Just had the worst phone call of my life

My mother was discharged earlier this year after the 5 year all clear since being successfully treated for bowel cancer.

I remember the telephone call when she told me.

It's not a foregone conclusion so be strong for her. Wishing you all well.
 
^TANK^ said:
I feel like such a **** every time I talk to my mum via phone or to her face I just break down in tears, I just cant control myself :(. I have never been like this even as a child.
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One of the joys and pains of being an adult and understanding the full gravity of life.

All the very best, really hope everything goes well for you.
 
^TANK^ said:
One thing ever so slightly scarier than the fact my mum has cancer is how calm she is, especially her humour.
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My grandad died a couple of months ago and we went to see him at the hospital and apart from the visible signs he was ill, you wouldn't have known he had anything wrong. He was having banter with the nurses and taking the mick out of some bloke who supported West Ham. He died the day after that.

My dad died 2 years ago with throat cancer at the age of 48. His cancer had only been caught after a number of years of it growing. My dad went for a scan to check on what we thought was a problematic wisdom tooth and a month or so after that we gets a phone call from the hospital. Mum went to the hospital with my nan and was just told there was nothing they could do.

They [rest of family] took the decision, based on the fact it was terminal with no hope not to tell my dad, which in hindsight made it harder to deal with on my part. I found myself not knowing what to talk about every time I saw him, despite the fact that as far as I know, he didn't even know he had cancer. He died 6 months after we found out he had terminal cancer, but that was at least 2 to 3 years after it had initially started.

If there's much they can do for your mum then there is hope for you still. All you can do is be positive because its inevitable there will be ups and downs. Its good they caught it early which gives them much more options than having no options whatsoever. There's plenty of help out there to if you need it. I personally was able to cope, but my mum has had some support from Macmillan etc, its there if you need it.
 
Sorry to hear this buddy.

Unfortunately I received a phonecall from my dad's cancer nurse a few months back, so I know the feeling you get.

I'm sure she will be 100% fine and fingers crossed!
 
Thank you all for the comforting comments and for those in a similar boat to me my thoughts are with you also. I have lost three grandparents to cancer before, one to lung cancer and two to breast cancer.
 
sorry to hear that Tank :( As others have said at least it has been caught early. Best wishes to you and your family. I hope your mum makes a full recovery. You know where I am if you ever fancy a chat/rant
*hugs*
 
It looks like my mum is going to have a tracheostomy tube fitted in her throat as she can't keep anything down, also its very painful for her to swallow anything.
 
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