Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Sinny · 18 Oct 2011 at 15:43

PariaH said:
i dont think its was too hard trolling, lets not pretend that pof is jam packed with the best women on offer only, there is some gems on there, finding them in the sea of scary people can be the problem though, and hoping they arent too tired of receiving moronic messages before you send something nice is probably the next hurdle

As far as the people sending nice messages go, just remember not to overdo the nice guy message, i do myself think im one of these relatively pleasant types (the good guy type) , but its all too easy to end up sounding a bit desperate telling someone you have lots in common and have identical interests blah blah, so if i spot something i dont agree with i make a point of telling them in a cheeky way, i'm guessing most people here are relatively intelligent and women do like flirting!, it dosent have to be rude or too suggestive, but a bit of cheekyness does seem to go down well

And likewise i wouldn't expect or believe someone who sent me a purely complimentary message, im not looking for somone to agree on every interest, musical taste, or pastime, some common ground is good, but i dont want a clone

Mainly I was reffering to the "Scraping the barrel" comment, I have confidence issues, and find it extremely difficult talking to girls in the usual situations and often find myself regretting not doing something.

If I see someone I like Online, ask them out and go somewhere completely neutral and have a laugh and it's helped me a lot, probably to the point where I will go up to someone in a club and start chatting.

Plenty of gems on there, thing is though, you can't pretend you haven't seem a womble marching up to you in a club only to try and look for the exit sign.

cHk4 · 18 Oct 2011 at 15:48

secretspy said:
Just received this as a first message:

"Been looking at all the desperate lonely women on this site who are very boring like your self ALTHOUGH YOU ARE CUTE!! Wonder if your as good women on the outside as you are in you pics."

er...what? so he wants to find out if I'm as good in person as in the pics so he choices to insult me first?

There was a girl at work everyday she would get 100 + messages.
Anyway most would get read/deleted apart from one... She ended up having a conversation with and nearly ended up going out on a date with... It started with something similar to the above and he was insulting her without being nasty about it. Was funny to read the messages.

CircleFaust · 18 Oct 2011 at 15:48

ninjabib said:
I am very picky, i've only messaged about 8 girls so far and no joy. Is POF the worst site then?

I'm on Ok Cujpid and Match.com too but between those 2 sites there are only 3 girls i'd do and i don't want to pay to message 3 girls tops!!

you need to grow a bit of a thick skin with match. i'm on it and only got a few replies to start with. i think the basic rule i go by is, for every 10 email you send, 1 will be yes, 1 will respond with a no, and 8 won't respond at all.

CliffyG · 18 Oct 2011 at 15:54

I've got myself a lovely girlfriend now who is far better than any i've seen online where i failed miserably. Certainly didn't work for me.

silversurfer · 18 Oct 2011 at 16:18

cHk4 said:
There was a girl at work everyday she would get 100 + messages.
Anyway most would get read/deleted apart from one... She ended up having a conversation with and nearly ended up going out on a date with... It started with something similar to the above and he was insulting her without being nasty about it. Was funny to read the messages.

'Im better then you but Im willing to give you a chance I guess'

Reverse psychology, women love mind games ?

secretspy · 18 Oct 2011 at 18:28

silversurfer said:
'Im better then you but Im willing to give you a chance I guess'

Reverse psychology, women love mind games ?

*ahem* some women love mind games. I don't

I didn't bother replying to the guy. It's obvious that's what he wants but I'm not going to give him the satisfaction

Colasanto · 18 Oct 2011 at 18:33

As I've said previously, I use and still use some sites. I hardly log in though, POF really is terrible at the best of times, though.

Brumboy · 18 Oct 2011 at 20:46

Are there any other sites which are free like POF?

Colasanto · 19 Oct 2011 at 03:09

E-Harmony look good, filled in loads of info just on registration. But wow, the membership fees are through the roof! £76 a quarter just for the basic package

Sinny · 20 Oct 2011 at 00:35

Feeling a bit horrible at the minute.

I've been on 2 dates with a really nice girl from Manchester, however, she's asked me to her birthday night out with her friends (who I assume are all female) in 2 weeks, now she lives in Manchester, I live in Chester.. and ever since Monday it's been playing on my mind that the distance really is too big.

£15 train ticket could start to really mount up along with the money to do something when I get there, I'm not exactly made out of money at the minute and consequently I'm turning down offers from friends to go to the pub or whatever.

Even when I get a car it'll be quite a long drive that now I've thought about it I really don't want to make, 1hour 30 minutes each way depending on the traffic.. I don't think I can do that.

I was messaged by her on monday to go to the Cinema, I've not text back yet, I would like to go, but only as friends.

I know I'm going to have to make a decision soon that I don't want to make but I really can't see how it's going to work.

after this, I think I'm going to stop online dating, I don't think it's working for me to be honest, I was going to close my account before I was messaged but now it's made me realise that I shouldn't really look, rather just let it happen.

Here's to a boring Christmas.. :mad:

theNude · 20 Oct 2011 at 01:08

I think I need to start being harsher, I get about 6 new girls message me a day, takes so long to reply to them all. its putting me off just from the effort!!

Sinny · 20 Oct 2011 at 01:16

theDude said:
I think I need to start being harsher, I get about 6 new girls message me a day, takes so long to reply to them all. its putting me off just from the effort!!

Your name is quite apt, though I would like to see if they are Hotties or Notties :cool:

FragnaticDeath · 20 Oct 2011 at 02:28

Online dating never! just doesn't happen for me too hard! When it happens it will, don't chase it let it come to you instead

Fens · 20 Oct 2011 at 06:48

TommyV said:
Are there any success stories here?

I signed up once, it was full of whales who were arrogant as you'd not believe. Closed up shop shortly after, lack of effort on my behalf no doubt, though.

My first attempt at online dating was a bit of a failure, went on a few rubbish dates from Match and POF then gave up. I didn't really put much effort in and it showed.

Second time round was much more successfull, I tried some different sites, went on some fun dates and eventually met a lovely girl on OK Cupid about a year ago. I have been with her since and she is moving in with me next month, so I guess I would call that a sucess story!

Fens · 20 Oct 2011 at 06:51

Rossuk89 said:
Are there any other sites which are free like POF?

Try OkCupid, the important stuff like messaging people is free on there and they have a handy android app.

Voltage · 20 Oct 2011 at 11:59

Keep the faith people, Internet Dating can work, i met a wonderful women 5 years ago online, and last month we got married

Like most things in life, its the luck of the draw, there are some good ones

RichIbizaSport · 20 Oct 2011 at 12:45

Voltage said:
Keep the faith people, Internet Dating can work, i met a wonderful women 5 years ago online, and last month we got married

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Like most things in life, its the luck of the draw, there are some good ones :D[/QUOTE]

Attractive people actually use online dating?! mind=blown.

PariaH · 20 Oct 2011 at 21:38

had an awkward date on wednesday, tricked by the classic myspace-esque photos (i thought id mastered rejecting those profiles already

) , from now on i think im going to self regulate further that 3 photos are a minimum and 1 must be pretty much head on or showing part of a body at least.. she looked so nice, well spoken, and intelligent, on paper, but if i didnt have to knock on her door i would have have driven off pretty sharpish when it came outside, not as advertised!!, i can understand people want to look at their best on a profile but some are close to false advertising

Still with my lack of effort and boring conversation, it was mutual

Fuzz · 20 Oct 2011 at 21:41

You think you have problems, my heifer has asked me out on a third date this Saturday.

secretspy · 20 Oct 2011 at 21:47

I have a date with someone on Sunday who seems much more keen than the last guy. Also have someone else wanting a date next week