My first thread for relationship advice... :/

Swifty55 · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:03

pingwing said:
*starts drumming* dun dun dun dun dun dun dun
whum whum whummmm, whum whum whummm, whummm whum whum, whummm whuum whuum...
WHITE MAN CAME, ACROSS THE SEA, HE BOUGHT US PAIN, AND MISERY, HE KILLED OUR TRIBE, HE KILLED OUR CREED, HE TOOK OUR GAME, FOR HIS OWN NEED, WE FAUGHT HIM HARD, WE FAUGHT HIM WELL, OUT OON THE PLAINS, WE GAVE HIM HELL, WHEN IT BECAME TOO MUCH FOR CREED, WILL WE EVER BE SET FREE....

Lol...

Madamoiselle · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:05

The hills, they're calling.

I know a few guys who've been in similar situations and they eventually just become the father of child number 2, 3, 4 or 5 and wished they'd have got out of it before it got really messy. Do yourself a favour and bow out as gracefully as you can.

[FnG]magnolia · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:05

Sever and then head on over to this thread to read the advice given

Xordium · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:06

[FnG]magnolia;24461269 said:
Sever and then head on over to this thread to read the advice given

Oh, I thought better of you than to partake there.

Feef · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:07

Have to agree with the above, though I did come in here after reading the thread title and assumed it was a thread about your first relationship. Re-read the title after a few lines of the story, as I figured that even by ocuk standards, this would be a fairly intense "my first girlfriend" story.

Rroff · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:08

How well do you really know her?

I have a friend who sounds similiar, she chased a certain type (has children with more than one of them) and was blind to the fact they weren't good for her, finally wised up and in what seems to be a stable long term relationship with a different type.

Generally tho I'm pretty cynical and would be like run for the hills.

[FnG]magnolia · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:08

Xordium said:
Oh, I thought better of you than to partake there.

Nope, I'm pretty awful! (this is less cleverly worded than I wanted it to be)

Xordium · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:08

[FnG]magnolia;24461281 said:
Nope, I'm pretty awful!

Well that's something I suppose

Swifty55 · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:10

Rroff said:
How well do you really know her?

How well do you really know anyone? :/

arc@css · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:11

It's unlikely to get better, so get out now. Good luck.

Swifty55 · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:14

arc@css said:
It's unlikely to get better, so get out now. Good luck.

Thanks.

[FnG]magnolia · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:16

Swifty55 said:
Thanks.

What are you going to do?

Rroff · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:17

Swifty55 said:
How well do you really know anyone? :/

Think my post came off a bit differently to how I meant it. Not sure I can really explain it concisely.

On a different note sounds like her options are a bit limited without coming off as a bad person herself.

Danthus · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:17

Stay with her and post another thread in six months time.

Pestilence · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:19

Like a ghost once said when I walked into his mansion:

"GET OOOUUUUUUUTTTTT!"

shadow_boxer · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:22

Damn. Get the hell out of there bud! Track record isn't good though you'd have to admit, 2 kids with 2 guys...

In all seriousness, what ever you decide to do I hope it works out.

davestar_delux · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:22

I find the replies pretty harsh to be honest. If you like her and want to be with her, stick with her.

You don't like the current situation, tell her to man up and the ex to bolt.

I hardly imagine the inhabitants of this forum would like to be written off as damaged goods.

Swifty55 · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:24

shadow_boxer said:
Damn. Get the hell out of there bud! Track record isn't good though you'd have to admit, 2 kids with 2 guys...

In all seriousness, what ever you decide to do I hope it works out.

It's not like she had one night stands.

She was with her first one for 4 years and the 2nd for around 2 years. She hadn't been with anyone else for over a year until me.

Danthus · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:26

Swifty55 said:
It's not like she had one night stands.

She was with her first one for 4 years and the 2nd for around 2 years. She hadn't been with anyone else for over a year until me.

Ah that big river in Egypt.

You are now going through the finding reason to stay with her stage.

A2Z · 15 Jun 2013 at 23:28

Is she older than you? If yea how much?

My ex was a bit older than me and had a 7 year old daughter...and I know exactly what you mean about being annoyed at not being able to spend some one on one time with her.

One thing I came to realise was, they will always love the kid(s) the most in life and put them first, ahead of any new boyfriend.

Anyway I would get out while you can!