she seemed pretty into me so it was hard to do. and i kind of liked her but it always seemed a chore having to call or meet her, that's not right is it? i have been single a while though so i wasn't sure if it was me in my single ways.
well tis over now anyway

it was the my first ever date on match so... does anyone find their perfect match first time!?
feel a whole lot better now though. can relax for a while

I cancelled my Match.com subscription last night to stop the autorenewal in time, you actually have to ring a retention team to do so rather than just clicking cancel. I've got to hand it to Simon, he did his best to overcome my objections, suggested putting up more pics, sending more emails, even offered to do something with the price but as I'd already moved from 90% fed up with online dating to 99% my mind was made up & it's lapsing after only 1 mth.

A number of friends have knocked online dating on the head, 2 of them stuck with it for a couple of years & gave it a really concerted effort, however I've been in close communication with them throughout my 3 mths of online dating & have very. very nearly decided to save myself lots of wasted time & effort & ditch it sooner rather than later.

T00thBru5h · 31 Jul 2011 at 20:48

bainbridge said:
We both pulled out our payment cards together, I could tell she wasn't just going through the motions, she wanted to pay, but I insisted on paying as I knew I was going to be disappointing her.

Cool, was just wondering. I took my date on our second meeting to a restaurant and told her I was paying. She offered to go 50/50 but I declined.

I think I will give Speed Dating a go, looks like fun. Too many nuts on the internet and I just want to meet people and not go through the boring and time consuming motions of online chat.

bainbridge · 31 Jul 2011 at 21:10

T00thBru5h said:
I think I will give Speed Dating a go, looks like fun. Too many nuts on the internet and I just want to meet people and not go through the boring and time consuming motions of online chat.

Good idea, I looked into it but all the places near me that do it we fully booked.

MikeB · 31 Jul 2011 at 21:57

Just had first date, went well, slim, blonde, fairly attractive and a great laugh, next one should be interesting

SeraphX · 31 Jul 2011 at 22:01

seems i have a date lined up for lunch next saturday, she sent a message through match, i couldn't read it, outrageous subscription fees etc etc, tiny bit of googlefu and wahey, facebook, been talking for two days now, she seems nice, genuinely interested and lovely

T00thBru5h · 31 Jul 2011 at 22:41

bainbridge said:
Good idea, I looked into it but all the places near me that do it we fully booked.

London seems to have loads of options for Speed Dating. Have been trying to convince some friends to go but looks like I'm going solo :eek:

Average price is about £15/20, could be fun or terrible, I will report back...

DiscoDave · 31 Jul 2011 at 22:51

T00thBru5h said:
I think I will give Speed Dating a go, looks like fun. Too many nuts on the internet and I just want to meet people and not go through the boring and time consuming motions of online chat.

I'm off to a speed date event on the 15th, I'll post my views on here afterwards and I'm quite looking forward to it.

There's even a graduate professional's speed dating event here as well soon, that could be fun.

helpimcrap · 31 Jul 2011 at 22:58

MisChief said:
Well I guess that depends how good looking you are

this is SO true i've found on this! And women say men are shallow? lol

Unless you got big arms or are showing a six pack they often don't even bother doing anything.... they even say so in most of the profiles lol.

Neil79 · 1 Aug 2011 at 00:02

bainbridge said:
A number of friends have knocked online dating on the head, 2 of them stuck with it for a couple of years & gave it a really concerted effort, however I've been in close communication with them throughout my 3 mths of online dating & have very. very nearly decided to save myself lots of wasted time & effort & ditch it sooner rather than later.

Same feel like giving up soon

Sent - Read Deleted :mad:

Sent - few emails back and forth, lots of laughs - Person stays logged out message remains unread or just read :mad:

Sent - Unread

Date planned - Date gets cancelled the day before :mad:

Lots of messages in Inbox - Read with some excitement - Lots of overweight Women

Not sure if it's what i look like as it attracts a certain person, because my profile is too kind?, No idea!

Princey · 3 Aug 2011 at 18:17

Ladies,

How can I improve my POF profile. Nobody views or messages me

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=29958633

FeFiDoh · 3 Aug 2011 at 18:26

It is very frustrating but I assume women go about it in a much different way.

I expect most of them don't go around checking everone out like men do and making all the contact first, most of the women that seem normal, look good and unattatched no doubt get loads of messages.
Spend most of their time going through these replying to people they probably like the look of and igorning others.

Men do the chasing women sit back and take their pick