News on Wife (reason for being away for a day)

Where are you located if you don't mind me asking? I'm always up for going places so if you ever need a chat or something to do if your not too far buddy,

also I want to greatly thank you for sharing this with us all. I believe this thread has actually changed the way i think and view my life and I can't thank you enough for that.

I doubt I am the only one here who feels the same either.
 
Condolences @Calranthe. You really were a soldier - as has been said many times, you cant possibly understand the situation if you haven't been there.
It is heartbreaking to read and I brought it up with my wife yesterday, I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Having been with my nan as she passed (held her hand and talked, felt her go cold:() It does get better with time.
Surround yourself with positive memories and do your best to get back to nomality - whatever that is for you.
I don't know where you are but along with others here I would like to offer time to meet if you are near Beds.

I also want to genuinely thank you for sharing this. It does put things into perspective and I definitely think that writing a book would be an awesome reflection of your time with her.

This community isn't going anywhere so you have us to count on.
Wish you all the best buddy.
 
I cleaned the lounge/bedroom called the stair lift company to fetch the stair lift, made an appointment for myself to see the Doctor, contacted mediquip to come fetch the bed an disabled persons items. at we are going to the hospital soon I want to say thank you to the people on the ward and all those that treated her.
 
Hope there’s someone looking out for you in all this Calranthe.
I’ve recently lost my dad and I’m not fit for purpose, couldn’t imagine going through it alone.

Look after yourself :(
 
I feel guilty for not keeping up-to-date with this.

My sincerest condolences for your loss Calranthe.

Remember to look after yourself and talk to those around you, even if it's a bunch of nerds on a forums :p
 
Sat in a cafe waiting for a college and trying to fight back the tears reading this, I'm so sorry for your loss Calranthe - it sounds like you've both been through hell over the last few years but remained incredibly pragmatic, level headed and loving throughout it all.

Take care of yourself and please let us, as a community and individuals, know if theres anything we can do to help.
 
@Calranthe Thank you for sharing exactly what happened yesterday, it was a tough read but you can tell again that you both love each other very much. From everything you've written she sounds like a wonderful person and I find myself regretting I didn't get the opportunity to know her.

I've lost people close to me over the years, not under the same circumstances but for example my dad had long term heart problems, we lived under the shadow of it possibly happening at any time but when it did it still came as a complete shock, the suddenness and finality of it is abhorrent.

I wouldn't wish what you're going through on my worst enemy. My Dad passed away 15 years ago this month and its still hard sometimes but I promise it does get easier, try and find some way of letting your emotions out though, I bottled everything up trying to be strong for everyone else and it almost destroyed my life. Just do it on your own terms, theres no rule book on how someone should grieve

My fiancées family live about 30mins from Stoke on trent, in the new year once my mobility has improved if you'd like to meet up for a coffee or a bite to eat or anything. I'm more than happy to come hang out for a bit.

Keep posting on here if and when you feel up to it, we may be a bunch of strangers on the internet but we are here for you mate.
 
Yes I would love that, I promised Paola that I wouldn't close myself off.
I went back to the ward today, wanted to thank all the people involved, it was hard to be there but I needed those amazing people to know how much we both appreciated what they did.

Hardest part was walking the halls of a hospital I had walked for 20 years with Paola.
 
I'd been reading your posts over the last few weeks but never knew how to reply and everybody else seemed to do a better job at getting my message across, Calranthe. I'm so sorry for your loss and that Paola and yourself had to go through what you have all these years. Life is just not fair. I myself have CML and being treated with Imatinib, but in comparison to Paola it feels as though I may as well just be dealing with a common cold.

Surround yourself with people and stay strong.
 
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I'm so sorry for your loss Calranthe. I have been checking the thread every day while on my first Nurse placement and was hoping for the best. My offer is always open and you have my email address.
 
Paola has taught me a very important lesson and that is to fight for every last sunrise, to grab on tooth and nail to everything that really matters to you and have as much fun as possible along the way.
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These are some of the wisest words I have ever seen said on this forum. If there's anything you ever need from any of us and if it's any we can do for you, just shout. Some of us are also local.
 
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