Join the club, make me feel better?
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OP, presumably you have a job?
Even if you don't - find some sort of social circle, shoehorn yourself in if you must, go out drinking with them, wait six months, and some sort of regrettable mischief will have happened.
Then carry on like everyone else
Even if you don't - find some sort of social circle, shoehorn yourself in if you must, go out drinking with them, wait six months, and some sort of regrettable mischief will have happened.
Then carry on like everyone else
Makes a change from all the pimps here on OcUK.
Yeah if nothing else this thread should make everyone else feel better
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You must have been approached by girls ...maybe at work, like what happens in the 40 year old virgin with the customer?
What do you do in situations when you have to communicate with a girl you like?
Also, seriously, what are you going to do about it? No more jokes about hanging out in the pc gaming forum. You very well know that isn't going to help. What do YOU think you need to do to change?
What do you do in situations when you have to communicate with a girl you like?
Also, seriously, what are you going to do about it? No more jokes about hanging out in the pc gaming forum. You very well know that isn't going to help. What do YOU think you need to do to change?
Soldato
I think this is something you could work on easing up on. Ok so if face-to-face is difficult, how about online? Do you have female friends on msn/facebook/whatever? Chatting behind the screen of the internet is invariably easier, and it sounds like a pretty nerdy way of going about it, but if you can get yourself across well in messages (which you do), then it really doesn't have to be such a big step to carrying yourself the same way in person. Just need to be less self conscious.
Everything. Absolutely everything. It's a daunting, over-whelming, mountainous task.
How do you re-invent yourself and make it stick?
Caporegime
So you have friends...
Talk to women, randomers as if you would like you were with them. Not like open up to them about x & y, but just be yourself. You got friends who obviously like you, you'll find some one who will like you if you just be yourself.
Caporegime
Have you tried asking a friend for a go on his missus? Say its a medical need
Mumsnet has some good advice for relationships and things ACTUALLY. Like women trying to get back into the social circle after having a baby etc.
But yes I be trolling
Mumsnet has some good advice for relationships and things ACTUALLY. Like women trying to get back into the social circle after having a baby etc.
But yes I be trolling
i'm sure you're a decent person and by 're-inventing' yourself, you run the risk of isolating long term friends, maybe even family. just stick to being yourself, trying to be anything else will only result in you tripping yourself up. you'll meet the right person, what's the rush?
Caporegime
Don't change who you are, simply change what you do!
Soldato
you ever thought about a hooker?
Soldato
You can't reinvent who you are, but you need to come out of your comfort zone and do things you normally wouldn't do.
Someone suggested the free website plentyoffish there is a massive thread here on OcUK about online dating with all sorts of dating tips/problems and (to an extent) solutions.
Try setting up a profile and only write about yourself in a positive way.
People will mock you here for sure, diversity and all that; but some will try and offer help and advice as well.
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