Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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I'm sure if you posted a link to your profile the good people of this thread can give you some advice to help get you in the game. Sometimes a couple of small tweaks can make a difference.
 
territt said:
Split up with the gf of 7 years just over a month ago so thought I would give Plenty of Fish a go, but no messages so far :-(
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Are you sending out messages yourself or just sitting & waiting for some woman to think your the dogs & come calling ?
Sort your search criteria out to suit yourself then Spam as many as you can find that you fancy. I've been doing it years & it's rare for the woman to make first contact, It happens of course it does but you're better off just spamming your way to a couple of weeks worth of dates & going from there.
Also keep it light hearted, It's s'posed to be fun so just enjoy yourself, the chase the dates the banter & hopefully the poonami.
 
TehBluebear said:
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=25421237

Critisim please? Will be taking some mirror shots (oh the horror), at the weekend after session with the hedge trimmers to sort my hair.
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Lose the shoe on your head photo, do not talk about computers or games, do not use abbreviations like PITA, try and tone down thr talk about metal and your favorite bands as 99% of girls on POF hate metal and generally try and reduce the wall of text a little because most girls will give up.

Sorry for being honest mate, that's the harsh reality of POF - girls are extremely hard to please and are generally put off by geeky computer related things.

BUT you may be trying to interest somebody with the same style and interests as you so its a vicious circle.
 
territt said:
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=27651983
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First line doesn't make much sense and you have used 'cinema to catch a movie' twice in your description.

Don't talk about computers or anything geeky related, girls hate it and 99% of them on POF will be put off i assure you.

Also do you have any photos with you smiling, as to be honest you seem miserable in all of them lol.

Don't take any of this personally, this is what the dating thread is for....i'm sure other's will leave their comments and together we can all improve profiles.
 
Gypo said:
Lose the shoe on your head photo, do not talk about computers or games, do not use abbreviations like PITA, try and tone down thr talk about metal and your favorite bands as 99% of girls on POF hate metal and generally try and reduce the wall of text a little because most girls will give up.

Sorry for being honest mate, that's the harsh reality of POF - girls are extremely hard to please and are generally put off by geeky computer related things.

BUT you may be trying to interest somebody with the same style and interests as you so its a vicious circle.
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Theres no point getting him to remove his interest in heavy metal. If he wants to meet someone who he will actually get along with - the idea is to be truthful and not hide bits of yourself.

I have put that I like metal and gaming on my profile and I get plenty of people messaging me.

Be honest and open - and you will find someone you get along with. Hide the fact that you like heavy metal and you will waste your time meeting someone who will find that out later anyway.
 
4T5 said:
First thing every single woman will say is "Smile" God damn it. :p


Also "Recently single" is Graveyard stuff :eek:

Re write it all & just talk about yourself & what you like doing & would like to do.
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Well ive added some other pictures but i dont really have any of me smiling in them :-s

Working on rewriting this now but no idea what to put :-(
 
RoachycaL said:
Theres no point getting him to remove his interest in heavy metal. If he wants to meet someone who he will actually get along with - the idea is to be truthful and not hide bits of yourself.

I have put that I like metal and gaming on my profile and I get plenty of people messaging me.

Be honest and open - and you will find someone you get along with. Hide the fact that you like heavy metal and you will waste your time meeting someone who will find that out later anyway.
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Hence my last line - he may well be trying to interest somebody who likes similiar things.
 
My pof summary:

Chatted to maybe 60 odd girls

I've met like 15 girls over the course of about 7 months.

I met 7 of the girls more than once, 2 became just friends, 4 fizzled out/didn't find attractive after all and 1 I dated for 3 months before things went a bit mental.

Out of them all, 2 were what i'd consider girlfriend material!

I have found that most of the girls seem to be looking for 'the perfect' man and have some weird ideas about relationships. I think that because they are looking for a relationship or someone they are just never satisfied, also I seems to be me a lot of the girls just love dating and don't want to give it up even when you have a 'spark' or what have you.

I am giving up on POF, I get plenty of messages and conversation building up but not one of them seem to be in it for the long run or to make something of it.

Will let you know how my exploits go on in real life haha!
 
so I've exchanged messages with 2 women, asked about stuff on there profile etc as suggested, but i'm not that keen tbh.

Now I've just received a "How are you" from a girl who looks just my type, look at her profile and its dead of info to be frank, other than she does childcare.

I know I cant just message back "I'm fine thanks", would it be wrong of me to start by telling her a funny thing that happened to me today. and then maybe coming in with a random question. and what type of random question.

God i'm useless haha
 
I had a Doris contact me today who I used to mmm Interview who wants me to visit her again. Laugh of it is I used to be clean shaven and have cropped hair back then but now I have long unkempt shaggy hair a Mexican style moustachio and 2 front teeth missing. :p
I wonder if I get as far as the mmm interview this time :D < that is Not me :p
 
4T5 said:
I had a Doris contact me today who I used to mmm Interview who wants me to visit her again. Laugh of it is I used to be clean shaven and have cropped hair back then but now I have long unkempt shaggy hair a Mexican style moustachio and 2 front teeth missing. :p
I wonder if I get as far as the mmm interview this time :D < that is Not me :p
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I have the same look, I'll just have to never take my denture out until i can afford to have implants.
 
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Yeah, ideally would love to find a lass who had similar musical interests. What's the point if you can't enjoy gigs etc together with your Doris? Will have a tidy up of the profile anyway, as I've been out of uni for 6 months already.

Also, big question here: Do I be completely truthful and put down that I am deaf (wear hearing aids)? Or leave it off? May decrease my chances of someone contacting me (well, even more than it is now :p), but on the other hand, don't want them to get into a state when everything is going swimmingly until we meet... Could be awkward.
 
So I've been messaging this girl, seems really nice, seem to get on too, and have similar interests.

I was just wondering is there a right time to ask for a date. I don't want to seem too pushy, or not interested.

I've never dated somone whom I didn't already know. All my previous GF's were my friends before we went out, so I've never had to go through the whole dating ritual.

Was just curios how things work.
 
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Jamesy P said:
A few weeks I would have thought, get texting n **** first.
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Seriously?

I generally ask to meet up for coffee or something within the first few messages, I don't see the point in exchanging messages for ages online. It's far too easy to build attraction online and both parties end up deluding themselves. Plus, you'll have nothing to talk about.

Sgt_Pepper, just send a normal message and put something on the end like "I think we should meet up for a coffee sometime, are you free ....... to continue our conversation in person?"

I'll admit that I've had one or two women blank me after asking this, but I just move on. Quite a few girls seem nervous to meet up in person, so you need to play it off as a natural thing. I don't have time for time wasters though. Most girls agree and we settle a date, others say they want to message for a bit longer first. If they say the latter, we exchange a couple more messages or switch to IM or something, and then I'll suggest meeting again.
 
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TehBluebear said:
Also, big question here: Do I be completely truthful and put down that I am deaf (wear hearing aids)? Or leave it off? May decrease my chances of someone contacting me (well, even more than it is now :p), but on the other hand, don't want them to get into a state when everything is going swimmingly until we meet... Could be awkward.
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I'm profoundly deaf (although I don't wear hearing aids) so I can probably help you here.

Yes. Mention it. It's better to be honest upfront, and if someone doesn't want to date you because of it, then you probably wouldn't be compatible anyway. One thing though - play it off as a positive thing. Can you lipread? Maybe mention how useful that is. If you sign, make a joke about using it to communicate in private and offer to teach the prospective girl a few signs. If none of the above apply, just put something about how it's helped you to appreciate your other senses and makes you work harder to achieve goals in life. Women go crazy for that.

The above also applies if you have another disability, or even a bad habit that you are trying to shake. If you are talking about something negative, you can put a spin on it and turn it into something positive. Example: "I'm quite a messy person, but that's because I have a habit of collecting lots of quirky things from my travels, and no matter how much I shout at them, they just won't organise themselves!"

You get the idea.
 
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