Longest wait?
- Thread starter Psy-Blade
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You sir have no face.
If they did invite you over. I would not go, do you know how awkward that would be.
An offer like that is not meant to be taken up.
You have pride don't let them treat you like this.
Balls, she had you delete the number so you won't bother her sister with any pish...
Balls... The mother/sister care more for their daughter/sister's happiness so will do anything to safeguard this even if they tart it up to make you think its a good thing for you also
Balls... What better way to help her daughter feel better about crapping on someone if the person that was crapped on doesn't "hate" her daughter. She may "talk it through with you"
but thats for her daughter's benefit, not yours
I used to think the same about my ex's Mum as you do about your gf's Mum, in that she was a mediator, would fight both our corners and do what was best for both of us.
I was a mug. Don't fall foul of the same trap. Blood is most definitely thicker than water and you will never come close to having the relationship or level of trust that she has with her Mum.
So you have a break, she comes back to you but things will never be the same as before and how do you know she wont want another "break" in a few months/years time? If she doesn't come back then you've wasted a month sitting around and waiting for her to make a decision that will affect both your lives. It doesn't sound very fair or very promising to me.
I was a mug. Don't fall foul of the same trap. Blood is most definitely thicker than water and you will never come close to having the relationship or level of trust that she has with her Mum.
So you have a break, she comes back to you but things will never be the same as before and how do you know she wont want another "break" in a few months/years time? If she doesn't come back then you've wasted a month sitting around and waiting for her to make a decision that will affect both your lives. It doesn't sound very fair or very promising to me.
Sounds unusual, that's for sure!
To be honest, sounds like you're at the end of a honeymoon period. Whether she's going to wish to carry it on past said period (the honeymoon period lasts between 18 months and 3 years, based on hormones), depends on what she feels she wants and needs to work on right now.
I suspect it might be all over pet, sorry
If she was wanting to settle down and move in together - that'd be a next-step thing which tends to bring new life into a relationship if it's strong enough to weather the end of the honeymoon.
BUT as she appears to be a busy workaholic with her own place and her own life - working at a relationship (which you do have to do, once the butterflies and novelty are gone) doesn't appear likely to be one of her priorities.
Good luck though. Whichever way it goes, it's for the best. There's no way you can drag someone back to you in situations like this - only accept that this time, it wasn't for keeps.
Thanks for taking the time to read the thread and post. I enjoy the silly comments but the serious ones help
. To be honest there is no way I'll convince her to leave her house mates and move in with me. She is living a period of my life I went through 2 years earlier. I was out all the time, partying hard and spending less and less time with her. I didn't want to move in with her then. Now we've just reversed roles. It'll either end, or we can take it easier so she can enjoy that age and time in her life I think.
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Even if we broke up, I wouldn't do much in that month anyway. I'm not going to go out and sleep with anyone I can find.
She probably will.... Always some bloke around when a girl wants rebound sex
I'm not suggesting you do but go out and live your life. Don't wait around to find out if it's over because it sounds like it probably already is. I really feel for you but at the same time I see little point in filling you full of crap about how it could all be ok.
No you just sit there waiting for this "date" and her decision on how much she needs to hurt you.
How old are you by the way?
No offence Minxy.. but you have bigger balls than this op. Are women really attracted to someone who is so helpless?
Maybe that's why she doesn't know if she can continue? You sound so helpless and weak it's wrong.
Most women I know like a man who can stand up for himself (which you really ain't)
How old are you by the way?
No offence Minxy.. but you have bigger balls than this op. Are women really attracted to someone who is so helpless?
Maybe that's why she doesn't know if she can continue? You sound so helpless and weak it's wrong.
Most women I know like a man who can stand up for himself (which you really ain't)
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If I wanted to be filled full of crap I'd go out with one of my female friends and talk. I'm not going to bum around for a month. I'm off out tonight with the lads, pub, club and probably strip club. I'm just saying I wouldn't and probably ouldnt' get with anyone else in that month. So why not let her take the time to think about it.
http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18189153
If this is the girl then I think you should call it quits. Sounds a bit like an adolescent who wants to try new things etc. Sounds like you need to be with someone more on your wavelength and maturity.
Edit: Your issues have been going on for a while by the sounds of it.
If this is the girl then I think you should call it quits. Sounds a bit like an adolescent who wants to try new things etc. Sounds like you need to be with someone more on your wavelength and maturity.
Edit: Your issues have been going on for a while by the sounds of it.
Yep, that's the one SS-89. That's blown over. She decided of her own accord that she didn't want to try anything. She has suffered from depression and didn't want the coming down experience.
Edit in response to your edit: 6 months or so, on and off. To be honest its getting long winded BUT when we see each other we have an awesome time. Every time.
Listen forget her, live your life as per normal. Go out with your mates, enjoy yourself.
Post pictures of your excitement on facebook. I bet she will be the one to phone you asking how you are and if you want to meet up and have a drink etc.
If you show weakness mate to her, and act all clingy she will most definitely end it if she hasn't already in a get the hint message(break).
Also you keep going on about how her mum is an angel. Behind closed doors you don't know what she and her mum talking about you.
Me personally if I was told "break", I would agree and never contact or respond ever again.
This is probably the best conclusion any of you guys has come to... But can it be done after 5 years of knowing each other so well?
Trust me, she does know mate, she is just trying to soften the blow.
I think only you really know the answer to that. I personally wouldn't stay friends with an ex even if it was amicable. I have plenty of other people in my life that I can count on and I just think the complications that could arise in a new relationship with having an ex as a best friend aren't really worth it (for me at least).