I think I'd prefer the rear spoiler if it wasn't body coloured and didn't have the bits in the middle. The GT350R spoiler is so much nicer.
The rear does look better overall though with the diffuser and quad exhaust. Active exhausts should be good, especially if they take in the feedback that people don't like how 'quiet' the current stock exhaust is.
Agreed, I would just paint it gloss black!
I am thinking Ingot Silver, every option including 10-speed and then go with black roof, black mirrors, paint big rear spoiler black and fit same front splitter as I have now. Go with forged dark silver wheels (darker than paint work).