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there needs to be a bit of 'light hearted banter' in threads like these elst the OP runs the risk of taking the situation too seriously' it's not a serious situation at all, people take different paths in life when it comes to meeting people. some people are lucky and it happens quickly, some people it takes a little longer, the key is to have fun along the way, no matter what the scenario and not fret over it.
it could be worse, you could have met a right munter and got her pregnant when you were 21 and thrown the best years of your life away and be worrying about divorce, child contact, housing etc
 
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Everything. Absolutely everything. It's a daunting, over-whelming, mountainous task.

How do you re-invent yourself and make it stick?
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Not as mountainous as you think. You will have qualities that a girl will like. You are making yourself feel depressed by saying you're a bag of poo. Which won't be true! To start boosting your confidence, name at least 3 positive qualities that you currently have. Funny? A good listener? Creative? Problem solver?
 
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In all seriousness you just need to get your 'firsts' out of the way and **** them up like everyone else does!

First kiss, first girlfriend, first bumping uglies...

It's not as extreme as your case but an old mate of mine was about 23 I think before he did pretty much anything with a girl. He's a good looking lad, and now he's found his feet they're pretty much all over him, just for whatever reasons (shyness, bad luck, realising it hadn't happened yet and making it worse) it didn't happen until then.

Once you get over the hump, as it were, you'll be absolutely fine. You're not a freak, you're not mentally ill, it just hasn't happened yet. Yes it's unusual but there's no point you'll reach where it will never happen.

Get rid of this as an obstacle in your mind. It's nothing.
 
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P_I_C_S!!!
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Do you really think you're helping a guy who feels like **** by trying to make him post a picture of himself so you can cure your curiosity of what someone in this situation looks like? Let him do it in his own time if he wishes, he's already had quite a few requests.
 
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I'll consider the request for pics. I have a blonde half-fro at the mo, keep meaning to get a decent haircut but putting it off :p Hair grows so darned fast...

Also wear glasses and they don't really compliment my appearance, just make me look creepier :p
 
the reason you need a pic is basically we can guide you to where might succeed.

if you good looking its obviously going to be easier but if you troll like in appearance then the strategy needs to be a lot better.
 
If you have any charismatic work colleagues or friends, maybe you could go out with them and just make mental notes of how they interact with other people. Listen to the things they say when introducing themselves etc and try and pick up some tips for yourself.

It sounds like you're over thinking things, whereas ideally you want to be the complete opposite, they're strangers they wont remember you forever so if you do make a tit of yourself just dust yourself off and keep trying :)

Alternitavely "does this smell like chlorophorm to you?" is quite successful. 60% of the time, it works, EVERY TIME.
 
A few to try

Grab ya coat luv, you've pulled.
Hi, You'll do.
Fancy a shag?

My Personal Favorite

'The names Bond'
What James Bond?
'No Uni-Bond, I'm here to fill your crack'
 
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