News on Wife (reason for being away for a day)

There's nothing I can add that hasn't already been said, my thoughts are with you.

Paola was truly blessed to have you by her side.
 
Thank you everyone, I am still in shock,

Lets pretend that didn't happen until my brain is working

I am alternating between crying, loss and oh %^£ i'm $%^^'ed

Sorry ranting.

You people have been wonderful.
 
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I think the first step will be to contact the credit card companies and speak to them about a reduced payment plan. I'm sure they'll help given the circumstances.

Only other option would be to declare bankruptcy? How much could you recoup from the electronics/tablets etc that you have as seems to be quite a bit which is no longer need (i know that sounds much more harsh than it should!)
 
Marvt74 said:
I think the first step will be to contact the credit card companies and speak to them about a reduced payment plan. I'm sure they'll help given the circumstances.

Only other option would be to declare bankruptcy? How much could you recoup from the electronics/tablets etc that you have as seems to be quite a bit which is no longer need (i know that sounds much more harsh than it should!)
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I am going to call them all but not today I thought bankruptcy was a business thing.
 
Calranthe said:
I am going to call them all but not today I thought bankruptcy was a business thing.
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Whilst you mind is probably is thinking it's the most important thing to worry about (and trying to keep itself busy), sorting debts and the informing credit card companies of your wife's death can wait.

You need to look after yourself at the minute - make sure you eat, look after your dogs, and try and do some normal things. Even though deep down you may have been expecting this, it's still going to be a shock, and it will still take time to sink in.

Can the hospital put you in touch with a bereavement counselor/advisor etc? They will likely be able to assist with dealing with bills etc, as well as looking after your wellbeing in the short-term.
 
Armageus said:
Whilst you mind is probably is thinking it's the most important thing to worry about (and trying to keep itself busy), sorting debts and the informing credit card companies of your wife's death can wait.

You need to look after yourself at the minute - make sure you eat, look after your dogs, and try and do some normal things. Even though deep down you may have been expecting this, it's still going to be a shock, and it will still take time to sink in.

Can the hospital put you in touch with a bereavement counselor/advisor etc? They will likely be able to assist with dealing with bills etc, as well as looking after your wellbeing in the short-term.
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you are right thank you.
 
Calranthe said:
And I will be totally fruit looped within a month.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. But now you need to take control of yourself. You've been up against a constant moving battle for the past few years and coped very well with it by all accounts. You now need to take control of your own personal situation and adapt those same coping strategies to your new challenges.

You're more than capable of meeting them head on. There are great resources and support out there.
 
Wow Calranthe, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. Never has anyone managed to jerk a tear from my cold heartless soul in all my years but seeing this excruciatingly sad but somewhat inevitable end to what has been one of the most inspirational stories I have ever witnessed has managed it. I can’t even begin to imagine what you must be going through. I honestly, sincerely wish you all the best and hope that despite this tragic loss you manage to find love and happiness again. If you need a chat drop me a message, I’m here 24/7.
 
Marvt74 said:
Presumably because if you have savings over 6k you don't get benefits (or at least much reduced benefits)
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I’m well aware of that, I can’t help thinking the OP in his current - understandable- state needs to step away from the keyboard before he potentially publicly drops himself in it!


Now is not the time for him to be worrying about money.
 
Give yourself time to get over the initial shock of whats just happened if you can.

When you are ready, if the hospital doesn't put you in touch with a bereavement advisor or councillor I'd recommend going to see your local citizens advice, they tend to know their stuff and will be able to advise on what you're entitled to, maybe things you're unaware of. Speak to your creditors and ask about a repayment break while you deal with stuff, under the circumstances they should be able to help with that. If not they may take token payments instead.

Then I highly recommend speaking with step change debt charity, they will go through all your income and expenditure and formulate payment plans you can afford. It might not be easy but it does help.
 
I'm sorry for your loss. I've been reading your threads but have not participated or posted.

I don't know what to say really.

Look after yourself, seek advice, get the hospital to put you in contact with a bereavement councillor.
 
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