Join the club, make me feel better?

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we need a pic OP so we can give you some pointers. i'm 31, single and love it though i have had a little more success with girls than your stats.

i mean, statistically, you've never kissed a girl but you've never kissed a man either ..... you could bat for the other side!


only joking, not about the pic though
 
Zefan said:
Do you like the person you are?
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Well I don't want to be ungrateful. I wasn't born with any physical or mental defects. The problems I have are probably of my own making.

But I really don't like where I am. Loneliness is a hard feeling to shake, as is worthlessness.
 
Until you feel happy and confident about who you are and portray this image to the outside world how can you possibly expect others to treat or accept you, remember most of our communication is non-verbal.

Treat and think about yourself exactly how you want to be treated by others.

Clearly easier said than done.
 
I felt like you did for 6 months, but you just have to mentally slap yourself in the face, and do something that will build your confidence.

Join a gym or something.
 
Doohickey said:
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Ok so have you ever been close to anyone? At work, socially, friend of a friend? It all needs to start somewhere, and if you're not exposing yourself (giggedy) in circumstances where you could potentially interact and develop a bond with someone then I think this is where you need to start! In turn this will boost your self esteem etc by default.
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No, never been close to anyone.

I don't give myself a chance, because I can't talk to people face-to-face. I'm so focused on myself, what I'm saying, how I'm doing it all wrong, that after a minute of two of (extremely awkward) babble, I have nothing left to say. And what I've already said has probably given the wrong impression anyhow.

Seriously, there are times when I want to say something nice, and it comes out sarcastic, or gets mis-interpreted, or my body language is wrong or whatever.

It's my curse. Whilst I can type this and get my message across, my delivery in person is so bad it's routine that I'll come away from a conversation wondering how the hell it went so wrong.
 
1) Go to local nightlife area
2) Buy a kebab and wait in the cab queue like you have just come out of one of the clubs
3) ????
4) PROFIT

Just try it ;) Knee deep in hungry clunge
 
If you want to change yourself to find someone, do it.
If you are overweight get in the gym.
If you have long disgusting hair, get a good haircut.
Try to meet new people, anywhere you can.
Maybe take up some new hobbies or something so you have lots to potentially talk about.
Good luck
 
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