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Tantrums at two are down to bad diet and/or sleeping habits. 
Watch the sugar intake and keep well away from artificial sweeteners.
We have a 10 year old just turned this week and we have never ever had a tantrum from her ever, the odd strop maybe but nothing embarrassing.
Best advice is.............
Make sure they get enough sleep and at the same time every night. (it will change with age but make sure they getting 12+ hours min at aged two.)
Read all the ingredients of food you giving your child.
Water and milk is the main drink, fizzy pop or juice is a just treat.
Kids just need basics, good kip, good food and a little attention.
Parenting is not hard you just need to pay attention.
Watch the sugar intake and keep well away from artificial sweeteners.
We have a 10 year old just turned this week and we have never ever had a tantrum from her ever, the odd strop maybe but nothing embarrassing.
Best advice is.............
Make sure they get enough sleep and at the same time every night. (it will change with age but make sure they getting 12+ hours min at aged two.)
Read all the ingredients of food you giving your child.
Water and milk is the main drink, fizzy pop or juice is a just treat.
Kids just need basics, good kip, good food and a little attention.
Parenting is not hard you just need to pay attention.
Main things / priorities for me at the moment is fresh meat, or frozen breaded if i don't have time. Fresh veg, either steamed or roasted, mashed potato (Not Sweet - Goes straight through for some reason!) Good breakfast cereal low in sugar followed by toast or scrambled eggs. Trying to get them eating as healthy as possible. Have been told that diet is the key to happy kids so working with that right now.
^^^This is true.
We made all our daughters food from scratch after the SMA.
Butter nut squash, carrots etc the was loads of stuff we fed our daughter after the bottle and none of it was processed.
We used to cook and freeze, when needed we used to defrost in hot water.
The first 12 to 18 months are the most important, you screw that up then you in for a hell of a life.
A good diet and sleep pattern are the most important thing you can provide for any young child.
It works trust me.
I've fallen out with family who continuously force feed our kids sugar and crap. If I leave them with them I find out they've been basically forced to drink fizzy drinks, eat sweets or food that's just basically sugar and carbohydrates and then packed off with even more sweets as they leave.
I'm seen as the ogre when I complain.
Don't whatever you do associate sugar with reward.
I'm seen as the ogre when I complain.
Don't whatever you do associate sugar with reward.
Loads of sleep suits, loads of nappies, loads of baby wipes and a moses basket. We made a changing station out of a chest of draws (nappies, clothes and wipes in the draws, changing mat on top) and it has been very useful.
Other than that, the only thing we found handy was a feeding pillow (like a giant version of those ones you put around your neck on an airplane). I got crazy bad shoulder pain from holding my daughter for those long feeds at first, so it was a godsend to be able to rest her on something and free up a hand. Anything that prepares a feed quickly is worth the money (if you aren't going the boob route).
By the time the first month rolls around you'll be a pro and know what you need and don't need so just plan for the first few weeks.
PS: cook up some meals to freeze or buy some frozen stuff for the first week back. Coming home from hospital and having to cook is not a fun activity.
handiest thing that we bought was the perfect prep machine, that thing was a god send. Seems to hold its value as well, we bought for 60 and sold it on last week for 40, will happily just buy again come the next one
I couldn't agree more with this, it seems like a waste of money but that 1st middle of the night feed you do with it and the milk is just there ready with no waiting around, you will wonder how you managed before with waiting for the kettle.
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I totally disagree here, weve got a monitor that does video and its uslful to see whats going on, i.e. daughter might be crying a bit but if laid down no problem, if shes sat up then she needs comforting. Also she sometimes migrates to her rocking chair while half asleep so its useful to have. I would see if you can get one that operates at 5GHz tho as ours gets interferance from our laptop at 2.4. Also breastfeeding imho is easier (from my male point of view) as no need to worry about sterilising anything, altho i realise not everyone wants/can do this route.
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Sounds exactly like ours...she just turned 2.5 and think we have found the solution...a new big girl bed!
We transitioned little one into a cot bed around a similar age but was still not sleeping through and in the end just gave up and let her sleep in with us. Been looking around for beds and in the end purchased a silent night kids divan.
Think we have had the bed for around 2 weeks now, the results: 100% success of drifting off and sleeping all the way through till around 4.30am before I go get her. Last night she slept all the way through till 5.45am this morning.
Maybe worth a try? With bed guards she should be ok?
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Im sure my daughters been in a single bed since she was 2. We have a ritual of watching cbeebies til 6.45/7ish then upstairs to brush teeth them my wife reads a few books to her (my daughter only lets me read if my wife is out lol shes very stubborn
). I would say shes fallen out of bed maybe 3 times since we upgraded her from a cotbed. Top tip use a mattress for the first few weeks at the side as it gives them something soft to land on.
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Congratulations!
On the bright side, if you kept clothes and toys then if it is another boy then you won't need to buy too much.
We kept all of our first sons clothes and toys (he's only 2 so hardly kept them for long) and so when our second son came along then he already had pretty much everything he needed.
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i like this thread idea as my other half is due to pop on the 11th October
only gadget i have purchased is the BT Baby monitor 300
only gadget i have purchased is the BT Baby monitor 300
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Thank you
Our first is 18 months and we kept all the best stuff, the second will be pretty much cost free, just some pink stuff if a girl.
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Hi,
As stated:
2012 How many paternity cases were contested?
CSA: 3,000 (note it is 3,000+)
How many of the above were false (paternity fraud)
CSA: 17.5% (note: On further research (as this is my third FOI) there are potentially tens of thousands more who I) have no idea and II) cannot afford one of the CSA approved providers (others may include children born overseas where a claim is made or at the time of this test who's mothers choose not to comply). Projection going forwards is certain around 5-10% are claiming for non biological children to the "father"
2013:
2750 tests and 16.8% paternity fraud
59,900 mothers are non resident, 56,600 were in arrears and those paying averaged £19.33/wk
1,200,800 fathers are non resident, 1,085,300 are in arrears and those paying averaged £35.43 per week
All committals were male relating to non-payment.
13 homes were successfully sold where another child was confirmed as loving in the property (thus making them homeless).
Older FOI:
2012/2011 in some cases:
27,300/55,900 mothers paid £0.00 (50%)
344,200/1,010,410 fathers paid £0.00 (35%)
From little bits of digging I've done it seems that now: Fathers pay more per week and mothers pay less.
Its mot dead beat dads we should be all focussed on, but statistically mums are the least likely to pay and pay the least and be afforded (so far) immunity from all prosecution.
I have 3 requests, all show fathers are the only ones sent to prison and the only ones who have their homes sold.
Sorry its been a while, but told you id find it for you
Hi,
As stated:
2012 How many paternity cases were contested?
CSA: 3,000 (note it is 3,000+)
How many of the above were false (paternity fraud)
CSA: 17.5% (note: On further research (as this is my third FOI) there are potentially tens of thousands more who I) have no idea and II) cannot afford one of the CSA approved providers (others may include children born overseas where a claim is made or at the time of this test who's mothers choose not to comply). Projection going forwards is certain around 5-10% are claiming for non biological children to the "father"
2013:
2750 tests and 16.8% paternity fraud
59,900 mothers are non resident, 56,600 were in arrears and those paying averaged £19.33/wk
1,200,800 fathers are non resident, 1,085,300 are in arrears and those paying averaged £35.43 per week
All committals were male relating to non-payment.
13 homes were successfully sold where another child was confirmed as loving in the property (thus making them homeless).
Older FOI:
2012/2011 in some cases:
27,300/55,900 mothers paid £0.00 (50%)
344,200/1,010,410 fathers paid £0.00 (35%)
From little bits of digging I've done it seems that now: Fathers pay more per week and mothers pay less.
Its mot dead beat dads we should be all focussed on, but statistically mums are the least likely to pay and pay the least and be afforded (so far) immunity from all prosecution.
I have 3 requests, all show fathers are the only ones sent to prison and the only ones who have their homes sold.
Sorry its been a while, but told you id find it for you
Don't worry, my two girls did the same, albeit with their bums in the air, and they had no issues and still sleep the same to this day
I have had this problem with my mum and family.
She looks after her sometimes and fills her with pure ****.
I have had arguments about it with her and said don't do this don't do that.
She said "Stop being a grouch she just a kid it never done you any harm"
I am not sure what it is with old people and sugar, but I have been called out a few times and told it wont do her any harm by family.
I just say "NO! she is having her tea in an hour and she not eating cake now.
Give me a piece of cake and she can have it after tea, I don't care who's birthday it is."
Don't worry, my two girls did the same, albeit with their bums in the air, and they had no issues and still sleep the same to this day
Haha, alright that's good to hear. Ours isn't a fan of lying on her stomach yet. She just gets that way before she remembers that fact.
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Don't worry, my two girls did the same, albeit with their bums in the air, and they had no issues and still sleep the same to this day
I remember those days, looking at them sleeping thinking how can that possibly be comfy
. Obviously my daughter not yoursOur son went through that phase. Kept rolling over and then remembering that he didn't like being on his tummy. Constantly rolling him over got old quickly.
And then he decided that he did like being on his tummy and has slept that way ever since.
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Mine sleeps on his tummy. Knees pulled in pretty much like faetal position. Very rarely on his bed though as he grabs his duvet and pillow and big soft toys an just sleeps anywhere on the floor.
Once I went up to toilet and checked on him and he took his matress off and was sleeping on the slats onthe bed No pillow or anything just hard, wooden slats.
As long as he is asleep and to him/her, comfey then who are we to moan about his/her position lol
Once I went up to toilet and checked on him and he took his matress off and was sleeping on the slats onthe bed No pillow or anything just hard, wooden slats.
As long as he is asleep and to him/her, comfey then who are we to moan about his/her position lol